Malawi Gay Couple Split!
Only a week after Madonna was able to have the Malawian gay couple freed from prison after there were arrested for essentially being homosexual, Steven Monjeza has left Tiwonge Chimbalanga… for a woman!
Steven told the press that he was tired of the hostility he was facing not only from his community, but directly from his family and no longer wished to be associated with homosexuality for that reason. He released a statement, saying:
"I have had enough. I was forced into the whole drama and I regret the whole episode. I want to live a normal life … not a life where I would be watched by everyone, booed and teased."
Steven has now started a relationship with 24-year-old girl from Blantyre. As for Tiwonge, he is standing true to who he is and suggests that Steven is with a female lover just "to hurt" him. He explained:
"But I am not worried. You cannot force love, and nobody forced him when we did our symbolic wedding in December…I will also marry because there are lots of good men around. I will remain a gay."
Good for you!
But DAMN, after all that, after Madge had to step in to save your asses from prison, to see it all end like this…just doesn't seem right.
Thoughts?
[Image via AP Images.]
Tags: gay rights, malawi, split
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See! the gays are just like the straights! uh duh.
u know why this happen? cause they are african who lives in a poor country and its prison caused their privacy. they regret cause they are beeing bashed by being gays. her madgesty daved them from prison with other forces (onu,unesco) poor. hope madonna talks about this when she will return to malawi. congrats queen for the efford
This is so funny, the grass is greener on the "Other side", he found the errors of his ways, got tired of having to share each others briefsa…..anyway no rightious indignation from you Mario??????….could not have said it better Shan-z
I have an idea. How about you moving to Malawi and hooking up? You can't find anyone desperate enough here to be seen with your ugly ass. You two sound perfect for each other. Maybe you could take your mom and sis too.
So they should stay together just for Madonna? I don't think so….
Its so sad, that his to scared to be gay because he will be shunned by his family. People really need to understand we live in the 21st century and that you can't help your sexuality. Seriously being in prison for being gay, so stupid!
As soon as the world and Madonna weren't paying attention these two would have been killed or rearrested. The one guy only did what loads of gay Catholics, Muslims, and Mormons do…pretend to be straight to avoid violence or discrimination.
Gay relationships are especially tough in general. It sometimes seems that 80% of the world does not wish them well. It must be especially tough being gay in a third world country. Sad.
I have a thought: Mind your fucking business for once eh? If you hadn't been bellowing from the rooftops…and Madge & others had quietly been able to influence their release from prison…perhaps they would have had some space to make choices WITHOUT THE FUCKING WORLDWIDE PRESS in their faces eh? YOU STIR UP TROUBLE FOR GAYS EVERY TIME YOU OPEN YOUR TRAP PEREZ.
Not only am I sad for these men, but that poor woman! I pray they do not "accidentally" bring any children into their farce. That's what happens when gays are treated this terribly. People seem to forget about the faux partners & the pain they are caused as well. Great job though, Madonna for your efforts!!
stupid homos
Madonna didn't do it all herself!!!!!!
There is NOTHING wrong with being gay and being gay is NOT a choice. You are born with it. You got testorone as a fetus and that can be a resultt
FUCK MADONNA, that woman did not save anyone. Those men would have been released eventually and would have gone back to dating. All Madonna did was make it into a media spectacle and now the two men have the world watching them. American imperialism is to blame, and the laws and religious views in African at the present time for the man who wishes to live a normal life. Once again, MADONNA IS NOT THE HERO HERE!!!!
Madonna's goal was far more wider than just saving these two.. She did it to send a message of acceptance and tolerance. And you LOQUITA..SHOULD KNOW THAT.
Maybe they say the clip of Jim Carey ramming that dude from behind and realized how discusting it was.
AHHH, LOVE. it's complicated.
fuck you perez, they don't owe you or Madonna or any other gay person or gay supporter shit.
one of the guys is just desperate to escape the life-endangering harassment he's getting. i think he's still gay, obviously, and is just trying to get ppl to leave him the hell alone. but he doesn't OWE anyone shit.
fuck, despite her name Madonna is no saint, she's a mean-spiritied, control freak, narcisstic adulterous skank who happens to have great PR and songwriters.
Whatever Perez, maybe if you're safety and security was at risk you'd remain closeted too. Who can really blame him, obviously he can't change himself inside, but can we fault him for wanting to try in the face of what he is up against there?
Ungrateful ni99ers
Why the FUCK would we care?
He got tired of eating poo-poo.
Oh Perez, you deluded gaylord. You still think Madonna got them free. Fucking idiot you are
Re: KatieBremer – other than what you said about being gay not being a choice (totally agree with ya!), your statement is pretty inaccurate. Both male and female babies have testosterone. It is actually a gene, not a hormone.
Re: Andy27 – disgusting racist
:0 Aahaahahahahhaha
Sounds like they (or at least one of them) are being coached into these statements to avoid further controversy and/or imprisonment.
So he will be another "married" man secretely trolling for gay sex. Wait until his village gets internet!! Poor guy.
I also feel sorry for that woman. Life's too short to be someone's beard.
YOU EVIL BASTARD, I HAVE PEOPLE OF ALL RACES IN MY FAMILY & VARIETY IS THE SPICE OF LIFE. BLACK, GAY, JEWISH, WHATEVER - WHO CARES?!!
I AM PRAYING FOR YOUR PAINFUL DEATH…AND FOR OTHERS IN THIS WORLD WHO ARE EQUALLY INTOLERANT AND EVIL AS YOU!!
Re: chaot1c – No… testosterone is a hormone. But as you say everyone has it so quite how it would make you gay I don't know.
I don't blame this guy at all, but I do feel sorry for his girlfriend who is now dating a gay man.
Nobody should be forced to live a life in secrecy. I feel for the entire country that such backwards minds have such profound influence. We should all pray for the children of Malawi who are growing up thinking it's not only okay but justified to hate other human beings on the basis of their sexual orientation. Nothing against what Madonna did there, but she should exercise some of her influence in the United States of America (her own damn country) to get Homosexuals treated in a dignified manner. We are all human beings and things are a lot easier when we have the basic love, trust, and empathy that God gifted each and everyone of us with. Peace guys.
Gays ALWAYS seem to split more than hetrosexuals!
Did an Anne Heche, huh??? Turn off the "Gay" like a switch!
Re: i wish i was a she-wolf – lol..no no, I didnt phrase that right. Testosterone is a hormone of course, but it is not what causes people to be gay. That is caused by a gene. I need more coffee..lol
If they didn't choose to be gay, none of this would have happened. No pity here!!
Last I checked, sexual orientation is not a choice. Guess things are different in Malawi!
Re: shwendal – did you choose to be straight? I often wonder at people's demented idea of logic. You cannot choose who you are attracted to any more than you can choose your hair or eye color.
Re: Andy27 – sad 2 c there r still idiots like u around
i guess he didn't love him enough to stay with him after all they went through!
mario why wont you move to Malawian? just stay there!
Re: No Talent_Blogger – That is what I was going say. Right on.
I once knew a guy just like hm. Now he is married, a firefighter and living in Panama City Beach.
Thoughts? I think you are fucking delusional if you think Madonna and Madonna alone got them released from prison.
Gay or not, too much stress on a relationship can kill it dead. Poor things.
Thoughts? Well I think no one gives a shit about two gay guys in Malawi. Isn't this supposed to be a gossip site? These two guys aren't famous and I couldn't give a rats ass about them breaking up. People break up all the time, big fucking deal.
poor girl.
this guy gets zero sympathy from me. i find his statement to be a GIANT step back for any gay equality as he is saying that since it wasn't easy he can switch his feelings….so so wrong. I hope people are smart enough to realize that he's just scared to live his live how it feels natural due to opretion. I hope the girl understands that too so that she doesn't get gutted if things don't work out…or know that he's only with her cause it's "socially easier".
just to prove they are confused!
Re: KatieBremer – You're a retard! Men have testosterone women have estrogen and both male and females get both hormones just one more than the other!
Re: umyeah – right on! My point exactly!
Re: chaot1c – it is a hormone, not a gene!
madonna didn't HAVE to do it.
it was her choice.
just like it is his.
it's unfortunate that he's ridiculed for being gay.
but that comes with the territory, especially in a place like malawi,
and not like in california, where it is more accepted.
i totally understand his reaction and choice.
i honestly don't think being gay/straight/bisexual is anybody's business. it's a personal, private matter that doesn't and shouldn't have to be shouted from the rooftops!
He should be able to whatever he wants, regardless of whether or not Madonna helped to free him, the point is that he shouldn't have been in imprisoned in the first place. Everyone should have the freedom to choose to be with whomever they want, and be accepted for their choices. I am not defending his cowardice because he did not try to retain his rights and provide an example, but I don't blame him because of all the pressures and trials he faced because of his choice. You, Perez, as an gay rights activist, and being gay yourself should understand that. Or are you simply willing to say such appalling things for blog views?
The heart wants what the heart wants. But this still seems like a little f*ked up for the gay movement. It's gonna give that anti-gay folks all the more ammunition. People are gonna start thinking they used "gay" as an excuse to get out of prison. Not too mention it's a bit of a slap in the face for those who pulled so many strings to get them released.
Man thats shity Steven Monjeza apprently is scared for his life and possible his families life as well. Its ashame that he has to live a lie for the sake of ignorant vicious people.
Re: No Talent_Blogger – thats a great idea. problem is im not sure there are any men desperate enough, even in malawii, to be with perez. he is THAT fowl. anyway, problem with this story is that now there will be all these weird born again christians/religiouse righters who will say that this is proof that a gay man can simply turn straight. the truth of the matter is , this guy is still gay but he is forcing himself to live a lie because it is impossibly hard to be gay in that country.
Now he pretends to be straight. Brilliant idea……. lol.
Perez stop telling other gay men how to live their lives!
If you aren't outing them you are telling them what to do.
Get over yourself!
Soooo sad
Sad that people have to be fake and be something they're not just to "fit in". I'm very proud that Tiwonge is going to stay true to himself. Steven will never be happy lying about who he really and truly is. But - I understand why he's doing it. Fear drives people to do things they normally wouldn't do otherwise. It's still really sad though. I guess now that there's a black President in the US, the racists have to find another outlet for their hate - and being gay is the new black. Sad. Love brings so much peace, I wish all people could open their hearts and love unconditionally. Peace & Love, people… Peace & Love.
Re: jjfromgoodtimes – Very well said. Madonna is a self-serving egotistical narcissist. She is a fradulent knock off of Angelina Jolie. She adopted a child from the country, and now wants to free two gay men from prison who would have been released eventually. Although I support gay rights in the US, nevertheless pseudo-liberal celebrities like Madonna needs to stop parading around like media-whore demagogues. Madonna can always return to her plush rich life in the US. This man has to return to his community and face ridicule from friends and families. Not all gay men want their private lives advertised!
Oh, shut the fuck up, Perez! Madonna DID NOT get them released from jail, you stupid twat!!!!!!!
I feel sorry for the woman who took him as a boyfriend. She's fucked up in the head, HE'S GAY YOU MORON. FIND SOMEONE ELSE.Re: Spindoc – that's no excuse, they should stay single or grow a pair of balls and change that religion or country.
You don't have the right to deceive someone else like that because you want to prove to others that you are 'normal'.
Re: KittyKatt – lol..yes i know, read my later response. I hadnt quite finished my thought when I hit submit, so that didnt come out as intended:)
Re: shan-z – huh?
I feel bad for these guys
to have to be what u r not
or one was just using the other for sex
don't they think if u not the "girl" then u not gay?
For fuck sake, Madonna had shit all to do with them getting released. Despite this, you're saying Steven is selfish for getting with a girl. After what he's been though- going to jail, with the prospect of spending 14 years doing hard labor, no wonder he wants a normal life. Not everyone is as brave as Tiwonge. Use your acid tongue for the people who deserve it!
Perez, have you ever stopped to consider that being heterosexual is Steven's true self and maybe he was telling the truth in his statement? Not everyone has to be gay, you know.
"after all that, after Madge had to step in to save your asses from prison"?? WTF Did you know that Mia Kirshner did way more and before for them than Madonna? I mean Puh-lease!