Should Parents Ask Kids If They're Gay?
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Posted: June 16, 2009 at 12:30 pm
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nah i cant be bothered
depends on the parents. not if the parents aren't mature and understanding enough to support them and love them for who they r. then keep your mouth shut and hide ur shit until u can get out on your own and support yourself.
does perez delete comments he does not like ??
lmao this is like a week old. But no, because if they aren't then it will scar them for life. they could make it clear that they would be ok either way.
everyone should just get over it. its 2009 we can all be what we want. people shouldnt even care about peoples sexual appetites unless you want some! its not that big of a deal people.
do any of these women have any experience with having any gay family memebers?! coz to me it looks like they don't have a clue what they are tlking about. wat the hell has a little boy playing with dolls got to do with his sexuality? so is it the opossite if girls dnt play with dolls? coz i played with dolls and i'm gay!
i may seem pissed but at least they are covering topics like this.
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oh my god elizabeth is sooo annoying.
geez.
this isn't as hard as they are making it. if we all raised our kids with the knowledge that there are different sexual orientations and genders, make sure that they are exposed to the diversity that makes our world a beautiful place, and let them know that we love them no matter what and that they will discover who they are as they grow into themselves- this wouldn't be a problem.
the problem is when you start with assumptions about who your kids are going to be -gay, straight, cis-gendered, trans gendered - whatever. it's the assumption that's the problem.
and why the hell does playing with dolls or makeup mean a boy's gay? maybe he'll grow up to be an femmie straight guy who wins a super bowl. while wear mascara. or a straight drag queen.
hell, i'm a girl who's a former pageant queen, a burlesque performer who never leaves the house without make up. and i'm a lesbian….
looks like the black chick has some internal gay issues. She got all mad about boys playing with girly things. Does she think her son is gay? What's her issue. What a biatch!
Ugggggg who cares if your gay or not.It would be a bigger bummer having one these witches as a parent!
I think you should just be open with everything as a parent and let them know that you love them no matterwhat and then let them come to you when they are ready. On a different note maybe this is ignorant of me but why do people always say Gays and Lesbians? Are lesbians not gay?? Just something I always wondered about. When I refer to one of my friends who has recently decided she is a lesbian I just always say she is gay, is that wrong?
i think every family is different and should make this choice for themselves.
Love your kids. Period.
Listen, guide, love.
Let them know you love them unconditionally.
Then, let them come to you.
Yes!!! and make sure they know you love them for who they are and who God made them. If you don't know they are gay how can you keep your eyes open for cute dates for them?
Re: RedWingsFan –
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Good one!
my kids would be sooo offended if i asked them that… its none of anyones business… do u see straight people going on and on about their sexual preferences … so why do straight people have to be inNundated with anyone elses preferences… let it go man… LET.IT.GO
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Who cares what these women think?
Especially Elisabeth .. she's "anti" everything
.. I agree with RedWings # 14
i dont see what the big deal is about someone being gay, theyre still human and normal like everyone else and deserve to be loved in the same way and have the same rights as everyone else. people need to get over any 'stigmas' surrounding the gay community.
Thank you, ladies, for saying ABSOLUTELY NOTHING NEW. The world goes round, some people are gay, and some aren't, and I personally don't care…….just no pedophiles, NAMBLA or weirdos near me or those I care about ! Being gay is still a sin in religious thought, and butt-fucking is still gross. A blow job ain't no big thaang. Why doesn't Barbara talk about blow jobs ? WHOOPIE WOULD !
I think its funny how whenever the topic of homosexuality comes up on the show, you can see Elizabeth trying hard to pretend she's not uncomfortable.
If you're a good parent and have a good relationship with your child you're going to have some idea whether or not they are gay. It's all about openness and having good communication with them.
First, the question should be "Should Parents ask kids if they are engaging in homosexual activities". Gay is a verb, a feeling of happiness, it has nothing to do with sexual relations. Referring to a homosexual as gay is as ridiculous as referring to an apple as a grape. Let's all try to use grammatically correct english from now on please!
Asking a kid if he/she is homosexual implies that the activity itself is not learned or chosen, which it is.
Did anyone stay awake during English class?
Does asking a child if he/she is gay imply that a child has a sexuality? I don't really understand. How old are we talking? Seven or eleven? Do people really worry about having gay toddlers or…what? This is all rather nebulous.
I'm going to take my mom's route. She just waited till I was old enough to ask what "gay" was, gave me a pretty clinical definition, and said that it wouldn't change who I was and that she'd love me no matter what.
one component of this issue that seems to always be looked over is that parents don't discuss what homosexuality is to their children. every storybook or toy they play with is in a heterosexual relationship and therefore have a hard time understanding what homosexuality is… it is given a negative connotation before they even understand it. parents need to discuss what homosexuality is at a younger age so that it is understood sooner, which allows for greater tolerance and comfort.
I don't think asking that question is appropiate… Sometimes someone who is gay needs time to think, to be comfortable with what they are, to be ready to tell the world ¡hey, I'm gay! (as If that mattered…I don't know heterosexuals who introduce themselves: Hi, I'm Richard and I like women…).
You have to decide when the time ir right to come out to your parents, friends…You shouldn't be forced to tell or lie just because your parents want to know…if the love you for what you are, they will wait until you want to tell them…
I speak for myself when I say this. I came out with them, some friends, this last Christmas…and I would have been very uncomfortable if my mother for example would have asked me say 3 years ago…I wasn't ready, it was not my time, and I would have lied….
And for the retards who still think being gay is a sin…wake up, the Inquisition has been dead for centuries now, and we don't need anyone telling us what is right and what is wrong…Live your lives..let us live ours, because we are not doing anything wrong. And BTW mental illness and suicide has nothing to do with sexual orentation…
wait till their ready to come out but be open minded for god sakes
OMG watching The View makes me feel like my mind is going to explode!
i am a mom of 4 with the oldest being 9. he already knows what gay means. He asked me a few years ago when he heard a boy calling another one gay what it meant. we discussed it and now he doesn't think its a big deal, b/c we don't make a big deal out of it. I tell my kids every day that I am here for them no matter what. they can come to me even if they are embarrassed write it down. and so far it has worked. I can see asking one of my kids if they are teens and I suspect it. but that is the relationship I have with them and hope to have it forever.
my aunt/uncle asked me that while i was washing the dishes it was so awkward for me but he just kept asking and asking and i kept denying it
i think you need to wait for them to come out
but if you think they are just talk about how open minded you are and how much you love them they'll tell you
I think they shouldn't ask your kids if they're gay or not. If you love them it shouldn't matter.
Re: Desideratum – Wow, good luck with that. And, by the way, since you were sleeping in biology, a person is born gay. They can choose to live a lifestyle that is a lie and be miserable their whole lives or they can except and love who they are and be a positive force in society.
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It seems MOST people have it backwards.
They should just let the kids know, in general terms, that they can always come to them with stuff and they will love and support them no matter what. Having said that, I HATE the View.
THANK GOD I DON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THESE CLUELESS BITCHES FOR ADVICE!
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I DON'T CARE WHAT OLD CROWS THINK!
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ALL I KNOW IS THAT MY HORMONES TELL ME THAT MARIO LOPEZ IS HOT AND I WANNA LICK HIM ALL NIGHT LONG!
IF ELISABITCH'S SON TURNS OUT TO BE A HUGE COCK SUCKER I'M GONNA LAUGH MY FUCKING ASS OFF!!!!!!
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No, they should come out on their own time.
Behar's a dumbass! I played with trucks and did all the "boy" stuff and I'm queer as a $3 bill. I'm masculine and nobody ever "picks me offa the homo-tree". Why is it that people continue with the stereotypes?? Gay men are masculine and effeminate in varying degrees…..we're not all "Big Mary's"! (not unless maybe u pissed us off- then it's ON)
My kids are from 4 years to 20. Since they were all little I told my kids love is love if they are happy so is mama. To date, all of the them are heterosexual. My 4 year old (who has a gay godfather) saw a show that had a married male couple. He turns to me and says boys can't get married. I said sure they can, so can two girls it's all the same. He argued with me that they can't only boys and girls can marry each other. That didn't come from my house NO WAY but he is adamant. It's amazing what they learn, where they learn it, and how ingrained, even if wrong, it can become. SO SAD!
Whoopi was the only one who was being somewhat logical.
I wouldn't have wanted my parents to ask me. Actually, they probably should have because I'm such a stereotypical lesbian I don't believe them when they say they didn't know. xD
I don't think so. even if they would support it. the kid has to come to terms with themselves before anyone else
NNNOOO!! The answer could be …..yes and who wants that???
Joy is such a dumb gash. She needs to go.
If a child's sexuality is still unclear by age 30- parents should lovingly and very supportively inquire.
I would think if you need to ask then they're probably not gay.. Any normal parent would have realised years ago if they're child was gay - I have known gay men from childhood and believe me you can tell from an early age….
Elizabeth Hasselback is a fuck knuckle. She will seriously fuck up her kids emotional wellbeing. "When you put the idea of being a bad seed in your kids head……." Stupid bigoted, homophobic, misinformed cow! Can';t wait for the tabloid news about her children in 18 years!
The black chick thinks that being a gay man is a result of being exposed to makeup as a boy.
Children shouldn't be labelled anything, but should be accepted for who they are and where their preferences lie. Don't define. label, don't even guide. Just let them be!
The others don't make any sense at all.
And I am a heterosexual female from Australia.
No because my mother asked me and I'm not, and I felt horrible. Mind you this was when I was 15/16 all because I didn't have a boyfriend. As if a 15 year old should be out fucking every man they see. I would never ask my child.
no! the child will tell you when they're comfortable to do so… my friend mother thinks im gay cuz her daughter is && i spend the nite at her house a lot but wat she dont kno is that i have a crush on her son… I think ppl should just stop jumping to conclusions!
with the whole controversy around being gay and gay rights, if the parent does ask and the kid flat out denies it, in fear of being accepted or not, of course they are gonna say no. . . unless you have a family that is open and doesnt give a shit.
honestly, of your kid is acting…homosexual, then a parent has the right to ask. HOWEVER, if the parent is one of those old kind who had their kids when they were 45 and raise them weird, then your child probably won't know what the hell gay is.
I think THE child HOLDS the CARDS…WITH the WAY things ARE.. IF i WERE gay I wouldn't DARE want MY PARENTS asking ME what MY sexual PREFERNCES were…WAIT and TRUST that YOUR child LOVES you ENOUGH and FEELS comfortable ENOUGH to TELL you.:)