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A Letter To Gay Youth & America From Bette Midler

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Spoken beautifully.

Bette Midler has written a letter in regards to the string of suicides in the gay youth community and coming from the heart, she implores people, especially parents, to go by the motto "live and let live" and teach this moral to the youth of today.

She writes:

It is a sad, sad day for America when young people would rather die than endure one more day of hatred and relentless persecution. As a mother, I am ashamed of all the parents who have failed to teach even the most basic human lessons to their children, "Live and let Live" and "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." The normal, everyday kindness that we took for granted just a few years ago is a thing of the past, and I for one, mourn it deeply. Technology, the Internet, with its anonymity, have allowed people to behave like beasts, pouncing on the weak and howling with laughter when they inflict a wound, that only the strongest could survive. What are we doing to ourselves? How are we to survive as a nation, when hate seems to be the only thing that motivate us??

Four children are dead by their own hand because they just couldn't take any more. How many more are we going to sacrifice to the hyenas? Isn't it time to stop??

– Bette Midler

We couldn't agree more!

It's time to put an end to the hate and the pain! Everyone is someone's son, daughter, friend, family, and loved one!

Just remember - It Gets Better!

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27 comments to “A Letter To Gay Youth & America From Bette Midler”



  1. 1

    Once again Perez, you should practice what others preach! You are the biggest bully online. I love how you intersperse these anti-bullying posts with posts picking on Christina Agulara and Kristen Stewart. Get over it you big hypocrite!



  2. 2

    Perez, you are most unwelcome in the gay Men's world. Sorry, that's just a fact. You make disparaging comments about your "supposed" own kind all the time. When you call certain male celebrities "gay face," you are in fact, insulting us. You are known for making remarks that insult and belittle gay men… how dare you try to now consider yourself one of us! We do not want you! You are NOT one of us! You are a talentless fame-whore and nothing more. Go away! You are NOT a gay male! You are a … creature.



  3. 3

    I'm having a hard time understanding how someone who makes it his job to pick on people and make fun, is at the same time attempting to convince people that bullying is a bad thing. That is how you make your living. It just seems a bit odd… unless this is the first step in a change of ways..



  4. 4

    bandwagon is getting awfully full



  5. 5

    Lovin Bette!



  6. 6

    Who gives a shit what Bette Midler has to say about it? Get more well known MALE celebrities to say bullying gay people is wrong. Get some black rappers to stick up for gays.



  7. 7

    Oh please. I agree with her wholeheartedly, my brother is gay and I don't know what I would have done if we hadn't been in a place where he was accepted the way that he was. That being said, what the hell is she talking about? This is the most open minded era when it comes to gays. Yes, there are some closed minded assholes in the midwest who still torment these kids, and that is despicable and sad, but twenty years ago the AIDS epidemic made all gays suspect. They called it the gay cancer. Decades before that Rock Hudson died silently of AIDs because it was just so unacceptable even in liberal hollywood to be a homosexual. Ten years ago Ellen Degeneres almost lost her career after coming out. It was this generation that embraced her. When exactly was this "normal everyday kindness" the norm?



  8. 8

    perez, could you be any more of a nightmare. i agree with what people are saying. your an internet bully. the way you dog lindsay & damn near anyone who isn't lady gaga is deplorable. i'm sure it has a lot to do with the fact that you put monsters from horror movies to shame. i pray that another fist of fury rains down upon your fat hideous face.



  9. 9

    It’s laughable how hypocritical Perez is. Starting an anti-bullying champaign on a blog BASED on hating, mocking, and teasing people.

    You’d think someone who used to be obese, gay and ugly would understand how awful it feels to be teased… but then again, thats probably the reason he started his shitty blog in the first place.



  10. 10

    SHE IS LITERALLY TALKING ABOUT YOU. YOU ABSOLUTE FECKIN DUMB AS$$!

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    11

    Perez the children and teenagers who bully others learn hate from sites like yours amongst other places. This is something you're clearly in denial about as you clearly don't seem to understand how hypocritical your sentiments during these times are…Jessica 'simpleton' is "someone's daughter, friend, family and loved one", Kristen Stewart is "someone's daughter, friend, family, and loved one"…..I would really love it if you could step up and address the elephant in the room on your site. Perhaps this situation has given you time to re-evaluate how you conduct yourself- and if so fantastic! You praised Lance Bass for stepping up and admitting he was one of those cowardly bullies at school….perhaps it's time for you to step up and admit you've been wrong too. It's a huge elephant I'm afraid and i think you need to address it if you want anyone to take your posts (however well intentioned) seriously…



  12. 12

    I am aghast at your attempt Perez! Pah-lease!!

    I feel for all the family's out there that have lost a loved one for the sake of bullying. My sincerest condolences and prayers are with you in your time of mourning.

    Perez, 1 word: HYPOCRITE! Stop trying please!



  13. 13

    again, it is not just gays being bullied, remember phoebe from Mass. Yes, all this has to stop, whether it is bullying against gays or straight students. I am glad Franken is trying to get laws enacted, BUT NOT JUST FOR GAY STUDENTS BEING BULLIED. and as for all these PSAs by celebrities, DO YOU THINK THAT KIDS THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE ARE READING SOMETHING BY BETTE MIDLER (probably would go WHO?, my kids would) or any of these c listers? They are thinking about killing themselves, they aren't seeing what is happening in hollywood and NEITHER ARE THE BULLIES!!! These celebrities should be hounding politicians to get laws on the books for cyber bullying, stricter stalking, bullying through texting ,etc. AND JAIL TIME EVEN IF YOU ARE UNDER 18! and make examples of the first couple of dozen cases so bullies know you mean business. As long as they think nothing will happen to them, they will think it is funny



  14. 14

    Well said, Bette. Children must be taught, carefully taught.



  15. 15

    Where was this attitude when the media (including Perez) were bullying the Palin children–including the baby with Down's Syndrome! The hypocrisy is astounding.



  16. 16

    A beautiful letter by Bette Midler, that I wish you would take to heart Perez.

    Being kind and forgiving isn't only for gay teenagers, it's for everyone– the celebrities you don't like, the ones whose looks and taste and character you make fun of– they're people too, and your blog epitomizes the hatefulness spreading across the internet that Bette Midler blames for spreading pain in this letter.

    I hope that in the future you will lead by example in treating others as you wish to be treated. You have an audience, now use it for good.



  17. 17

    READ CAREFULLY PEREZ: Technology, the Internet, with its anonymity, have allowed people to behave like beasts, pouncing on the weak and howling with laughter when they inflict a wound.

    This is how you make a living.



  18. 18

    I think your blog is entertaining, but you are one of the most relentless and mean gossip bloggers that exist. You probably don't care what others think about you, and i think it's great that you want to help the gay teens-But you are one of them now and you get paid to do it. You look like a bit of a fool.



  19. 19

    The biggest gay bully is Perez….



  20. 20

    Seriously…

    "Technology, the Internet, with its anonymity, have allowed people to behave like beasts, pouncing on the weak and howling with laughter when they inflict a wound, that only the strongest could survive"

    This is YOU Perez! You attack people's children on here, you make fun of people in anyway you can, you tear people down on this public forum…you are cruel and a spiritually bankrupt individual.

    This is YOUR legacy Perez/Mario.



  21. 21

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  22. 22

    Very commendable sentiments and rather surprising coming from you. Now that you've shown some compassion for some fellow human beings, is it too much to ask that you extend that compassion to the rest of them? Perhaps a little less hatred and prissy priggishness? Perhaps a little less mincing from the rooftops? Perhaps a lttle less drooling over boys like Zac Efron and Bieber? Oh the best for last! How about a little less shameless toadying to Lady Gaga. She's good, but she ain't THAT good!



  23. 23

    Gee Perez, more people than I thought see through you. Dude, the gay world does not want or need you. You're a terrible person who is cruel, bitter, hypocritical and purely out for himself. Your words are your Waterloo dude… nothing you say or do now will change what we already know about you. Sad part is, I doubt you ever read your own crappy blog to see the truth. Good part is, other people do and they're the one who've decided you were a waste of time.



  24. 24

    Blah blah blah!!! Just another celebrity jumping on the new band wagon of the month. Now we have gay bullying. What about ALL the people that have ever been bullied for a million different things? Oh, that's not an "in" cause that's showy enough? You're all a bunch of hypocrites. Especially you Perez. You bully people in your own column every single day. Jennifer Love Hewitt, Jennifer Aniston are just two of them. THe list is horrendous. You should be ashamed of yourself. But you won't be because you're just too stupid to understand.



  25. 25

    I couldn't agree more with the comments below. Perez, it's very hypocritical of you that you are posting all of these stories against cyber bullying, when that is basically what you do…every day… FOR A LIVING! You are only adding to the problem, BB



  26. 26

    Re: hamnip – If the bandwagon is going the right direction, it's a good idea to get on it! Besides, Bette has always been pro-people. Not a new stance for her. I hope Perez is listening. I think he could still be successful if he were kinder.



  27. 27

    Bette Midler ROCKS MY WORLD!!! Thank you Divine MM.