Why Would She Say This???
Filed under: Salma Hayek
In the new issue of Glamour, Salma Hayek, mom of the adorable new tot Valentina confesses that she wanted a boy.
Salami explains that she was 'afraid'.
"I think women suffer more a bit more than boys, and there is always conflict between mother and daughters…But now that she's here, I'm so happy she's a girl," says Hayek.
She goes on to say that she 'can't imagine' having any conflicts with her baby girl because she's in a 'state of innocence' and loves everything her little one does.
Why would you put that energy out there???
Little V might read that when she's all grown up!
[Image via WENN.]
Posted: March 5, 2008 at 2:20 pm
cow =(
she wanted a boy. Just say that. SHe will have conflicts. that's what happens when they get mouthy.
crazy…she is just like my mom…crazy
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firstttt I LOVE U PEREZ!
i hate salma
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I don't think she meant that in a bad way!
Usually when a woman her age has a baby they're just relieved and grateful that the baby is born healthy. Worrying about what sex it is and that you wanted something else seems superficial and shallow. At least she's happy now with the result.
What's wrong with it??? It's a lot better than calling your newborn daughter a blob, like your stupid Angelina. She's speaking the truth about the anxieties of bringing a female into a world where females are brutalized, exploited, etc. She's not saying she doesn't want her baby. God, you really will do anything to stir the pot.
she wanted a boy. She wanted a boy. She got a girl. THat poor thing. Little bastard girl. Rich little angel.
It doesn't seem that bad what she said??
She should just be glad it's healthy!!!
OIC.
Yeah, but what she said is true.
The world is a lot tougher of a place out their for a girl than for a guy.
Not to mention woman and girls alike are in a lot more physical danger than guys as well.
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thats how hispanic woman are. my mother told me the same thing
Sounds like sooommmmeone doesn't have good relationship with their mother at all….her initials are Selma Hayak. What a bizarre take on life.
Omg that's fucked up 1#
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there is nothing wrong with her saying that… it's honest. There's no "bad energy" and Salma is probably the kind of mother who will have the kind of relationship with her daughter that would make it so she could talk to her about her comments when she got older.
Perez, you having never been a mother or a daughter, and aren't in a place to pass judgement. What do you know about it?
There is a unique bond between mothers and daughters
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When you're pregnant, all sorts of things run through your head. That doesn't mean that any of the fears are founded. She's simply speaking with candor, and you should think nothing of this non-issue.
She didn't say anything terrible. Seems like she was just being honest and if If my mother had said that and I read it when I was older I woudn't be hurt at all.
Bitches.
There is only conflict if you create or allow it!
Does anyone really care? No.
I'm hungover.
MAMACITA WANT A BIG TUBE STEAK IN THAT MOUTH? A LITTLE CREAMY CREAM GO A LONG WAY ON THAT TOSTADA. BAM!
yes boys are hard
but congats on the lil girl
It's not a big deal. She seems surprised and delighted with her girl.
maybe she is speaking of her own experiences with her mother. I get what she is saying! Perez, you took it out of context. But I get what your saying, but that's not what she meant!
There's nothing wrong with what she said. Every parent prefers one thing and gets another and still loves the kid the same. She's just being honest and that will never be an issue for the kid even if she grew up to read that.
BLAH who cares. you're really digging for news.
Boy, you are really reaching today. WTF does this matter? It must be a slow celeb gossip day with the crap you are coming up with. What she said is actually a pretty sweet statement. You're a real idiot sometimes.
I totally get what she's saying - it's scary times to have kids - I have a teen daughter and worry about her future security. It's normal for new moms to have such tho'ts anyways - once that baby comes, you have control over so much and that's it. Look at Salma tho - my god she's gorgeous!
You're fishing for news. Pathetic.
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wooww, i want a girl so bad
She didn't say ANYTHING WRONG!!! WTF? She had concerns thats all. Stop hating!
OH YEAH 1st bitches
There is nothing wrong with her comment… Your not a women Perez… we have a different view point on the world and are a bit emotional and over protective of our babies… we just want whats best for them.. and we do tend to be a little more afraid for our little girls.
that's not SO bad…plus she's somehow involved in that town in mexico that has that huge raping problem…like a lot of grls go missing there and no one asks what happened to them…i can't remember…maybe that was on her mind or something
Maybe she will get lucky and she's a Butch!!
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SHE'S JUST BEING HONEST. I ACTUALLY AGREE WITH HER, IVE ALWAYS FELT THAT AWAY ABOUT HAVING A GIRL. I LOVE LITTLE GIRLS, DONT GET ME WRONG, I JUST KNOW THAT BEING A FEMALE, GROWING UP I HAVE BEEN A PAIN IN MY MOMS ASS, EVEN THOUGH THINGS ARE GREAT WITH US NOW, US GIRLS ARE BITCHES AND WE ARE HARD TO DEAL WITH.LOL. BUT REGARDLESS, UR ALWAYS GONNA LOVE UR KIDS YA KNOW?
It's completely understandable and I can totally relate to her comments. My first was a boy and when pregnant with my second, hoped for another boy. I feared the tension mothers and daughters so often experience, as well as other concerns. Once my daughter was born I realized how lucky I am to have one of each and I am determined to have a great relationship with my daughter, recognizing it may have its bumps along the way. She was honest and said what any mother goes through when anticipating the arrival of a child. It is normal to think through the implications of either scenario…that's all you do for the entire gestation!
love her she is gorgeous and leave her alone
crazy betch
boom chick a wan wan
I said the same thing, for the same reasons when I was pregnant. She's being truthful. I had a beautiful little girl and would not change a thing, but I know exactly how she feels. I even told my daughter that, when we were talking about pregnancy. She understands and it doesn't bother her a bit. She knows she is loved and wanted.
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oh shut up Perez! women feel that way alot. when I found out I was having a son, I cried the entire weekend because I wanted a girl so badly. Now that he is here, I am so incredibly in love with him and I am glad God blessed me with a son. Women are hormonal when pregnant and sometimes you can be disappointed if you have your heart set on one sex. But once the baby gets here, all that crap goes out the door and you are so incredibly in love with your baby, no matter what the sex. Give her a break. Tell you what, when you get pregnant, then you'll have a voice to speak about this issue. Until then, shut your damn mouth! Sheesh!
what? She is right… From the ages of 14 - 18 my mother and i were hated each other and fought constantly… and most girls i know went through the same thing during those years…
the reason why she is saying this is partly because she is a female latina… read up on the "maria syndrome" and you'll understand why latina women feel that way at times.
unbelievable. Even when people have everything its still not enough.
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I have to agree with her… I have 2 boys, would love a girl, but am also terrified of having one. Frankly, teenage girls still scare me.
yeah, it sucks when people are honest.
i just flashed back to perez as the hysterical mrs. flanders from the simpsons (won't somebody please think of the children?)
wHAT'S THE BIG DEAL. I FELT THE SAME ABOUT MY DAUGHTER. I DIDN'T WANT HER TO SUFFER THE DOUBLE STANDARD THAT WOMEN SUFFER. IT ONLY SHOWS THAT SHE LOVES HER CHILD AND DOESN'T WANT TO SEE HER HURT.
it's sad, but you're not a woman so that's why you don't understand.
I have a son and he adores me. I would have had 5 boys, but I only have the one. My cousin's daughter mouths off too much, so I agree.
oh get over it. all women think that. what she speaks of is more often true that when you're pregnant with a girl. the pregnancy is more likely to be more difficult than with a boy. and besides, a strong woman like herself often clash and butt heads with their daughters. that's just how nature works. she's right.
Makes perfect sense to me… Chauvinism is alive and well, and fabulous Ms. Hayek at least acknowleges how much more difficult a woman's life is than a man's. I'm so thankful my son's not a girl… he can earn $1 for every dollar's worth of work (unlike women.) Nobody will try to sew his vagina closed, it's unlikely he'll be violently raped by a stranger, all jobs are open to him… I get what she's saying. I'm shocked, Perez, that someone as liberal and relatively politically well-informed would make such an ignorant statement. Oh, I forgot, you're a gossipy fag. Well, there you are.
i understand where is is coming from, i thought the same things when i had my daughter (i didnt know what i was having until the second she was born). my mother and i dont get along to this day, and my daughter is only 7 and fights with me constantly, its not easy! obviously Salma knows this too, maybe she's been through it herself.
i think almost every pregnant women goes through that. i only wanted boys because i thought that it would be easier for me to raise a boy rather than a girl. it's lame i know, but i was pregnant at the time, hormones made me loopie. anyway, i have 2 girls now and i couldn't imagine life without them!!
It isn't bad. It is true most of the time mothers and daughters have conflict esp in the teen years…. I have 2 toddlers and I worry about that one day. I will do my best to prevent it… but please 2 teenagers girls… ahhh…. not something I am looking forward too. She didn't mean it that way you are taking it. It sounded totally normal.
very freudian of her hahaha
I applaud her. Men will never know what it is like to experience pregnancy or post partum depression. Just about every mother out there, or every pregnant woman, has these kind of issues, many are much, much worse and even dangerous. This is normal behavior. I had the same conflict when I found out I was having a boy. Now that he is here, I could not imagine anything different, I wouldn't trade him for the world. It doesn't matter how much money or power you have. Everyone has a difficult time when it comes to being a mother. There are so mnay issues that women are afraid to say because of the criticism they get from peopel and web sites. I applaud Brooke Shields as well, for standing up for what she believes, in, for writing her book, for getting PPD out there to the public, for getting peoples' attention, and I applaud Selma for being NORMAL and for showing TRUE feelings, that all mothers feel, whether or not it's gender disappointment, PPD, fear of being a bad mother… it's all relavant, celebrity or not.
This is actually a common thought; many women can't help but prefer one sex over another while pregnant. But come your little angel's arrival, those thoughts disappear (as Selma said) and you can't imagine it any other way. She didn't say anything wrong, she was just sharing part of herself.
its not a big deal so she wanted a boy, she got a girl instead, but the important part is she loves her little girl period…
you ding dong, perez! everyone has wierd anxieties about having kids….it's ok to be honest about it. no big deal.
Is not bad energy its just that women have it toughter than men . if i had a bay by I would prefer a boy too. there is too much abuse toward little girls , unfortunately.
I think what she meant to say is "if you have a boy you have to worry about only one prick, if you have a girl, you every to worry about every prick in the world"
She's absolutely correct and truthful in what she's said. It's a whole lot tougher to be a woman than it is to be a man in this world.
WHAT'S THE BIG DEAL. I FELT THE SAME ABOUT MY DAUGHTER. I DIDN'T WANT HER TO SUFFER THE DOUBLE STANDARD THAT WOMEN SUFFER. IT ONLY SHOWS THAT SHE LOVES HER CHILD AND DOESN'T WANT TO SEE HER HURT. NOT NEWS WORTHY AT ALL.
I felt the same way.
"Why would you put that energy out there???"
What does that even mean?
What is the big deal?
Re: Lola – LOL I have to remember that one.
Emotions, feelings are messy. Salma just revealed to you one of her imperfections. Makes her more human I think.
Salma we got your back girl!!
Get over it, it's true that Mom's have a different relationship with their sons. Not better, but different. We understand all the crap girls are going to fling our way.
God Perez FINALLY when a celebrity says something not TOTALLY fake and expected you diss them for it?
Emotions, feelings are messy. Salma just revealed to you one of her imperfections. Makes her more human I think. She so pretty.
Get real, Perez!! Stop being SOOOO sensitive! What she said was like a million other people have said before her. I knew that my Dad wanted a boy and he got me! I wasn't harmed in ANY way and he loves me more than life itself!! She was just being honest!! You can't HOUND every comment EVERYONE makes. Not all of us are whiny little queens like you!!! I wish I would have had a girl and I got 2 AMAZING boys and I am NOT even trying for a GIRL, now!!! Things change…people change!! Grow up!!
A lot of people who belong in a minority ethnic group prefer boys to girls. This goes back hundreds of generations. The son is seen as the one who will grow up and bring the money home to his parents. Women are married off to someone else's family.
Why do you always have to JUDGE???
You know, Perez, that's kinda lame. Is that all you've got? You are not a parent last time I checked. When I found out I was pregnant I prayed to every deity imaginable for a boy. Know why? Because my mother was a complete bitch. Still is. I had a terrible relationship with her because she was jealous of the closeness my father and I had that her paranoia and craziness couldn't circumvent. Regardless, just like Ms. Hayek, I would not have cast aside a beautiful little girl. But I remember in the OR, the doctor pulled my child out and I muttered, "Is it a boy?" to which the doctor said, "Yes, and he's the size of a three month old" (ended up being 11 pounds lol), and that was all I needed. When I look back on it now it DOES seem shallow but my reason behind it was valid. Being a parent has strengthened my confidence in myself as a woman and as a parent, so now I would have no problem with a little girl. Because Denis Leary was right about PB&Js in the VCR. I'm the happy mom of a demonic little boy ^_^
There's no problem here. My husband wanted a girl cause he was afraid to raise a boy, he had all sisters, an artist and hates football, scouts etc etc etc. We had a boy. its perfect. We were wrong, We were suppose to have a boy after all. Coolest kid in the universe. Also, cultures are different, when Salma grew up where boys more important? The joke for us, with all boys in both families, mom's desperate for fingernail polish and sparkles. lol
Well you don't understand cause your not a parent. And I hope that you never will be. She is being honest about her feelings. Being a women is more challenging and we face different challenges that men do not. Stop pointing out stupid things that don't make sense to just you… Fucken idot
Because she's right - life is much more of a struggle for women than it is for men. It's not that she doesn't want a girl - it's just that life for her child would be easier if it was a boy.
Because she's right - life is much more of a struggle for women than it is for men. It's not that she doesn't want a girl - it's just that life for her child would be easier if it was a boy.
Agreed. Me and my mother have issues and we discuss certain things such as had she born a daughter or what it's like raising girls, but a mother to confess she'd rather have a son than a daughter to the press just puts out bad vibes down the road. And she should know, she's hispanic and hispanics always grow up with some influences of the mysticism, whether it be simple miracles via Christ and religion, to the full-blown heebee jeebees danke to chicken bones.
Well, if you read this statement its quite obvious she means no harm in her comments!
She concludes: "I just feel so fortunate to be her mother, and it makes me excited about the rest of my life, because I will get to witness her transformation every day."
I know how she feels, it was my nightmare…but i have 3 boys…and don't have to worry anymore hahaha
when my second child was born (a girl) we didn't know the sex until that day. and you know what? i felt exactly like salma. i was terrified of having a girl because of the mother daughter relationship. of course i'm happy i had a girl, but we are having the mother daughter issues i dreaded. but, i do know that when she reaches a certain age, she will understand and realize i'm not as stupid as she once thought. because i know the same is true for my mother. mothers and daughters have complex, complicated, beautiful relationships. good for salma for being honest!
i think it is harder to raise a girl- especially thinking about the battle over hoochie/whore clothes that are out there…thanks miley cyrus
When I was preggers I wanted a boy as well but I have my beautiful girl and I wouldn't change that for the world. Ppl always think that girls want girls and guys want boys but htat is not always the case. And there is nothing wrong with hopping for either a boy or a girl.
Nice tits, huh, did she say something?
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you're a moron.
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its a common fear.
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enjoy your stupidity jackass.
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I totally know where she's coming from. I was afraid to have a daughter because of my relationship with my mother. Didn't want to repeat that. I wanted a boy. I thought a boy would be easier. Once I learned I was having a girl, I immediately got over it. Now my daughter is an amazing girl and we have a wonderful relationship (so far). Salma was just being honest.
I DON'T THINK THERE'S ANYTHING WRONG WITH WHAT SHE SAID! IT'S TOTALLY TRUE. MY MOM IS CRAZY I CAN BARELY STAND HER!
Im really sorry Perez, but a 30 year old male is in no position to be an expert on what daughter mother relationship is like!
Selma is 100% with reason for having concerns about the relationship with her daughter, particularly when she grows up. Adolescence can be a nightmare and I broke my own mothers heart quite a few times, something I'm not proud of. Ask the girls out there and I think a lot will agree that being catty with their mammas is not so strange when young!!!
Cheers to you! …kisses and love!