A Worthwhile Cause
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CLICK HERE to read up on and donate to a very worthwhile cause.
CLICK HERE to read up on and donate to a very worthwhile cause.
Posted: June 26, 2008 at 10:42 am
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Why do only white women get depressed after having a baby. We Mexican pop them out one after another and never have a problem.. except for the stretch marks!
Here we go again…………………………..I bet you dont give to any of these, Do you Perez??
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Re: Audre –
Mexicans DO pop them out one after another and we the tax payers pay for them!!!
perez-your site gets me through the work day! i worked with jenny and i am SO thankful you put her story and cause on your site! thank you!
no thank you. But I'm gld you're not asking for money to support the DNC…….YET.
retarded… if all you want to do is drive the screaming kid off a cliff after you give birth to it, then don't have one in the first place.
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Re: Audre –
MAYBE THAT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE DEAD INSIDE…
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Re: Audre –
MAYBE THAT'S BECAUSE YOU'RE DEAD INSIDE…(AND STUPID)
(NOT MEXICANS,YOU)
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Everyone please read Jenny's story and pass it along to others because it could save lives. This could happen to any mother! I knew Jenny personally and she was one of the most amazing people that I have ever had the good fortune of knowing.
I can't get to the website for some reason PEREZ!!!
Maybe so many clicking on it at the same time?
I can't open it either!
you're all dead inside and stupid. now go and give all your money to the animals.
Re: birth – You are a sick racist! Please don't have Children!!
go to jennyslight.org
Re: mr.t – You are a HATER!! "SUCK YOUR ROTTON C***". How do you live with Yourself???
Re: Audre – You're obviously just trying to get a reaction from people. But in the off chance you are serious….I pray to God that you NEVER go through this and if and when you do…you'll think back on your immature words.
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Re: beefy –
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we SHOULD!
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Re: KIM – Rapist? Some idiot makes a dumb comment and someone replies and THEIR a "rapist"
Get a grip Kim….grow up and get a grip
Re: KIM – Truth hurt Kim?
This is a local charity for me– one that I am active in and donate too. The woman this was founded for took her life and her baby's life in December of this past year.
Thank you for posting this P. Thank you for sharing Jenny's tragic story. She was an amazing woman and her family has been incredibly strong through this tragedy that is almost hard to believe. This is a very real disease. I hope more educated people look at your site!
I usually don't read these stories but I read this one and it just broke my heart. I had depression after having my boys and the first time I didn't know what it was. I know how hard this is on a new mom I really hope this cause helps others moms out there. My prayers are with her husband and family.
At last! Perez Hilton completely trivializes philanthrophy! It's all just a blur!
Perez, with all the money you yourself are donating (cough, choke) to each and every one of these worthwhile causes, Teddy's going to end up ungroomed and eating generic kibble.
Give it a rest, Perez. No matter how many causes you support, Santa Angelina is not going to come a-calling.
Thanks for posting this and what a tragedy for her family and friends. I suffered infertility for 8 years, had a horrible pregnancy, a premature baby and wound up with SEVERE post partum depression. I was never suicidal, but it was the darkest time of my life. What really sucks is the way people judge you. I am 100% fine now, something that at the time I never thought I would be. However, I am now considered high risk for life insurance because of what I went through. It is disgusting the way we put marks on mental illness. PPD comes out of the blue, is very strong but the good news is that with treatment it is 100% curable. Thank you so much for posting this WORTHWHILE site.
Re: Jenni –
Boo fucking hoo
thanks for posting
Re: wah – Fuck You
Shit.
This bullshit did not exist until spoiled whining whitey yuppies started reaching child-bearing age during the 1990's.
Get over yourselves.
If you didn't have a houseful of nannies and NO job, and time on your hands doing nothing all day long—you wouldn't have time to ponder your own selfish oooh-it's-no-longer-me-me-me existence.
Re: wah – You are just the kind of person who trivializes this kind of depression.
I love that you have this on your website. This girl went to my high school and was so sweet. I think its awesome that you put this up so people could become aware of this issue. Thanks again!!!!!!!!!!!
Lorelei Lee…..do you have children?
Please pray for this person everyone…..
Its about time PPD got its cause for more awareness
Perez, thanks for shedding light on postpartum depression. I suffered horrible depression after the birth of my 1st daughter and had to be hospitalized for a week and do intensive outpatient for a month. It took me a good 3 months before I was able to be around her by myself and be comfortable. Postpartum depression is debilitating and isolating and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.
Seriously? Surely there are more worthy charities to promote.
Please, I don't feel bad for this woman one bit and I surely won't give a red cent to her foundation. She's a murder and she be treated with disdain like any other killer! Hey, if your nuts and need to take yourself out, more power to you! To SHOOT an innocent infant is beyond comprehension. Don't buy this PPD crap either. If you can't handle raising children, don't have them!
Jenny was a neighbor and by all accounts a wonderful woman, wife, daughter, sister, and mother. Postpartum illnesses are real and I commend Jenny's family for putting themselves out there and letting women know there are options. Perez, thanks from Birmingham.
It is amazing to see the ignorance still around about PPD. It is real, it is out of your control,and it is insane. You can't imagine it. Don't be ignorant. It is not a matter of "not be able to handle having children" it is beyond your control. Read up on it before you make judgements. And it has been around since before the 90's. My mother had it in the 40's.
Postpartum is a bunch of bullshit. I had every excuse in the book to be so called "depressed". We moved, my husband started a new job the day I went into labor and I was fired from my job the day I brought my son home from the hospital. Yes I was very stressed and upset and it did take me awhile to get over it but I didn't let it affect what I was there to do. I chose to have a child and that's what I was going to do. There is no pill out there that can make you a better mother. If you don't want to be depressed, don't be. It's that simple. Of course you have weird thoughts and feelings but everyone does. I know I did, being a first time mother. But that doesn't give you the right to use postpartum as an excuse to kill your child. If you are week minded then you are choosing to be that way.
"Re: Audre – Why do only white women get depressed after having a baby?" BECAUSE selfish women expect their babies to bring them happiness. They are unprepared for the thankless job the motherhood actually is all about. Women I know keep having babies, & being suicidal afterwards. So much brainwashing— that having babies are the most important thing you can do. Most of my friens were MUCH happier before they became mothers. I can't stand to be around them anymore. They keep asking me when I'll join their suicide club, "Misery Loves Company" is what they tell me while urging me to fuck up my life, to validate their mistakes.
Absolutely frightning to see how ignorant people still are. Studies have shown that depression is a physical disease…like diabetes. The chemicals in your body are out of whack and it's even more so after pregnancy. Attitudes like these are exactly why new mothers are afraid to talk about PPD.
To people who don't get it….please educate yourselves.
Do you ever notice that these made up "conditions" (PPD, PMDD, etc.) only seem to impact American white women????? Why is it women all over the world never seem to suffer any of these mysterious conditions??? Maybe because most of you yuppies never had one second of hardship in your lives and just one sleepless night sends you screaming into mental illness. Just go pop some more of those magic pills and leave the child bearing to the rest of us.
some of you are so retarded i myself suffered from post partum depression after my first child was born i wanted him more than anyone could ever want a child no one can explain why it happends its just a womens body and with help from you doctors and speaking up you can get through it just like i did my son is not 16months and i am well i love him and enjoy taking care of him and about mexicans not getting postpartum depression thats stupid my best friend is mexican and yep after her first child got it too and while i was being treated i read several stories of mexican women who sufferd and killed their children its in the news all the time and as for if perez donates or not who cares he is spreading the word about all these charites and thats all anyone needs to do if they donate thats their business not yours i am grateful and proud to finally see something for post partum depression it is ofent swept under the rug because women are asshamed and they shouldnt be its a part of life and it can happen to any women not mater what race or age or if u did or didnt want your child
Re: Danie – you are so ignorant and will never understand until its you these are not made up deases u are just an empty person
Re: Jenne –
Far from being empty. Happily married mom to 4 beautiful children. No drugs needed to "get through" taking care of them. Just rolled up my sleeves and got down to work. Working hard….you should try it sometimes.
PPD is not a wealthy white woman's diease; the women most often impacted are poor women with no support system. Many already have histories of bipolar disorder or depression, though not all women with PPD have mental illnesses. They are afraid to ask for help because they do not want their children taken awayand are ashamed of being "bad" mothers. The story from Jenny's Light sounds similar to stories of 1000s of women across the country, only many get help before they take their own lives and their babies. Know the facts www.njspeakup.gov
Re: Jenne –
Oh, by the way. You may want to go back to school and learn basic spelling.
To the mothers responding who think PPD does not exist:
Unless you were severely ill, would you ever hurt yourself or your children?
I am taking up a collection for Lorelei Lee! : ) does anyone want to contribute to
the foundation for big mouth ignorance? Perez — thank you for posting this it is very sad and very real and has nothing to do with being a yuppie!
Also I am so happy that we have found Audre — who speaks on behalf of all Mexican Women from all backgrounds and all ages and all experiences. This is an amazing asset to the Perez site — like an Oracle to the Mexican Woman. Since we all know all Mexican Woman are alike — this is fantastic, thanks Audre.
Re: Danie –
so true! This country will make up any excuse to take a pill. Give these "depressed" mothers a placebo and see what happens….
There you go Perez- — bissches of different social/economic backgrounds REFUSE to get along…they refuse to see each other as helpful or insightful… they insist on alienating themselves from what they believe is different . Why? What is the point? Women must get along with other women — come on folks — don't you see what your missing out on? I mean gossip has become a Man's industry because you can't get along and organize yourselves enough to sell one of your hottest products.
Re: mrs.e –
Glad to see there's another sane mom out there that doesn't buy the "magic pill" fixes all theory either. What's even worse is other moms accepting this BS excuse for women MURDERING THEIR CHILDREN! Where else in the planet would that happen?!
Danie — This happens all over the world — you must have missed the millions of stories while deeply into the International Section of the newspaper you read to your kids ( We know you are a good mom and your kids are smarter and your husband loves you more than your friends husbands love them — ) Aside from all that and your awesome hair! stop making motherhood a contest — you seem to be part of the problem — which is a global problem. I do hear what you are saying — Drugs are Bad and they don't help — this is probably true. It takes a lot to say that in America and not be attacked so that is cool that you are saying that.
you men don't understand this is a good cause, not like you would ever have to go throught it it's serious stuff
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I can't believe I am posting here, but years ago I went to a research presentation at an APA (American Psychological Association) conference re: ppd. The conclusion, (with really valid stats) was that ppd occurred in women with underlying disorders prior to the pregnancy. His conclusion was that it wasn't a real disorder.
That being said, I had a triplet pregnancy, lost 2 babies, had the 3rd at a pound who wasn't expected to live. I had what could be considered ppd, but it was severe grief with no time to rest or process my loss. I was suicidal too (as a psychologist) but realized that I could not leave my child without a mother and it was evil and wrong to kill that child. Even in insanity, I had a choice. Cured myself without drugs.
Waaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh I had a baby and it's not all about ME anymore!!!! WAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHH I have to feed it and clean it and gasp take care of it!!!! POOOORRRR MEEEE I have an ugly body now with saggy tits WAHHHHHHHHHHHH
Wow, there are a bunch of Bitches here. I'm sure all of you super Mom's never take a break, never need help and I bet your house is always clean. Have a little empathy you heartless wenches. Just because this hasn't happened to you doesn't mean it doesn't exist. I guess you don't really think that cancer or aids is real. Read a little and expand your narrow minds.
Just because we disagree, doesn't make US "Stupid" or "Bitches". Read 'ellen's post. GOOD POINT. Some people can tought it out, some people crumble at a challange BUT-a lot of mental illness goes undiagnosed. & most people with Narcissistic Personality Disorders HAVE NO IDEA THAT ANYTHING IS WRONG WITH THEM. Hand them a crying baby & watch what happens! Keeping them up at night, & not saying "thank you" for everything?
Re: mommy – IT IS MY SINCERE HOPE THAT YOU AREN'T A MOTHER. IF YOU ARE, I HOPE KARMA BITES YOU IN THE ASS. YOU ARE PATHETIC AND MORONS LIKE YOU SHOULD JUST STAY IN THEIR TRAILERS AND SMOKE CIGARETTES.
Re: HUh? – You can not be serious. You obviously are childless and should do the world a favor and stay that way. It doesn't have anything to do with the child or the person being all about themselves. It is a sudden drop in hormone levels and a mental illiness that morons like yourself should read up about. It is finally being discussed openly in this country and we are making progress. Please keep you uneducated points to yourself.
I am shocked and disturbed at, not only the ignorance, but also the heartlessness in these posts. Whether you believe in PP disorders or not, the fact of the matter is that a beautiful baby and young woman are dead. A new family is gone, a husband lost his wife, a new father lost his child, a sister lost her sister. Anyone who has a child would understand that there would have to be some serious pathology for a mother to kill her own child–everything in our biology is in direct contradiction to that act. So, whatever, you refuse to see the facts and you think selfishness causes a mother to kill her child–what is wrong with an organization that offers support to anyone that may do that for whatever reason. It could save a baby. If we can put together safety nets to stop this from ever happening again, I say let's do it.
By the way–I knew this woman and she was lovely. She was kind and generous and friendly and fun to be with. Your uninformed and cruel comments would cause her loved ones more pain than they are already in. I hope they never see them.
The scariest thing about this disorder is that people don't talk about it. Thank you for starting the conversation. Here are some facts that everyone should know about this disease. Jenny was a very bright light and we will miss her everyday.
1. 15-20% of women will suffer from a perinatal mood disorder, such as postpartum depression, which is a much higher % than those getting gestational diabetes that is already screened for.
2. Over 50% of women go untreated.
3. It can happen to ANYONE. There is NO profile.
4. You are NOT alone. Help is available
5. It is OKAY to talk about.
6. It is NOT your fault.
7. It is 100% TREATABLE with proper medical help.
Wow. So sad how ridiculous these comments are. I had ppd after my son was born. It's real, it's horrible, it's frightening. I never felt as extreme as Jenny, but nevertheless, the thoughts in my mind were scary. And I am not a white woman so these stupid comments that is a white, yuppie disease are just uneducated. Thank you, Perez, for posting this charity. God bless little Graham and may he be resting peacefully with the angels in heaven.
Kudos to you for posting this Perez, this was a local tragedy. I still can't imagine killing your own baby though.
Re: mommy – that is the most ignorant comment i have read yet. post partum psychosis is a DISEASE, and clearly it's a good thing jenny's light is around so it's shedding light on something you don't know anything about
What a stupid bitch, she should have left that poor baby alone and rotted in Hell for killing herself but now the poor baby is gone. I hate cunts like that.
Jenny was a friend of mine. To all those who doubt postpartum depression…Just because you have not experienced an illness yourself, does not mean it doesn't exist. I would do a little research, and show a little compassion for others (no matter what race they are) before you start judging them.
Re: Adria –
Everyone has scary thoughts, that's a part of motherhood. I would have insane thoughts all the time but did I act on it, no. Have they gotten better with time, absolutely. Did I fix it with a pill, hell no. Are you going to be a better mom if you are nice and medicated? What I'm saying on here is that I don't think these mother's should run to the doc for a pill to cure these thoughts. They are just that, thoughts. It's your actions that make you a bad mother or worse, a murderer. Please talk to someone if need be. I spoke with my husband about the thoughts that I had and come to find out he was having the same ones. So don't count the men out too. It's overwhelming for both parties to bring a life into this world. There have been a ton of cases of women under the influence of prescribed medication who have still hurt their children. They tend to think that just popping a pill that everything will be fine. If you truly want to fix the problem start where the problem is, in your mind. The mind is a very powerful thing that people take for granted that they can improve their whole life if they want to. You absolutely hold the key to your mental wellness.
Re: Jenni – Me too! I didn't know what the hell I was feeling. I wish people weren't so naive about it. It's real and scary.
why isnt brooke shields in this? i'm a sufferer of PPD, and i would DEFINITELY donate money in a heartbeat, but as of right now im FLAT BROKE :[
and also: PPD can effect anyone, not just 'rich white women' the only reason you only hear about it from 'rich white women' is because the media doesnt care about any other ethnicity enough to shed a light to it. plus, PPD isnt something most moms talk about since a lot of them dont understand their feelings to begin with. and just because YOU didnt suffer from PPD doesnt mean that someone else doesnt. i dont care if you had all the reason in the world to be depressed, depression doesnt work like that. like another poster said, its a disorder much like diabetes. just because YOU arent depressed doesnt mean your neighbor, best friend, boss, etc isnt also.
Illness my ass…She might have been sick, but she could have sought help for the feelings she was having. No one has the right to use an illness as an excuse for taking an innocent child out of this world. That is fucking pitiful!
There's a solution to this: DON'T HAVE KIDS!!!!!!!
Re: dana – I figured out what dana stands for,
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Re: Danie – If PPD & PMDD are "made up" in your mind, then why are they diagnosed by Psychs, MD's, PA's, NP's and listed in the DSM-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders) book on psychological disorders?
Jenny was a friend of mine. She was the LAST person in my life that I would think could be capable of doing something like this. Just that basic fact makes me believe that this disease is real and she was suffering in her pain alone. You will be shocked, suprised and saddened, too if and when it happens to you or someone you love.
Re: dana – I so wish you where standing right by me in RL when you said this. The Real Dana
yeah right, will they help me???
i have PTSD.
i'm sure they won't be helping me - bull.
Thank you so much for posting this cause on your site. I am not officially on the board but I have been a participant in some fundraising. Hopefully, people will do a little research and realize what we are trying to accomplish. Lots of women (from all different backgrounds) suffer from PPD and we would like to make help available for those who need it. For those of you who have had it, you know how real this disease is. Thank you again!