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An Open Letter To Gay, Bi & Transgender Teens - From Dave Navarro

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The rocker just sent us these very wise words!

He says:

"Ok everybody, here is the deal. I cannot imagine what it’s like growing up in a close minded environment and being gay, bi or tans-gender. I don’t think any of us who aren’t can possibly imagine. The strength and character it must take to stay true to yourself in such an unforgiving microcosm are qualities that a major portion of the world lacks… Sad, but true. It’s just how it is at the moment. However, it’s that very strength and character that gives the world hope for a new way of thinking and acceptance in the future and when one of our children gives in and gives up, it is not only a tragedy but a victory for those who fear diversity. DO NOT LET THEM WIN! I know how overwhelming the feelings can get and how small the reality can feel, but the bottom line is that this is but a drop in the bucket in terms of the magnitude of life. You can get through this. High school is full of plenty of bullies and fear based hate, as is the world. With any group of people comes a percentage of people who just don’t get it and probably will never get it. That’s OK. We all deal with this to an extent. The truth is that in High School, you are kind of stuck in the group you are a part of until graduation, but trust me… You can pick and choose who you associate with and there are plenty of like-minded people in the world that are understanding, accepting and loving. Sometimes, we just have to stick it out to meet them. The hard cold reality is that once you have chosen suicide, that’s it. No going back. Sure, there is a public outcry and MAYBE the bullies feel remorse for a while, but it all dies down, life goes on, the bullies let the memory fade and get on with their lives. They learn to laugh, love, reach their goals and in many cases go on to have a full and productive life. Who loses? You do! Your family! Your friends! Other teens who need support in this area! Oh yeah… We all Lose! Now the world has one less mind that is open and different and unique and sensitive. Instead, we inherit the bullies, the fear, the set back… Our world has one less soul to help it evolve with a new level of clarity. Personally, I have seen a lot of darkness and tragedy that has felt insurmountable. The murder of my mother, my battle with drug addiction, the loss of friends and family. Utter depression and despair. Of course the thought of suicide has crossed my mind a time or two. Let me share this. THANK GOD I never took that action. The friends I have made, the experiences I have had, the laughter I have shared would have all been missed. In hindsight, some of my darkest moments now seem so small and insignificant that I am amazed I gave them so much power at the time. I am even able to laugh about it now. When I think back to the times I have considered ending it all I end up saying to myself, “What was I thinking?” To those of you contemplating such a course, please do us a favor. Seek counseling first. Find a network of people who have gone through what you are going through. Help others in even more turmoil than you. I am certain that you can find peace. As you know, our society and political climate is SO divided right now. We need your voice. The world at large needs your sheer existence in order to come to terms with itself and where we are going as a planet and species."

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61 comments to “An Open Letter To Gay, Bi & Transgender Teens - From Dave Navarro”



  1. 1

    Paragraphs. They're your friend.



  2. 2

    Exactly.



  3. 3

    *yawns* TL;DR



  4. 4

    Dear Dave - Thank-you…this well written thought may save a life today! To all those gay, bi and transgender folks out there - be strong and embrace who you are! You're perfect beautiful humans. Exceptance is out there. Peace :-)



  5. 5

    How amazing to have someone like Dave write something with so much truth and meaning. I hope anyone contemplating suicide has the opportunity to read what he has to say - it is very inspirational.



  6. 6

    Very Cool Dave!



  7. 7

    He looks queer to me. Probably he's in the closet still. Mario - you should out him!!



  8. 8

    Nobody could have said it any better. Thank you Dave for spreading hope into hearts!!



  9. 9

    I love me some Dave!! He's a cool dude and fucking sexy!



  10. 10

    Please do not group transgender in with gays. Gay people are normal. And you bisexuals need to decide you ARE NOT both. Sorry to rain on your PC parade.



  11. 11

    Bravo Dave. Bullies need to be prosecuted, no matter what the age. Fines, minor ( hours, a day or so) jail should be instituted.. counceling ordered. Kids need to be taught it is NOT OK to treat another person badly. There has to be consequences. If the bullies were adults, it would be called harrassment and they would be arrested. There has to be consequences, and then it will subside.

  12. D4S says – reply to this


    12

    Beautiful and Encouraging. *tears*
    thanks Perez for posting this.



  13. 13

    wow, that was great, i never knew Dave was this deep, kids everywhere should have a copy of this letter.



  14. 14

    Awesome Dave!! #ItGetsBetterProject on YOUTUBE!!



  15. 15

    claps



  16. 16

    Thank you Dave Navarro for stating so eloquently what many of us are thinking. I wish when children are in high school or college they would realize how minor it is in the whole scheme of life. So sad that so many people are filled with so much hate. until everyone gets past the bigotry, bias, racism and hatrid, we will never be at peace.



  17. 17

    What a fucking whiner. Shut the fuck up. Everyone has problems, deal with it you pansy.



  18. 18

    Well said Dave :)



  19. 19

    Re: truthabove

    You insolent little girl! I belive it may be time to give Aunt Helga a call to bring over her enemas to teach you a good lesson!



  20. 20

    DO YOU REALLY EXPECT US TO READ SOMETHING THAT LONG? WRITE A FUCKING BOOK. LOSE THE GAY SHIT PEREZ.



  21. 21

    Very nice letter from Dave. I will put it even more simply: What is the absolute worst case scenario? You are horribly bullied for an entire 4 years? That is just a little flea flick of time when you consider your whole life ahead of you. Get through it. Do whatever you need to do to hold it together and remember they are the assholes, not you. You are going to have a hell of a lot of fun when you get out of there and you can have much more control over who you surround yourself with.



  22. 22

    Don't Hate! Tolerate! Dave you now ROCK in a new way. I hope your truthful message can bring some hope to someone in this ugly intolerant world. Life is what you make it, grab it and don't let go!



  23. 23

    Re: LetttyB
    well you can't read, so why do you whine? just keep on looking at Internet porno. That is the American culture at its best.



  24. 24

    Does anyone really give a shit on what Dave thinks???

    Read a book loser! Get yourself EDUJAMACATED!



  25. 25

    I think he did a beautiful job and people should really listen to this letter.



  26. 26

    Dave Navarro is a class act. I have one of his guitar picks that he handed me at a show last summer, and I treasure it. Such a nice guy and this letter further proves how caring he is.

  27. smb says – reply to this


    27

    Dear Dave, you're a douche. A 45 yr old man still wearing mascara isnt cool.
    When a diatribe begins with "Heres the deal" I tune out. And you used exclamation points and capitals like an hyper 16 year old. I thought you were cool in Janes in the 90s. Then you began to morph in the kind dbag you are today.
    Hugs and Kisses,
    Anthony Kiedis



  28. 28

    HE IS A STUPID DRUG ADDICTED MORON. ANYTHING HE HAS TO SAY IS WORTHLESS. THE TRUTH IS BEING GAY IS A SICKNESS AND AN ABOMINATION AND ANYONE THAT SAYS OTHERWISE IS AN IDIOT



  29. 29

    wow… that was beautiful!



  30. 30

    good on ya Dave!!! Couldn't have said it better myself… He's a smart guy.



  31. 31

    I have always thought of Dave Navarro as a little-above-mediocre guitar player who happened to be in the right place at the right time when Perry Farrell walked by. I still do. I also used to think he was a scuzzy, slimey guy who just screwed every chick that was concious and a drug addict. I was completely full of shit in this regard. Dave, I still think you're no more than a lucky guitar player but I also think you're a wonderful person with a rare sensitivity and your letter is so warm and convincing that you have probably saved a life or two with it. Just keep using condoms when you're screwing all those chicks…and….whatever else! This world needs a few more Dave Navarros.



  32. 32

    These are words that should be shared at all schools around the world!!!! Such truth and insight is so hard to find in these times when freedom of speech, expression, belief and freedom to love whom and what you want are not so much freedoms as we are lead to believe. Thank you David for really using your celebrity to truly do good! It starts with our youth! And personally I feel they all need to be more open-minded and accepting!



  33. 33

    Re: truthabove – you are a seriously disturbed individual! People like you with that kind of attitude are the ones who will "burn in hell" Hate, ignorance, fear and a refusal to understand will destroy this world!!!!



  34. 34

    This is beautifully said. It is truly a tragedy that in a society that has the ability to create fascinating technologies we are unable to break free from discrimination and hate.



  35. 35

    I very much appreciate all the celebs making these positive statements and videos. GLBT kids need to know it will get better and…they need to know what they can do now. Their life is happening RIGHT NOW. They may watch your video and think, "great, it gets better, but I still have to get up and go to school tomorrow and face another day with the bullies." I would suggest you add to your videos specifically HOW it got better. They need to know where there is REAL support and people who will actually take action for them.

  36. @v@ says – reply to this


    36

    Nicely done. Spoken like a true musician.

  37. @v@ says – reply to this


    37

    Re: Jazz-Hands Chaz – He's hardly whining. He took the time to write this (as per a previous post from Perez asking celebs to please contribute/weigh in) to help high school kids who might be feeling alone and bullied.



  38. 38

    Why so much negativity from you guys (rude comentees)? Just RELAX and breath. Make this environment and the environments around you a peaceful. No one is out to get you or destroy you. Simply be there for one another. No one will think you a fool or inadequate.

    Thank you, Dave, for being enlightened more than I am.



  39. 39

    Yeah Navarro, jump on that wagon.



  40. 40

    Sorry I have no AVATA yet.
    I am one that lives my life in the gay, Lesbian and transgender world. I was born intersex and happen to be lesbian as well. During my life I too have thought of suicide even doing work that could have ended my life at any time. Sorry I do not usually address letters to celebs but your letter hit a common string we all have to live with. I too have faced bullies over the years but the word "faced" is the word I want to leave in your mind. I am now 65 and am one that works with many boys and girls and men and women who think about ending it and finding another place to be. Once I addressed my life and faced those bullies in life I can now walk with my head up looking life head on and keep going. You that are thinking of ending it we are losing good people to the bullies of the world. Think again, take a deep breath seek help and by all means join a community that you have so many things in common with.



  41. 41

    By the way, you're not going to hell as some want you to believe. If they believe in the Bible as much as they say they must believe in Jesus. Jesus Says "I am the truth. If you believe in me you believe in my father. My father has a mansion with many rooms and I have gone to make a place for you." When you are at the judgment day Jesus looks into your heart not your body. those that preach hate will be the ones that need forgiveness of their sins.



  42. 42

    love dave



  43. 43

    Too bad the two children from california and texas hadn't seen this before they ended thier life recently over this matter. For the ones that think this is too long to read or says read a book or ALL the negative comments go f@ck yourself!! This is a real problem and there are young adults ending there life over these issues.Kids can be real cruel and we all deal with it in different ways and when it comes to a child ending thier life over it it breaks my heart. I have children, for all the ignorant comments you must not have any or you probally where one of those bullies. It's is nice for somone to take the time and write a letter like this.Thank you Dave….



  44. 44

    Well said Dave! *clap clap clap*. I think it's so terrible that our youth are taking their lives because of being bullied for race, sexual orientation, whatever. It's terrible. Jesus is LOVE–why should it matter who someone else loves? How about we worry about what WE do, how WE treat other people, live our lives with integrity and respect for others instead of judging someone else for who they love or the color of their skin!



  45. 45

    why do people have to bully others, just because a boy or girl are gay deos not give them the wright to torment them to the piont of suicide. do they realy no what they are doing or do they not care, live and let live, i am a gay man and have a lot of straight friends, if any one deosnt like me for who i am then i say to them fuckoff and dont invade my space…….



  46. 46

    very moving



  47. 47

    Right on David and Rock on! Well said and I hope your letter reaches all those young souls and get your lovely message! Wishing you continued success!!



  48. 48

    amen dave



  49. 49

    I



  50. 50

    To Dave Navarro… Thank you. To all you little negative *****'s and haters … get over yourselves. Do something impressive with your life before you critic anyone else and hate all you want… toghther we are stronger than you will ever even be close to… even on your best day… Again to Dave for putting this out there and Perez for sharing…. Kudos!



  51. 51

    Re: truthabove – Ah yes yet another "believer" pasting his warped bigoted views on our creator.



  52. 52

    Truthabove, you make Christianity so….entrancing. I wanna get in on some of that *eyeball roll*



  53. 53

    Re: LetttyB – yes because it took a whole 3 minutes to read that is unless you are an illiterate dumb twat. and btw um perez's blog was built by the gay.



  54. 54

    Re: MarioMonjack – Wow you are so intelligent. I can really see you point because you put it all in caps. Die now we need the oxygen please.



  55. 55

    Of all the trashy nonsense things that can be spewed on the Internet, someone actually took time to pen something thoughtful.
    Incredible words Navarro!! Thank you for doing this, and Perez -good on you for being open to sharing this as well.



  56. 56

    You know it's truly sad when someone does something to try and help others cope with a rough situation and some little snots still feel the need to spew hate and ignorance.



  57. 57

    Well said, Dave! I'm straight but supportive, and all this news about these kids committing suicide because of being bullied due to their sexual orientation has got me really pissed off. If you ask me, anyone who bullies a kid or adult because of sexual orientation, if their actions lead to the suicide of the bullying victim, they should not only face hate crimes charges, but homicide charges as well since it was their malicious actions that led to that person's suicide.



  58. 58

    It is one thing to have compassion for a disturbed,lost ,misguided person who has allowed their life ,soul and spirit to be consumed by the foul demonic spirit of homosexuality.This lifestyle needs to be avoided at all cost.When you lace sexual perversion and the emotions of our human nature you create a toxic effect which affects and infects all those who have contact with the sadly lost and deceived person.We as childern of The Most High God must begin to pray and ask for wisdom and compassion for these people for they are deceived and on the fastrack to eternal seperation from God.This deadly lifestyle must be addressed and we must bring the Truth in Love not judgement,fear or hate.These lost,hurting people need true love and understanding from a compassionate,loving,and dedicated few.Stop Infecting Our Children (The ones you don't abort)with this deadly sinful lifestyle.Come-Out of the Closet and enter into The Prayer Closet where if you truely ask God will deliver.



  59. 59

    I never knew that he could write such a beautiful letter. Thank you Dave. You are an exact example of the people we need in our world to promote diversity and it's acceptance.

    As I always said since I was a young child; Change is the way to the future.



  60. 60

    Dave is awesome, cute ,cool and well spoken. The republican christo/fascists are spewing their hate here ,how pathetic.



  61. 61

    Re: truthabove

    Ok seriously…how ignorant can you be? Judging by this, off the charts. Typing in all caps doesn't get your uneducated and ignorant point across any better, it only makes you look that much more uneducated and ignorant. Now lets take a look at the fact that you fling around terms like "homos" and "fuck you assholes" and wrap up the entire comment with "May God show us mercy!"……really? I'm sorry for you….and that's all I'll say.