Brittany Murphy's Estranged Father NOT Attending Her Funeral
Well if he wasn't there for her in life, why would he be there in death?
Brittany Murphy's father Angelo Bertolotti has said that he will not be attending her funeral on Christmas Eve because he doesn't want that to be the last memory he has of his daughter.
Bertolotti, who hasn't seen Brittany since 2006, says:
"I was very shocked by it [her death]. I can't believe it really. It happened so fast, I'm just trying to figure it all out right now. I'm very upset by it. If I wanted to go [to the funeral] I would go, but I don't want to see her that way.
She was flawless to me. She was a little bright child. I have only good memories about her. She's a memory to me now. To me she's off making a movie somewhere. She has a couple of issues but nothing was that serious. Her mother never told me anything like that. She never said she had anything like was listed in the papers."
We understand what he's saying, but funerals are a fact of life and a way to respect the deceased.
At least we know her mother will be there to honor her memory.
[Image via Nikki Nelson / WENN.]
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well he is involved in organized crime, isn't he? Not a good idea to be high profile when you're in the mob
i can figure out if its right or not for him to attend it. at least he is hurt by his estranged daughters death. hopes go out for the murphy family
why were they estranged?
Some people can not handle these things and it's okay. Her father is mourining in his on way….
Funerals are for the living not the dead.
If her Dad doesn't want to go that's up to him.
perez, funerals are more for the living than the dead…this guy has every right not to attend…who the fuck are u to judge!
she looks BEAUTIFUL in that picture.
R.I.P
What a dirtbag the father seems to be…as if it's about him and not paying respects to say goodbye. Yeah, everyone else that goes to a funeral wants to remember them dead in a box…what a creep. Perhaps if he were there for her, she wouldn't have had such a disastrous time of it choosing horrible men and marrying a lowlife scumbag to drive her into an early death.
you make it sound like he's so horrible. it seems very resonable. alot of people dont go to funerals.
if i was estranged from my child..and only had good memories, i probably wouldnt go to a funeral either. let his last memories be good ones, not seeing his daughter in a casket.
Her stage mother that watched her shovel drugs into her face and starve herself, yeah, the least she could do is be there.
Perez, thanks for using such a gorgeous picture of Brittany…quite glorious in this pic.
Then by your own words you hypocrite…you werent there for her in life so stop pretending to be there for her ion death!
Rest in peace Brittany. What a loss of talent. : (
I dont know about this?? … If he hasnt seen here since 2006 then maybe he is right he wants to remember her the way she was he sounds like he cant beleive what has happened but yet if he doesnt go he will regeret it for the rest of his life!
Its to bad they didnt get to make up before her death
Funerals are for the living, it's about respect for life left.
STOP JUDGING OTHER PEOPLE FAT BOY.
MIND YOUR OWN DAMN BUSINESS.
RIP BRITTANY, YOU HAD A BEAUTIFUL SPIRIT AND WILL BE MISSED ON THIS PLANET.
CONDOLENCES FOR ALL WHO LOVED BRITNEY, HER PARENTS, HUSBAND, FRIENDS.
excuse me Perez, funny u left out the fact that he's NOT invited to the funeral, so stop acting as if he's the bad guy
he should have gone
I think that you are being a D-bag.
I didn't went to my father funeral for the same reason. It's easy to judge I guess.
Perez/Ghost Writers: Don't judge Brittany's Dad. Everyone grieves differently
Why don't you go in his place and dance on her grave, vile pig? That would be appropriate in view of how you reported on her during her life.
Her brother didn't see her after 2001 he said when the "hollywood wall" went up. Then she lost contact with her dad in 2006? I think she has it coming to her. I'm sorry.
People should be respected when they are alive. Funerals are for the survivors.
At least her mother is attending
Perez, you bashed and trashed Brittany Murphy to no end throughout her life and career, and now you're here kissing ass because she passed away. How about you cut the shit? 1) Her father has been estranged from Brittany since she was 2 years old. 2) Her father is over 80 years old (from what I remember), so he very well may not be in any condition to fly. 3) Why, after all of these years of being estranged, would he want to show up to her funeral. Of all things. Have some respect you hypocritical piece of garbage. You don't know a damned thing about this family.
I"m sorry, but it's obvious that he just can't be bothered.
i understand where hes coming from. iv avoided the funerals of friends for the same reason. i cant imagine what he must be feeling right now losing his daughter. You need to stop judging. go talk to your mother, ask her how she would feel if you died tomorrow - then you might begin to understand. its just so topsy turvy. no parent ever expects their child to die before them.
Shup up already, Perez. You have no right to judge this man, especially after all the crap you have posted here about his daughter over the years.
To each their own. For some people, going to a funeral can be closure, for some it can be too hard for them to handle. Not everyone experiences grief the same way. Let him grieve the way he needs to without adding the guilt.
She was an adult and not all adults see their parents often or are close with each other and that doesn't mean the parent in the blame for it. I live in the same town as my father and I see him once a year.
You know, some people just don't do funerals you blubbering tool.
Re: marie-eve – Right fucking on!!
does it really have to take half an hour to post any effin comments?! Annoying.
Who are you to say what's a proper way to respect the deceased? Huh? Please answer me that? Are you a parent? Are you jerk? I don't have kids, but i can still understand somewhat. But not fully unless I have and heaven forbid lost a child. Its not natural for a parent to "bury" their "child." I would not want to put my baby in the ground or see it die. People have different views on life, death and how to go about honoring people. Who are you to question it?
And how are you "honoring her memory" Lard Ass? By implying she was messed up on drugs? By saying her husband is scum?
Another disturbingly intrusive comment from P Hilton…It's none of your biz if her father can not bring himself to attend. Is there anything you won't yap about?
You can respect the deceased without going to a funeral!
And if this man attended, then Mario would call him a hypocrite for being at the funeral, but not being a part of her life.
You don't need to be sitting beside a dead body to mourn. The spirit of who the person was is moved on….its just a shell left behind. I think he can mourn in his own way without your judgement.
i mean it could be a genuiune reason..but it can also be a load of crap..of course no one wants to see a loved one dead in a casket, but thats a part of life
Brittany, may you rest in Peace. This news makes me so angry and so sad. This guy was estranged from her, knew she had "a couple of issues" but wants to remember her as a little girl. WHAT kind of father lets his baby go estranged with a couple of issues???? !! What a weak man and so sorry for Brittany or should it be for him? She's passed on to Love Eternal. He, on the other hand, is only about himself, instead of facing up to the fact that this is his girl and as he received her in life, he needs to give her back in death to Love Himself. Yes, he should go. This is what a funeral is for; it's about the deceased, not about us because we don't like to go. To show Love to the deceased, to say good-bye with respect, and I'll see you soon one Day.
I understand how he feels, it's hard to witness them putting your loved one into the ground, and funerals are hard to deal with. He should just cut the check for a really nice ceremony, he's the father.
make no bones about it FUNERALS ARE FOR THE FAMILY NOT THE DEAD !!!! He was not part of the family and honestly if I knew what I was getting into I would not have attended my fathers and I adored him. I sat there staring at a coffin thinking I can just hear my dad. 5000k on flowers I'm never going to see never going to smell and then they will send them to an old folks home to remind them they are next. If his grieving process is not tradtional then so be it.
Sounds like somebody is a SCUMBAG !!!!!
"FUNERALS ARE A FACT OF LIFE."
hahahahah!!!!!! good one.
Funerals are lame, a waste of money. great photo of BM
DUMBASS!!! FATBOY IF YA WANNA QUOTE PEOPLE MAG CORRECTLY (SINCE THAT'S WHERE U SOURCED THE ARTICLE) HE SAID HE DIDNT WANNA UPSET HER MOTHER EITHER. APPARENTLY THEY ARE DIVORCED AND DONT SEE EYE TO EYE. PROLLY DUE TO HIS PAST AS A GANGSTA. PLUS, HE'S 83 LIVING IN FLORIDA. ASSWIPE!
What an awful man not to put the past behind him to attend his own daughter's funeral. Twat.
I personally think he should go. Attending a funeral is about showing respect for the person who died not about us not wanting to go because it may be too hard for us. Be a man and go to your daugthers funeral at least he owes her that much. Rest in Peace Brittany.
what a duche, sorta suspicous…..
Re: itis – That's exactly what I was thinking
People deal with death differently.
And who are you to judge this man?
What is your definition of "honoring" someone's memory?
Trashing her husband and blaming drugs without proof?
Right! After treating her like crap when she was alive.
You go girl!
i just remembered her in clueless
maybe someday when someone close to you dies you'll stop being such an asshole to everyone else about it, and disrespecting the dead
I understand why he doesn't want to go, but he may regret it. The funeral is for the living. It's a way to begin processing and understanding a loved one's death. It's also a celebration of the person's life. You listen to your loved one's life be affirmed and validated by other people. But whether he goes or not, it's his decision.
Funerals are not the 'be all' of showing respect for the dead. That's narrow.
perez, your a fat fucking homo…who is completely insensitive. who are you to judge how one mourns? get a fuckin real life…if i ever saw u on the streets…id left hook you to the face like will.i.am did….now thas wassup…HOTO.
u give gays a bad name…queerbag.
So her death is all about him and his bad feelings? Typical "poor me, I'm the victim" crap of your garden variety sociopathic mobster (which he actually is). No wonder they were estranged. It would be nice if he could gather the courage to stop thinking about himself for once and actually be there for his daughter and for those who DID manage to care enough about her to be part of her life when it mattered. I agree everyone grieves in their own way, but this appears to be part of a pattern of negligence and making excuses for negligence. It is incredibly disrespectful and unforgivable for a father who is in good health (and not currently incarcerated) not to attend his child's funeral. All of you defending him, he's got you fooled by his sad victim schtick. Don't buy it. He's a selfish putz.
If he wasn't involved in her life then he better not seek out her money in the future…if her being his daughter alone isn't a good enough reason for him to be involved in her life…then this dead beat dad doesn't deserve a dime of her money either!! loser!!
i still cannot believe it
this is so sad
RIP BRITTANY M.
Maybe the man can't afford the trip. You never know. I can sort of see his point.
No Perez, some people just aren't strong enough to go to a funeral. I went to my daddy's funeral (my first funeral) and had to leave immediately for anxiety attacks. It's really hard for some people to deal with death, and seeing a dead body just ices the cake.
Re: luvstotango – Simon Monjack is a British screenwriter, not a 'lowlife scumbag'; they chose to marry each other, and he probably gave Brittanysome of her best love and life moments. Thank heaven she at least had that before she left this earth.
Maybe his exwife is a psycho bitch and he is smart and didn't want to cause
her to have a scene at his daughter's funeral.
In a way, that is respectful of brittany.
i usually understand you perez but if he dad wasn't there in her life for WHATEVER reason why should he be there for the funeral? if he would prefer kidding himself she is off on a movie and seeing her in a perfect light why the FUCK shoud you fucking judge him.
yeah her mother is attending. thats neither here nor there. i'm so not close with my father but if he didn;t want to attend my funeral for WHATEVER reason, thats his, mine and my mothers reason. not YOURS.
Gone too soon. RIP baby girl go with the angels. Everyone grieve in their own way.
In response to those who think this guy is a scumbag. Yes. He's bad. He's doing bad things. But obviously he cared enough about her, to keep her away from all of his dealings. I can't assume 100% that this is his reason. But if it is, he is a better father, than the one, who allows his child to become caught up in his affairs.
He's righttt !!
What a piece of shit! I hate it when someones says they are not attending a funeral because "It will be too sad!" People always seem to make everything "all about them."
Thats just sad!!!!
He can fucking go to the funeral if he wants. Sure, he should go, but if he feels he doesn't want his last memory of her to be dead in a casket than i understand. stfu perez and get an effin life
Yes, funerals are a way to respect the deceased and to say goodbye. He should have gone. Although sad and distressing, funerals provide closure.
I was unable to attend my mother's funeral (she passed away 12/9/09). A second service is planned for the summer which I will attend, but I will regret not going to the first one forever. We couldn't make it because the airlines were booked solid from where I live (Christmas time) and my father requested we wait until the second service that's to be held in the summer. He was afraid of us traveling during winter, with the bad weather and all. Still, it pains me that I didn't go anyway, but I wanted to respect my father's wishes.
All I can say is Brittany Murphy's father will regret his actions someday. He had the choice of going and didn't.
I know it's hard for a parent to see their child go first–that's not supposed to happen. Still, I think her dad should have attended. This was his child, his daughter, and the only fitting way to make peace would have been to say one last goodbye.
Just my opinion, coming from a grieving daughter who recently lost a parent.
First I want to say we lost to many bright and unique people before their time should have been up. Second comment is Brittany's Father WAS Mafia affiliated. I dont feel thats the reason because he has been commenting in the media. You cant get any more high profile than that. Every person mourns and deals with death in different ways. Especially a parent whose child is priceless to him. My husband can not attend funerals either. He tried so hard to go to his grandmothers funeral. He made it as far as the door. He stood there for a half hour trying to open the door and go inside. He felt that his grandmother was so full of life the last he saw her and he couldn't bear to see her lifeless. Sometimes not attending funerals are better for some of us. The purpose of a funeral is closure for those who need it to start to heal. We all deal with death differently. It's more important to show respect to the living. If you wait till the funeral it is too late. I feel so bad for her Mom Dad and Husband, your not supposed to bury your child, they are supposed to bury you. Just take some time to imagine the pain her loved ones are feeling before you spout out hateful ignorance.
nobody likes attending funerals……but it is a respectful thing to do and a way to say good bye if he was not there in her life all the more reason to cope with it and go and show her and her family support.