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14-Year-Old Throws Himself In Front Of Tractor Trailer After Years Of Gay Bullying

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Another devastating loss.

Brandon Bitner, a 14 year old boy from Snyder County, Pennsylvania, ended up his life on Friday night by stepping in front of a tractor-trailer rig after enduring years of relentless bullying.

In a note written beforehand, he revealed that he didn't have it in him to endure another four years of being called a "faggot" and "sissy" at his high school.

The Midd-West School District's superintendent, Wesley Knapp, claims that with the exception of an undisclosed "humiliating incident" in the cafeteria a few days before his passing, he had received no reports of Bitner being bullied.

He explains:

“I’ve been questioning myself. We can’t be too conscientious. If we see a kid who seems to be hurting, we need to single them out [for help]. The fact they don’t report it doesn’t let us off the hook. We need to reach out to kids. We’re going to try and do a better job.”

Bitner's cousin Katie Goodling continues:

“People have to know — and I’ve been getting his story out on Twitter, Facebook so people can read it — that this can happen to anyone, even people you don’t suspect.”

We can't even begin to express to his family and loved ones how sorry we are for such a tragic loss.

Again, we BEG anyone who feels bullied, tormented, confused, or alone to please speak out to someone.

There are people who love you and need you! There's so much happiness out there that can be yours, it just takes a little time and a lot of courage to find it sometimes! And we promise that it's worth the wait!

It WILL get better. We promise you that!

R.I.P. Brandon. You are in our thoughts.

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117 comments to “14-Year-Old Throws Himself In Front Of Tractor Trailer After Years Of Gay Bullying”

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  1. 1

    WOW what a Cool way to go….might put it on my list of "Maybe's"



  2. 2

    sounds like a plot of out "the happening"………….



  3. 3

    OMG THIS IS SO SAD :( R*I*P



  4. 4

    Such a loss! Why do people who bully these people finally understand that they are 'killing' their victims. If they left him alone, he would never have done it. They are the guilty ones. Let them live with it.



  5. 5

    How come you only post stories about gay teens being bullied? Get off your gay agenda and learn that there are other people outside your gay group idiot. More straight kids kill themselves because of bullying, but you never post a story about them.



  6. 6

    honestly people; move to Canada, we dont discriminate



  7. 7

    What an asshole! Just think of what that has done to the driver of the truck!



  8. 8

    this just makes me cry…. So horrible. There's gotta be a way to make this stop!



  9. 9

    Another young cute kid life lost … That's really sad. Bullying = Ignorance



  10. 10

    It happens everyday, not just for gays. Talk to people about it instead of just bottling it up. It will never get better if you don't say anything.



  11. 11

    this is so horrible. rest in peace, brandon. :-(



  12. 12

    What people dont understand is that kids dont come forward when they are bullied…sometimes coming forward is an admission and for some kids admitting they are gay is to difficult to acknowledge, it is almost a justification for being bullied, …. see… there is a problem, its me, I am gay.
    so sad……



  13. 13

    Okay, gay people who kill themselves make gay people look crazy.
    Suicide=Going to Hell.
    Why do these 14 year old's tell others they are gay? Kids are cruel, they like picking on people who are different.
    Killing yourself doesn't prove anything. It's not going to change the future.
    If everyone committed suicide everytime we got picked on, we'd all be dead.
    Get Home Schooled if you can't handle school. It's ok, school isn't for everyone.



  14. 14

    well he did look like a queen

  15. Dxxx says – reply to this


    15

    Let this be the last…



  16. 16

    DONT KILL YOURSELF KIDS!!! THINGS ALWAYS GET BETTER AS YOU GROW UP AND YOU CAN BE ANYONE YOU WANT TO BE!! SERIOUSLY - IF YOU'RE BEING BULLIED REPORT IT AND TRY TO GET OUT OF THE SITUATION. -THINGS GET BETTER! YOU'LL HAVE SOOO MUCH FUN WHEN YOU'RE OLDER AND EXPERIENCE A LOT OF AWESOME THINGS!! GET HELP! GET HELP! GET HELP! DO NOT KILL YOURSELF! XOXOXOXOXOX



  17. 17

    Re: OpinionatedasFvck – I hope you get hit by a bus



  18. 18

    wow…very shocked at some of the comments that are being left on this page..goes to show how mature some of you are and that you dont have very high IQ's. Thank you Perez for putting this story up on your website, as I live in the town next to this young man, we as a community are shocked. It has been a rude awaking for some people and I hope this opens up alot of peoples minds both young and old that their words and actions do hurt. We are letting this family know that we are here to support them and that they are in our thoughts and prayers. As I have said before the lessons needs to start at home with the parents. I certainly hope this boy had not passed in vain and things will change. May God bless you Brandon and your family at this time. May the Lord be with you all

  19. 6one9 says – reply to this


    19

    This is messed UP!! No doubt!! My daughters HS does not bully gay/lesbians @ all according to what my daughter says. Maybe CA accepts people for who they are. One good thing about Cali“ I guess! :)



  20. 20

    Schools need to inform their students that bullying of any kind will not be tolerated and then enforce those rules. Bullies are the lowest form of pond scum!! My heart breaks for those children who choose to take their lives rather than endure another day of pain at the hands of their school mates. What a sad world we live in.



  21. 21

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    Hey kids, there is only one way to deal with a bully and that is to confront them. It is not easy. It is not fun. But it is the only way.
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    Go ahead. Take advice from idiots like Fatboy here. Run. Tattle. Have others fight your battles. It will sharpen your cowardice to a fine point and you will end up just like Perez - an ugly, callow worm with no backbone.
    -



  22. 22

    Re: KDIZZLL – you can't tell people not to be gay, that's like telling a black person not to be black.



  23. 23

    There is no excuse for this. It's got to stop and kids are stupid if they resort to this. It's not the answer at all! After school it will get better. If they let the taunts get to them then it will break them down.



  24. 24

    Let it be known to all that Brandon was NOT gay. He was simply accused of being so. So for you who say that Perez has a "gay agenda", while im generally not a fan of perez, this isnt true, he wants sad stories like this to be known



  25. 25

    This kid obviously had more going on than just being bullied. No one jumps in front of a vehicle to be run over without some mental issues… It appears that homos are some of the most mixed up people on the planet… ahhh… makes sense.



  26. 26

    Thank you Perez for posting my cousin's story. And thank you readers for your support.

    And just so you all know, who are pointing out that "gay bullying" is the only thing people pay attention to, my goal and my family's goal is to alert everyone about ALL types of bullying. BRandon never said he was gay, but people assumed so. People also called him things like geek, dork, etc. So we are standing up for EVERYONE, because that's what HE wanted and what HE said in his suicide note.

    Thank you again for your support.



  27. 27

    Kids who bully have horrible home lives usually. I cant believe that no one tried to help him during the cafeteria incident! My daughter is 16 and always opens up her mouth to anyone who is saying mean things about someone else. Im so proud that she sticks up for these kids who are made fun of and taunted!!



  28. 28

    Re: Jolanda1981 – no, being a weak person is not the bully's fault. grow some balls and stand up for yourself.



  29. 29

    Thank God for the bug screen.



  30. 30

    Re: ba-buttons – don't often agree with you but you hit the nail on the head.



  31. 31

    Re: Jolanda1981 – You are an idiot. why do people think bullying just started yesterday. kids have been bullying kids for as long as i can remember. the problem today is kids are babied there entire life and can't deal with anything. When they face adversity they throw in the towel.



  32. 32

    I think you might be doing more harm than good by continuing to post about these tragedies.



  33. 33

    You know this is terrible, honestly. And I have to say that it doesn't seem like the "It gets better" Campaign is working so well AND! I have to wonder if there isn't something bigger going on here. It seems like we have had an awful lot of gay boys killing themselves just with in the past 6 months or so.



  34. 34

    Creative suicide technique! A little risky, he could have ended up alive but with no legs?



  35. 35

    You said you were going to STOP reporting these suicides, Mario. WTF? Straight kids get bullied to and commit suicide. Let's not make it more of a big deal than it is.

    Poor kid tho :(



  36. 36

    =[ Damn. R.I.P. =[



  37. 37

    i hope ALLL bullies rot in hell.



  38. 38

    Easy solution.

    ASK YOU PARENTS TO BE HOMESCHOOLED. Then you don't have to be around any kids to pick on you and your parents don't have to be home with you all day if you are over the age of 12.

    These kids are not looking for other solutions except the easy way out.
    All going to hells kids…..oh wait.. most of them don't believe in God. If they did they wouldn't be killing themselves.



  39. 39

    Re: weContinuetoLearn

    homeschooling

    homeschooling



  40. 40

    Re: 6one9

    we have just as much bullying.

    we just don't have tractors to jump in front of dumbass!



  41. 41

    This happened not too far from where I live. Apparently he was a very accomplished violinist, despite his young age. Anyway, I was bullied when I was younger, but I can't imagine being hurt to the point of throwing yourself in front of a truck…



  42. 42

    the way i see it is the press should stop showing pictures and names of the kids killing themselves. it makes it a publicized way of ending there lives for these mixed up kids. they know the media will make a big deal of it and that is probably over shadowing the bullying. i was bullied my entire life for being an actor and never once considered killing myself. man the fuck up and deal mwit it. stop glamorizing mit.. media needs to get better.



  43. 43

    Wow. Some of you really need to grow the fuck up and learn to be mature! Brandon was NOT gay. You people that are making smart remarks and thinking this funny, YOU ARE A BUNCH OF BULLIES! This is why shit happens and people do stuff to them selves! This Is SAD! NONE of you know what its like at that school. That principal, is full of shit. If the teachers were doing their job, Brandon would still be alive…You cant tell me that not one teacher didnt notice bullying..Its EVERYWHERE.

    Seriously people, Grow up and act your age…the ones that are acting mature and saying stupid shit, go back to fucking kindergarten or something..LEARN SOME RESPECT!



  44. 44

    Re: BlueEyedBaby

    *Acting Immature

  45. Waboo says – reply to this


    45

    Wow, that's awful. Don't know what to say about that. Why don't these kids just punch one of the bastards in the face, then they'll back off.



  46. 46

    as a gay male in their 20's i can say that these children are not the first of people to be bullied about being gay, but i think that what needs to happen is that the news and media outlets need to STOP BROADCASTING YOUNG GAY SUICIDES! i say that because if these teens really feel as though they don't want to continue and have nothing to live for, then the idea of being all over the news seems like a way out and a way to feel loved and appreciated… yes there are bullies, but there also need to be parents that let their children know how special they are….



  47. 47

    Maybe his family could of helped him out. Doesn't he have a cousin, brother someone who could kick some ass for him, stand up!



  48. 48

    People treat you how you let them.



  49. 49

    Yes, this is very sad. I have a bullied son and this breaks my heart… BUT… I feel just as badly for the truck driver. Selfish way to go, IMHO.



  50. 50

    tractors move so slow, wtf.

    I think if we are going to report on bullying, it should not be just about the gay kids. ALL KIDS are being bullied and are hurting themselves over it.



  51. 51

    This young man had zero regard for the well being of the truck driver.

    Just as he felt his life was ruined, he went and ruined an innocent drivers life.

    The trucker will forever be haunted by this event.

    Any sympathy I had for this young guy is now gone. How dare he psychologically destroy this truckers life. A man who was just doing his job and not bothering anyone.



  52. 52

    If my kid was gay and being bullied at school I'd pull him or her out SO FAST it would make your head spin. There is so much more to life than school and I'm sure this kid had many talents that will now never be recognized.



  53. 53

    Good riddence, just one less attention whore in the world.



  54. 54

    perez, i think its great you address these stories. i have a teenage son. and i couldnt imagine loosing him..This is truly sad.



  55. 55

    KDIZZLL your an idiot



  56. 56

    Re: sensfan999 – um brandon was not gay. He was straight, but the kids who were bullying him assumed he was gay.



  57. 57

    Re: karenl – Brandon was not gay. He was straight. The children who were doing the bullying assumed that he was gay. They Accused this poor child of being homosexual when he was not. That is what was going on.



  58. 58

    what i want to know is where were this kids parents???? did they not notice that their child so depressed? his parents could have changed his school… moved…. anything. this could have been prevented. :-(



  59. 59

    I'm sorry for his family… honestly this seems to be a trend now. It's like kids are killing themselves to make a statement..anyways..Bullying sucks regardless of what you are being picked on for it sucks..but just because a lot of people are killing themselves doesn't mean you should too..IMO it is a selfish way to go..his family, friends and others will mourn his death forever. This is sad that people get to that point..I wish kids had the courage to seek professional help. Talk to someone anyone..before they kill themselves. Kids get bullied for being, short, smart, fat, gay, stupid, ugly, anything..it's so stupid I hope all these bullies feel like shit and karma's a bitch.



  60. 60

    Re: sockie

    Your ignorance knows no bounds.



  61. 61

    killing yourself won't make them stop the bullying.. they probably won't even feel bad that you're dead. so why not defend yourself and do something about it. idiots.



  62. 62

    bummer, he was adorable!



  63. 63

    Instead of crying over the kid how about people show a little sympathy for the driver? He now has to spend the rest of his life knowing that he killed somebody. Even though it was s suicide and couldn't have done anything about it, he will have to live with that forever. I have had friends that drove trucks that had to deal with people committing suicide this way. Plus it makes an awful mess. Do you know how hard it is to clean the blood and guts out of your grill?



  64. 64

    As someone that was bullied in middle school, I find it sad that only the homosexuals are being covered on here. I am a huge gay advocate, but I am really about human equality. I am a black female, and feel that if Perez is going to constantly bring bullying up, he should make it not just about those that are gay and killing themselves. There are black kids, white kids, heterosexuals, ect being bullied that take their lives. Where is the coverage for those that are not gay?



  65. 65

    I always knew Americans were more ignorant than most, but wow! Just reading the comments made on such a tragic post disgust me to my very core.

    Grow the fuck up! Look outside your little safety bubble behind your PC and realise people are different! It's what makes life interesting -but pushing them to the point of suicide is unexcusable and tantamount to manslaughter



  66. 66

    Re: purpleoctopus – But the only reason fatass posted it is because it has a gay angle. Show me one post he has made about this issue where the word "gay" is not involved.

  67. dae27 says – reply to this


    67

    Re: tonyloc – I agree. Showing names and faces and detailed stories is kind of glamourising suicide for the teens who are gay & bullied. No wonder why they are following each other the media gives it good attention, instead of focusing on fixing the problem by raising awareness by other means only. Respect that person and their death instead of blowing their face up and saying how tragic. It is only going to encourage the next.



  68. 68

    To those of you who find this story amusing, shame on you. If only you had to suffer the way this child has suffered. I live a few miles from where this boy lived. Please understand that this child walked over 10 miles to reach the busy highway where took his tragic last step. This boy was quite intent on ending his suffering. He had plenty of time to think about what he was going to do. This region of Pennsylvania is very rural, making homosexuality even more taboo than it may be in other areas of the United States; however, being backwoods does not validate being bigoted and narrow-minded. To find humor in this boy's demise makes you no better than the bullies who pushed him to take his own life.



  69. 69

    To all of you uneducated idiots that wrote hateful comments about this young man, YOU are the ones that are going to burn in HELL for being judgemental. Oh and by the way being gay is not a choice. Oh and the person that commented on this young man going to hell for taking his own life, where did you get your information. It sure isn't one of the ten commandments. Tell me where it says in the bible which i'm sure you never read that if you take your own life you burn in hell???? And people who bully are the ones that have mental problems and issues that are deep seated. PEOPLE GROW A HEART!!!!



  70. 70

    I'm really getting fed up with this glorified media coverage of people killing themselves because they can't reach out to people like their family, friends, counselors when times get rough..and the media coverage doesn't help anything either. In fact I feel like the more people talk about it, the more kids will think that ending it all is the way to do things. This is turning into a real life 'Heathers'…and maybe instead of preaching nonsense about everything "getting better" we should offer ourselves up as guidance and support to those people struggling with tough times. It's a lot easier to be idealistic when you are looking down at the world from your pedestal celebrities…i'm just saying.



  71. 71

    How messy. I'll bet he never has the guts to do that again!



  72. 72

    Perez - keep up the good work with making this topic of gay-bullying top-of-mind. You will save lives, and that's amazing.



  73. 73

    So sad.. RIP to Brandon. I feel awful for his family.. =(



  74. 74

    Re: kteliz
    I'm so sorry for your loss, thanks for posting this.



  75. 75

    Poor truck driver. He'll have to live with that too.



  76. 76

    Re: laniladd – First, learn to use a capslock key. Second, go fuck yourself. Seriously…go FUCK yourself. Thanks.



  77. 77

    Re: OpinionatedasFvck – You are something else!!It doesn't matter what he looked like, who he loved or how he ate his wheaties…he is a human being who deserves to walk in society with the rest of us. RIP Brandon!!



  78. 78

    Some of you people make me sick!! This is the problem in The world today!! People are discriminated in all walks of life. It doesn't matter what they look like, who they love or where they live. If someone finds something they don't like about you, thats all it takes. Brandon was a sweet boy, who deserved to live a full life. Unfortunately, because of the acts of others he was denied happiness. He felt the only way to relieve his pain was to end his life. Our culture is what defined his feelings!! He and everyone else deserve respect. I don't care where you come from..I love you each and everyone!



  79. 79

    Re: OpinionatedasFvck – seriously because a young man is cute you comment he looks like a queen poll your head out of your ass n get a fucking life asshole…he was a very sweet young man who needed help..he was also a friend of my daughter..what a fucking asshole you are…



  80. 80

    Re: quorum – I feel more sympathy for the driver than I do for the kid. I don't know how I could live with myself if I ever killed someone. Although it wasn't intentional, someone's life was taken right in front of his eyes and he couldn't stop it. He's got to be deeply affected and scarred for life by this. :(



  81. 81

    Re: KDIZZLL – you are nothing but a piece of shit why don't you throw yourself infront of a bus moron



  82. 82

    I also went to this same school and had to leave due to anti-gay harassment. The district is at fault here, I have no doubt!



  83. 83

    Teen suicide is not new. The media picks up stories of public interest and runs with them because they sell. The recent rash of suicides has received all kinds of attention so, of course, we will hear more about them now than we did before. The digital age also makes it easier to get these stories out on a global scale, whereas before it may have only been carried in local news, but not national. I just wish there was a way to get through to these kids. When you're in high school, that closed little world seems like the whole world and it seems life is always going to be the way it is there. When you get in college, all the people and things you knew miraculously change, and what was important or popular just isn't anymore. How many tales are there about the high school outcast becoming the college hottie? Or the cool kid becoming invisible? You look back on those old days and realize they don't matter at all. You can outsmart idiots by ignoring them and knowing who and what you are inside. Words can't touch you. You don't need the approval of cretins, they are nobody. Know where you're going and focus on the future to get there. None of these words will resolve the pain you're feeling, but curing a headache with a sledgehammer isn't the answer. Grip tight and grit your teeth. Weathering the early storms will teach you skills for later in life because life isn't for the fainthearted. None of us gets off that easy.



  84. 84

    umm has this gay suicide been happening for ages or is this seemingly 'mass suicides' a recent thing…. and just anyone who is considering it, killing yourself is pretty much giving 'bullies' exactly what they want. whatever they are bullying you about be proud of it. And remember all teenagers are twats. in five years time none of what they are saying will matter.



  85. 85

    It is awful that this young man was bullied and no one should have to suffer like this.
    That being said, I have lost all sympathy for him because he has ruined another life, that of the driver. How dare he? Who did he think he was? What, his life was ruined so he felt justified in ruining another innocent person's life?? Absolutely despicable. He had no right to do that.
    I feel so much for the driver and hope that he/she doesn't allow this awful event to swallow him/her whole; they are in my prayers.



  86. 86

    I feel bad enough for the kid but moreso for the driver. If you're going to do it try not to fuck up innocent people's lives!



  87. 87

    I am a truck driver, how do you think I would feel if I was the driver of this truck. What if this truck was hauling hazardous material, like radio actives or explosives or poisonous gasses? Then not one or two lives are affected, you are looking at thousands or even hundreds of thousands of lives. And I see comments like this is so cool. Sick people. You jump out in front of and/or thrown something at another vehicle, charges should start at attempted murder and include risking a catastrophe!



  88. 88

    I live in the mid-west, they all say oh we didn't know anything was going on, they did, someone did, at least some faculty could see something was wrong, I too was in a situation like this and feel horrible that he had to die, I hate to say it but even in death, where he lives it's not going to give a damn, just another statistic, I'm sick and tired of people not being accepted because of who they are or think they are I want to give people the courage and say you are not alone, yeah, you've heard it before but you aren't message me if you need to talk Cphwdy13@yahoo.com,



  89. 89

    gays have brain problems , thats also why they kill themselves. there will be a gay cure. its a chemical problem in the head



  90. 90

    Re: R Scott Burnheimer V-Max – thank you for bringing that up. He was a 14 year old kid in pain, and he wasn't thinking about the consequences of his actions, like most kids don't. They just don't have the life experience to know better, but perhaps you've enlightened someone enough to make a difference.



  91. 91

    Re: quorum – dam that was good!



  92. 92

    I live about 15 miles away from where this took place, poor kid I feel terrible.



  93. 93

    All you "NICE PEOPLE" posting mean comments, you're terrible….he was someones son,.



  94. 94

    This is very sad BUT young people who identify as LGBT are not the only ones who gets bullied and therefore committ suicide. I have love for everyone but the homosexual lifestyle as well as any lifestyle that is in rebellion of God is not cool…w/ that being said I don't condone bullying in any way but for some reason I think that all of this attention that has been given to these types of situations as of late is just another push to make homosexuality accepted as the norm.



  95. 95

    hey perez, how many kids killed themselve because they're bullied becuase off their race, religion, weight, appearance, of just for no reason at all.

    your shuttin out people your selve, just like bullies do.

    you make it look like life's harder when your gay, but it really not. because everyone has a hard time in liffe one way or the other. you only focussing on gay people and gay rights just adds to the seperation you want so bad to go away.



  96. 96

    I have kids and my heart does go out to this family BUT at the same time, it's time to teach our damn kids to stops being little b's and toughen up! WTF?
    Who hasn't been teased growing up?

    People made fun of me, my dad didn't speak good english, while others had normal meals like mac and cheese and fried chicken I was eating enchiladas, aroz con gandulas.

    Like I tell my kids RIGHT NOW~ life isn't going to get easier~ so you better toughen up.

    All this GAY BULLYING~ GTFOH~ it's starting go to far,now everytime a gay person jumps in front of a tractor were going to blame it on bullying. Maybe Gays are mentally disturbed~ PEREZ obv. is.



  97. 97

    reading some of these comments makes me sick to my stomach. and i dont think perez is just focused on gay bullies and just something he truely cares about and wants people to relize what one word could do some one this poor boy thought he had no other way out, he was 14 years old and hadnt even lived a full life. so if you one of those people on here makin rude comments just so you can laugh and feel better bout yourself shame on you i hope one day you relize what words do and maybe think twice bout what you say. rip brandon my thoughts are with you and family



  98. 98

    jesus. i can't believe the number of horrible people who go on this website and comment on the stories. people making jokes about this? i guess all those people who make fun of this will be the ones in hell when they die. people on this website who are cruel are just plain monsters. you're obviously losers with no lives and friends. people like you don't really deserve to live. so sad.



  99. 99

    Re: oohd!rtysecret – I AGREE!



  100. 100

    Re: karenl – You wrote, "Why do these 14 year old's tell others they are gay?"

    Most of the time they don't. Bullies pick on kids who they think look or act gay. Lots of times the victim is not gay at all. The bullies don't take the time to ask or care.

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