Behind The 'Snub'
Filed under: Old People
TV's Inside Edition caught up with Estelle Getty's son, Carl, to get to the bottom of why the living Golden Girls skipped out on her funeral.
Carl told the show, "They would certainly have been welcome. I don't know why they wouldn't be attending mom's funeral. Maybe it's a painful thing…As for the rest of them you're going to have to ask them how they felt about it and why they did or didn't come."
Inside Edition took Carl's advice and reached out to the ladies.
Bea "Dorothy" Arthur, told the show she's been grieving for years over Getty's long decline due to dementia, and could not deal with the emotion of a funeral: "She's been out of it so many years, not recognizing anyone. It's a Godsend. She's at peace."
Rue "Blanche" McClanahan, said that she couldn't attend the funeral because she recently had surgery: "I'd like them to know that I didn't [attend the funeral] because I can't fly right now with knee surgery. I don't know why Betty and Bea didn't go, maybe because they, too, have said their goodbyes to her when she was alive."
The show did not speak with Betty White, but they learned that she sent a bouquet of flowers with a card that read, "Love, Betty White." In quotes she added the name of her character on the show, "Rose."
And there you have it.
Estelle's son seems to have perceived the absences as a snub, though. Says Carl: "If it was someone I'd been tight with like that and worked with all those years I'd have been there."
What do U think????
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Who cares about those old bags? NEXT!
awww thats stinky
but the cute jester by betty was nice..rose.
1st!!
These are really old women, cut them some slack!
firrrst
They totally should've gone to support her family. Even if they'd already "grieved" or said their goodbyes, a funeral is for the remaining family as well. That's disrespectful, in my opinion. Surgery is surgery, but the other two? Not good excuses.
Omg am I first?
Probably not
10 ten??
Estelle Getty was a classy lady. She was a great actress, unlike some of the skanks of today. May she rest in peace.
I think they should have gone if they were able.
How sad - I think they should have gone. Especially the two in LA.
thank you for being a friend….those wild women
I WOULD HAVE WENT TO THE SERVICE TO SHOW THE FAMILY SOME RESPECT EVEN IF I HAD SAID MY GOODBYES TO ESTELLE ALREADY!
Awwwwwww, God bless all of them!!!
lame excuses.. they should have 1. called her son and expressed their condolences or 2 sent some sort of heart felt note with flowers. I'm surprised that betty white's bouquet was so cold. I didnt know estelle getty's but i can think of something a bit more heartfelt than love, betty white. bitches please.
Geriatric snub!
Just because they didn't show at the funeral, doesn't mean they don't care. I didn't go to my best friends funeral when he got shot. It's not because I didn't love him, it's because I couldn't deal with it.
That's a snub. How dare they not go to the funeral and they live in the same town. Whether they said their goodbyes before or not, you go the the funeral to pay respect to the rest of the family. Bad Bea Arthur!!!!! Bad Betty White~!!!
They gave good reasons. Not a snub. And nobody gives a shit if you post 1st. What are you, 8 years old? Idiots.
RIP..
The Golden Girls was one of the best shows ever…
much love and respect goes out to her friends and family..
comment #2 - jester? what an idiot!
I think they should of gone and paid their respect.
Well Jewish funerals are always very suden and I can understand why people who are out of state might not come. Plus they are all like in their 80's so I would think it would be hard to just hop on a plane like that. I forgive them but I would hope they all called the family & sent flowers.
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As far as Betty and Bea, everyone knows in the industry that they HATE each others guts. That hasnt been a secret for years. Im almost positive that they didnt attend for fear of seeing each other. Rue, on the other hand, I can flow with the idea of her being sick and all.
But I think out of proper respect for Estelle they should have ALL been there!
This is SO sad…. wish them all well!
Bea and Betty are both 86 years old - maybe they don't as easily as they once did. If the love is there (which it obviously is), then respect that and stop looking for conflict.
You must remember that all of those women are in their late 70's and early 80's… it's not that easy for them to travel on a moment's notice @ their ages. Think of your grandparents… would they travel across the country to a funeral of someone they worked with for 7 or 8 years more than 15 years ago? I wouldn't and I'm in my 40's. Just a thought
Their reasons are their reasons. No need to say they're disrespectful. May Estelle Getty rest in peace.
Bea and Betty are both 86 years old - maybe they don't travel as easily as they once did. If the love is there (which it obviously is), then respect that and stop looking for conflict.
I think it is in very poor taste not to attend the funeral. Having surgery is one thing, "grieving" and not being supportive is another. Show up and be of service to the family or just attend for support!!!
Lack of class, ladies. I'd have to believe she'd have been there for you.
Just sad.
Well, Bea, Rue and Betty are also in their 80's, and having a mom in her 80's as well, I can understand how they would not be able to attend. Emotions do take their toll on an ederly person. Also having to sit in a plane for 5 hours is hard on anyone, let alone an ederly person. I am sure they did not have any ill intentions, by not attending. Hope Estelle's family can understand.
I don't think they snubbed her. It's clear that they were thinking about the situation and about Estelle. It's very hard to say goodbye to someone that you knew well and have very fond memories of. This is especially true when that person has suffered for so many years and has changed so much due to something as awful as dementia. It's almost like they're not the same person anymore, and that can be very painful. I think they want to remember her as the beautiful person that she was, instead of someone who was suffering.
They are fukking old ladies, they are probably afraid to catch the death
themselves. You dont have to attend a funeral to mourn, get over it!
I definitely would have been there! Working together for so long, they must've had a close bond and that's grounds to attend the funeral for sure!
Re: asdas –
Who cares about your dumb ass? STFU!
I think everyone deals with grief in their own way, and we shouldn't be concerned with whether or not so-and-so showed up. Grieving, too, is private, and it's the three women's right to do so in the manner in which they feel comfortable.
So they didn't show up. That doesn't mean they didn't love or miss her. Unless you have a friend, parent or grandparent with dementia, you probably won't understand. It's an extremely painful disease for the family and friends, because the woman that they remember was long gone before she physically passed away.
Let's give Bea, Betty and Rue some space. Estelle had her family there for her when she needed them, and it was them who should have been at the funeral to pay tribute.
Well, it's obvious the family of EG didn't know them all that well - so going for the family isn't exactly a good reason. If they didn't even know Rue had surgery, then it's not like they have to go to support the family. Not everyone likes funerals, and not everyone believes in them. To each his own.
They probably already said goodbye in their own way…they are too old to travel anymore. When you get to be that age, death is an everyday occurence. I am sure they are grieving.
Let's not cause drama over a 80 something year old's funeral.
i loved the golden girls and estelle's character…i see it definately as a snub and they should be ashamed of themselves for not attending the funeral…at least betty white sent flowers. just because u had surgery or have been "grieving" doesnt mean u cant send flowers or something!!!
Grieving is a very personal thing, and circumstances surrounding her death (death by degree dementia) is a horrible thing for family and friends as well as the patient. I wonder about her son's motive for discussing their absences more than I wonder about why they were absent.
Estelle had not been "Estelle" for the past 10 years. The Golden Girls had plenty of time to say their goodbyes and I say God Bless, and thanks for all the laughs.
Everyone has their own way of dealing with a loss.
Of course they should have gone………what hypocriates! All over the news how sad they were…….they are phony.
To be honest, the women they knew died a long time ago
perhaps they said goodbyes to her years ago. The funeral is just to bury the body, Estelle's spirit is not bound by a box. It would have nice that they showed up, but the explanations they gave were reasonable. It might not be easy or comfortable for them to travel, none of these women are young, in fact all of them are older than Estelle..they were fricken' Golden Girls 20 years ago!
Re: KimmySita – ur a bitch!
I think grief is a personal thing and people shouldn't make such judgments. My father didn't even go to his own mother's funeral - he couldn't deal. It's ridiculous for people to say negative things - everybody handles things in their own way.
Estelle was a beautiful person and was loved by all who worked with her. I'm sure there are MANY who didn't attend in person, but who grieved just the same.
they are very old, give them a break….at that age people start dropping-and you just cant always make it…….i agree there goodbyes were said long ago.
It's very understandable why they did not attend. As an avid Golden Girl fan, it's easy to see how close they all were. Why go back for painful memories? They already said their goodbyes.
Just because the ladies didn't go doesn't mean they didn't care. The ladies are old as well, leave them be.
Re: Erin –
I agree.
Bea Arthur, Rue McClanahan and Betty White are all older than Estelle even was. It's not always easy to travel at such ages. The funeral is part of the closure process and serves the purpose for family and friends to grieve. The other golden ladies have lost many loved ones during their lifetimes and understand loss. They expressed their love for Estelle while she was still alive and aware…that is the most important thing. Her son may have felt it was a snub but it wasn't. He himself is grieving over the loss of his mother…and for many that is one of the most awful experiences to have to suffer through.
God bless them all!
They should have been there. Period. That's what decent people do.
NOT A SNUB - I saw and heard these women together when she had the first stages and even when she was advanced. I believe their reasoning because I believe there was real love there.
The four people who went to her funeral was more than went to Perez clothing debut at hot topic
I just watched the tribute shows on Lifetime. Thry were really cute and I would have gone to her funeral if allowed. Shame on the cast for not going. It is really a disapointment that they are so immature and can still be bitches at their age. Grow up Golden Girls.
I dont see it as disrespectful. Everyone should be able to grieve as they see fit. It is a personal decision and nobody else's business, even her son's. he was not a part of her relationship with these women and so does not know how they each feel.
I do think it is amazing how if something is to be interpreted (such as the meaning of the no-show) Perez always jumps to the worst possible conclusion! I guess this is not a journalistic site, but a gossip mongering one, so there is no need for ethics, just trash talk. Bad Karma………………
It's a pretty well known fact that Estelle Getty was the least trained of all these actresses and that while taping each episode she had a very hard time remembering her lines and they had to cue her. It's also a very well known fact that Bea Arthur can be well….let's say maybe she wasn't that "close" to Estelle. Let's face it….sad as it is…in Hollywood the term "friend" is used VERY LOOSELY!
Yes, dementia or Alzheimer's is the long goodbye while the victim is alive but no reason for Bea or Betty not to attend. Perhaps they didn't wanna b reminded of their own mortality? Rue had a valid excuse. My dad in law had Alzheimer's and my mom in law had dementia; did that mean I was off the hook for the funerals? Ridiculous and I think I'd call Betty/Bea 'Tarnished' Girls, not quite so golden.
I would've at least called…
She was snubbed. Surgery might be an excuse, but the others aren't.
They just didn't care enough.
What do I think?
I think the lot of them were old, ugly, and untalented and the sooner all four of them join the sweet hereafter, the better it will be for the rest of us.
The old bats are taking up too much space…especially that old guy, Bea Arthur.
Re: Lee – they still could've sent flowers!!!!
If they didn't go- that's their freaking business. Carl needs to STFU. I think it's even more sad that he's out there selling this story. Make some more off the old lady! RIP!
Funerals aren't for everyone. Just because you loved someone doesn't mean you are obligated to attend their families death rituals
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her son shouldnt be upset. sometimes that isnt how you want to remeber someone. you want to remeber them when they were alive.
HArdly a snub! Didn't U hear what Bea Arther said!?!? I lovce ALL the Golden Girls Cast (yes even Stan) and I'm sure they all had their reasons! ♥
Re: Ange – they still could've sent flowers!!!