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Church Hero Asked To Leave Church After Coming Out!

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Jeanne Assam Comes Out

You might remember Jeanne Assam as the security guard that saved many lives in 2007, as she took down a rampaging gunman bent on destroying those who were a part of the New Life Church.

Unfortunately, according to Assam, the church supposedly doesn't welcome her now that she has revealed that she's gay.

If you don't remember that tragic story, here is a small recount:

On that morning, 24-year-old Matthew Murray shot and killed two New Life parishioners after having murdered two others the night before at a training center for Christian missionaries in Arvada. Heavily armed, Murray would have killed many more at New Life, had it not been for Assam, who was working as a volunteer security guard.

Assam was outgunned but undeterred. She fired repeatedly at Murray, wounding him and pinning him down. He then shot himself.

So incredibly brave. She had also been a member of the church she was defending.

And then, she came out as gay, and claims the church told her this:

Thanks for saving our lives, but please leave now, because we don’t like what you stand for.

If that's true, it is so so sad. But the church tells a different story:

“Absolutely untrue,” said Boyd. “We welcome everyone at New Life. We would never tell someone to leave because of their sexual orientation. Jeanne will always be a hero at New Life.”

So what's true?

We can def see the church not accepting her and her orientation because in 2006 Pastor Ted Haggard left the church on the grounds that he'd had a relationship with a male escort.

She has done so much physically for them, and now she can do so much for the gay community as a role model.

It would be a huge asset to have her as part of your congregation for many reasons!

Jeanne, we respect everything you've done and stand for! We're hoping you're accepted no matter what!


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72 comments to “Church Hero Asked To Leave Church After Coming Out!”

  1. 1

    Why does it seem to me that the only ppl that have a right to stand up for what they believe in are the homosexuals and other special interest groups? Stop trying to force others to except something they feel is wrong. There are churches, clubs, etc. that cater to this particular group. I'm not for segregation but i am for ppl getting the hell out of my face with their lifestyles. OK I get it… you're gay. Good for you.

  2. 2

    She should have let those religious bigots be massacred. Thin the herd.

  3. 3

    I believe her.

    What does this woman have to gain by lying about the church not allowing her to be a member anymore? She risked her life to save these people.

    What does the church have to gain? Well, they have to save face now, so of course it's "untrue" via their spokesperson.

    Totally sad. That woman is an amazing hero.

  4. 4

    Re: Shelah – Are you serious????? The only reason homosexuals have to stand up for themselves is because we live in a society where we are discriminate because of a "book" that brainwashes people into judging and hurting people for being different than them. When everyone has the same rights then I will stop outwardly standing up for gay rights!!! What if you were alive when women couldn't vote and you voiced your concerns and some stupid bitch on the internet said blah blah blah why does it seem to me that the only ppl that have a right to stand up for what they believe in are the WOMEN and other special interest groups?

  5. 5

    Re: tallrob11 – blah blah blah…

  6. 6

    Re: Shelah – And their religion isn't a lifestyle CHOICE? You are fucking retarded

  7. 7

    She says one thing, and the church says another. Can she PROVE it? I doubt it. It's unjust of you, Perez, to assume that the church is in the wrong because of what happened with Haggard; that situation has NOTHING to do with what's going on now, and you know it. STOP SKEWING THE FACTS TO SUIT YOUR MILITANT GAY AGENDA. Your "church hero" is probably disappointed that her days of praise are over and is looking for a way to get more attention. What better way than to position herself as a gay-rights champion so that idiots like you will swallow her story hook, line, and sinker? You're a bigoted ASSHOLE.

  8. 8

    Re: tallrob11 – I have zero issues with homosexuals. But I DO have an issue with posts that aren't checked for facts, and I DO have an issue with the fact that Perez knowingly posts stuff that will cause conflict and get his pet issue attention. My point is to GET THE FACTS before you decide who's right and who's wrong in the situation. NEVER take what Perez posts as accurate. Now watch the gutless asshole not post this.

  9. 9

    Sounds like there may be more to this story - or a misunderstanding. Ousting a pastor for having an affair with a male hooker does not necessarily mean the church is uniformally homophobic. They probably dont like their straight pastors hanging out with female "escorts" either.

  10. 10

    I have HAD it with this kind of crap! This woman (who is a wonderful human being and strong beyond comprehension) CHOSE to join a church where homosexuality is viewed as a "evil" and a "choice" that people make. She spent who knows how many years pretending to be one of those people.

    Not all sects of Christianity see homosexuality in this way. Why not join a church who believe God loves all of his children instead of just the "right" ones?

    Perez - this woman made a choice and has no business griping about it now! Stop it!

  11. 11

    Re: jordanjm – Some "christian" sects discriminate against homosexuals, and that's wrong. But there are those that don't, and to not actively differentiate between the two types is as wrong as discriminating against the gay community. Two wrongs don't make a right.

  12. 12

    I live in Colorado Springs. I am one of the few more liberal people here, and certainly not a fan of this church. I am VERY VERY pro-gay. However, I just don't really believe this story.
    Gay or not, Jeanne Assam has a history of dishonesty and publicity seeking for her own financial gain.

  13. 13

    Re: tallrob11 – Keep in mind, this woman CHOSE to join this particular church. There are many sects of Christianity that DO NOT discriminate against homosexuals and that preach that God loves all of his children.

  14. 14

    Stay classy, Christianity.

  15. 15

    Re: tallrob11

    I'm sorry you are so close-minded to God's word. Christianity is about loving the sinner and hating the sin. Most Christians believe in that.

    Also, Teg Haggard was clearly mentally and spiritually ill, and unfit to be the spiritual leader of his church, for the Jesus said "Why do you care about the speck in my eye and ignore the plank in your own." One who is addicted to meth and engages in homosexual prostitution is unable to help others with their needs.

  16. 16

    Re: La Garse – i was simply commenting to Shelah and her stupidity!

  17. 17

    Re: Shelah – Look, stupid, there's a thing called discrimination, so that's why homosexuals are advocating for their rights. Just because gay rights groups exists doesn't excuse Christians from casting judgment on them! The Bible can be interpreted in many different ways, so you can't prove that being gay is a sinful choice. And NO, I'm not going to "get the hell out of your face" until I see justice in this world for everyone!

  18. 18

    Re: tallrob11 – Whatever, you just attacked me because i was the first post that wasn't all in defense of gay. Your opinion means absolutely nothing to me. I'm thinking maybe now i'll try to join some all mens group somewhere and cry to the media when i'm shut down. Hmmm, or maybe i'll find an all gay church and start pushing my heterosexual agenda. That would sure be a change.

  19. 19

    Re: tallrob11 – THANK YOU! How do people expect to gain their rights if they do nothing? Taking action is key here. Too bad SHITlah doesn't get it.

  20. 20

    Re: Midnight Empress – pfft. you can't take pieces of the bible for your own use. it's either taken in it's entirety or not at all. quite frankly, seems to me that the awesome wonderful gay ppl. here are strife with judgement and discrimination. y'all crack me up. keep it coming to prove my point that you too are judgemental…

  21. 21

    Jesus would have been friends with her. I'm a Methodist and we would take her. We like to practice what Jesus taught and love all. Everyone needs God's love. He isn't saving it for those that do the right thing. It isn't the Church's place to discriminate. The Church is there for us to learn, but the burden of judgment some choose to wear isn't part of Christ's teachings. I'm pretty sure Jesus was against most of what the churches are brainwashing us to believe now.

  22. 22

    Re: Shelah – Not everything is black and white, dummy. Much more often than not, there's a gray area between with various shades. Did Jesus pick and choose who he wanted to die for? NO. He died for everyone. BTW, no where in my previous comment did I judge you. That's just your failed attempt of a comeback.

  23. 23

    Ummm Hello Perez-they go by The Bible-not your opinion.

  24. 24

    I'm sick of people picking and choosing with religion. This doesn't only apply to Christianity but sodomy in the Bible is wrong. If you want to be in a same sex relationship, you can't fully be a Christian. The Bible shouldn't be changed to suit people's needs- if you want a relationship with God, you have to be right before HIM, He can't change for you.
    And as for Perez using the "pastor" as evidence to suggest that the church is lying… if he had been having sex with a male OR female escort, he probably would have chosen to leave regardless as either way I doubt the church would condone it. Your argument doesn't really make much sense.
    I personally have nothing against homosexuality and don't have any time for discrimination against homosexuals, but I believe people are entitled to their opinions. Not everybody HAS to agree with gay marriage etc, it would completely take away our freedom of speech. To each their own!

  25. 25

    Re: Shelah – Being gay isn't a choice, but your bigoted attitude is.

  26. 26

    Well said, Shelah !
    Also, God hates the -sin- not the sinner….so, all are welcome and loved in a true Christian church. According to the bible, homosexuality is a sin…..as is adultery, murder, stealing….and others. But, God loves all His children. This church should welcome her with open arms and support her as she turns from her sin.

  27. 27

    For the record, Haggard was also a meth head who admitted he had those relations with the male escort so he could get meth to take while he masturbated. He just recently admitted this. Yet, for some reason that bit of info was omitted from this post and was meant to leave the reader thinking he was asked to step down as paster merely because he was gay. Hidden agenda not very cleverly hid.

  28. 28

    You cant rewrite the Bible to fit your lifestyle people……2000 years ago, God spelled out the difference between right and wrong- you cant change that. God does love all people…but, he hates the sins we fall victim to.

  29. 29

    Paster has an affair. Good reason to leave the church, because as the leader, he will lose respect and authority.

    Unmarried member dates. Probably even has sex. Big deal.

    Take the sexual orientation out of the equation and see the difference.

    If someone actually said "Thanks for saving our lives, but please leave now, because we don’t like what you stand for", I'll eat my hat. No one speaks that way.

    If someone said something similar, it was probably some holier than thou member of the congregation with no authority. Every church has one or two.

  30. 30

    Re: Christy Clark

    Wll said. Many gays join the church I go to because they know they are welcome. You just don't hear those stories. "Church in town excepts everybody" Not an attention getting headline.

  31. 31

    I find it hard to believe that ANY church (with the possible exception of cults) would turn ANY person away. The entire purpose of Christianity is to bring in sinners and introduce them to Christ. If anything, I would imagine the church members are fervently praying for her.

  32. 32

    Perez, Haggard's situation is completely different. He had an affair with a whore, which is not only immoral, but also gross.

  33. 33

    Jeanne Assam - Those circumstances are hardcore. I am glad Assam was so honest, brave, but I feel sorry for her circumstances. You can't put preacher on your resume and hope to get a job right away in this economy.

    Thomas Chi

  34. 34

    It seems strange that she would make this up after spender so much time volunteering and being a member of this church…oh yeah, and saving lives! As a Christian I feel I can say the CHRISTIANITY IS AWESOME…except for all the darn Christians. Some members of my Lutheran church broke away after the ELCA voted to allow homosexual members and pastors last year. I thought that was lame then, and I think it's lame now. Jesus loves EVERYONE and he doesn't care who you want to date.

  35. 35

    Unbelievable and sad.

  36. 36

    Recent studies have shown support for gay rights and marraige is like 75% in the 18-29 age group and only 30% in the over 60 age group. Things are changing and the bigots will soon be running scared….treated in afew years as racists are treated now.
    Even the GOP is beginning to realize this trend and is changing their tune on gay rights.

  37. 37

    Many churches allow gays to attend but not be in leadership or employed by the church. My church does not allow divorced people to become a senior pastor. When the senior pastor hired a divorced woman her title was not even associate pastor BECAUSE she was divorced. I think God is a loving GOD to ALL mankind and the church's RULES hurt mankind and the church.

  38. 38

    I think Churches should welcome people who are gay, I just don't think they should take on leadership roles within the Church.

  39. 39

    Re: Shelah – "i am for ppl getting the hell out of my face with their lifestyles."

    Ya, so get your 24-7-365 days-a-year STR8 lifestyle out of my face.

  40. 40

    Re: Shelah – "you can't take pieces of the bible for your own use. it's either taken in it's entirety or not at all."

    Follow your own words. Kill your disobedient sons. Don't eat pork or shellfish. Shun menstruating women. Have a slave. Etc. Etc.


  41. 41

    Religion is a choice. Being gay isn't.

  42. 42

    Re: Shelah – you are right so re read Leviticus and see where it talks about shellfish being an abomination and hooved animals are not to be eaten and you can sell your kids into slavery and stone your wife and no work on the sabbath etc…. yeah don't pick and choose!!!!! no divorce!! til death do you part! adulterers should be murdered…blah blah blah!!! there is a lot in the bible that people don't follow!!

  43. 43

    Re: flubbzi – i agree! not everyone has to agree with it but everyone should have the same rights! i don't care if people like me being gay or not but i do want the same rights as i am a taxpayer too!

  44. 44

    If you want to belong to a church that has specific beliefs, then you have to conform to those beliefs. Otherwise find a new church. If this church teaches that homosexuality is a sin, then you shouldn't be openly homosexual. It's just like complaining that as a Muslim, you're not accepted in a Christian church — why would you want to be there in the first place? Either you believe what a church teaches or you don't. No one is forcing you to be a member.

  45. 45

    There's nothing new about this.. name ONE religion that accepts homosexuality -_- ?

  46. 46

    Re: tallrob11 – i hear ya. honestly though, i can't say Christianity is a religion based on equality for everybody (speaking as a Christian myself)- for example, us women are taught to submit to our husbands as they're the head of the home. I guess some Christian extremists take it too far, but it is not a religion of hate. We don't hate homosexuals at all, but if they join the church and want to be devout Christians then they have to follow the 'rules' so to speak. Just like everyone else! :)

  47. 47

    This didn't have to be a big deal, but now we will make it a big deal. She should have let them die, I would if I had known they wouldn't appreciate my presence later on. And no, I don't feel bad for saying that, I have extreme views.

  48. 48

    PS. "Thanks for saving our lives, but please leave now, because we don’t like what you stand for."

    That is extremely insulting. Yeah, okay, she is gay and being gay goes against the beliefs they teach - but they could have had a more classy message than this. They shouldn't be SO fixated on her life anyway. Anyways, she should have let them die. tootles ~

  49. Tasos says – reply to this


    Your conduct in regard to these matters is why so many may fairly and reasonably question your sincerity about your supposed reformation. How stupid and mean-spirited can you get, Perez, to claim what did about Christians because of Haggard. If that was an acceptable standard of judgment, then all gays are shallow, dull, divisive, bigoted and intolerant haters, because you are. Cease using your site to demagogue those with whom you disagree. It is evil.

    I tend to believe both parties. The Church probably applied its standard
    "Love the sinner, but hate the sin" position, and Ms. Assam may have been offended and hurt when she came out, and learned that the church, while it loves, values and welcomes her, could not celebrate her sinfulness in identical manner that it could not celebrate cohabitation and premarital sex between straights (but it would still love and value them, too).

  50. 50

    …sounds like a movie. …well, I bet the church did ask her to leave @ first. Then they recanted & publically said she's welcomed. (Yet I bet they'd have a problem if she brought a lady friend.)

  51. 51

    ah…. take the bible in its entirety or not at all? this would be the most… er, "ignorant" line i've read on this page. maybe my entire life. u have to understand that the bible was written by men whose opinions were what would be common during those times. in the bible, men are superior, shelah. would you submit to men now, because you take the bible in its entirety? for some reason, i wouldn't be surprised if you said yes. so technically, you should respect all males (gays included) since we are inferior.

  52. 52

    If I heard this trash church burned to the ground, or the asshole pastor were trampled by a herd of elk, or Mrs. Asshole Pastor were eaten alive by honey bees, I would be delighted. Why can't they just let people live their own lives. If they can't, then they deserve the worst this universe has to offer. What miserable fucks they must be.

  53. 53

    Hey, everybody! I just heard that Shelah has invited everybody with a dick or a dildo to come over and ram her — your choice of orifice!

  54. 54

    the new pastor of New Life was a senior pastor at my church and I know Boyd would never kick someone out because of something like this. While, we don't agree with the lifestyle, he wouldn't ask her to leave the church. If anything, he'd just ask her to no longer be a mentor. Boyd, is a very good man with a good heart and I know he dealt with the situation the best way he saw fit.

  55. 55

    . . why would she want to join a church that disagrees with her beliefs??

  56. 56

    Clearly, the Christian Bible is interpreted by Christian theologians as opposing same-gender sexuality, so why would you expect to force that on them? Doing so causes them to disobey their own God, because you are demanding them to embrace a person which "they" believe is acting against the word of God. Quit beatching about it, and start your own gay church, because you are not worshipping the Bible in the mainstream anyway, instead of trying to push your way into a private club where you are unwelcome and unnaturalized to the rest in the group. A church is not a government service where you have any entitlement.

  57. 57

    Re: JasonDiggy – "Follow your own words. Kill your disobedient sons. Don't eat pork or shellfish. Shun menstruating women. Have a slave. Etc. Etc."
    You DO realize that everything except having slaves was solely in the Old Testament, right? This was the LAW, before God sent Jesus to cleanse sin. They had those laws, and once Jesus came, man did not have to follow those crazy, specific rules any longer.
    Having slaves was merely a sign of wealth and was very common in the world during those times.
    Please, brush up on your full Bible knowledge before making ludicrous statements like that.

  58. 58

    This is so sad! I am a christian and the thing that turns me off about chruch is how un accepting they are. If they read the bible they would know that it says to accept and love all.

    This woman is incredible and deserves to be loved for who she is. If her church wont accept her than she should find one that loves and accpets her for who she is. It may be hard but god loves her! I think shes incredible!!!

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  61. 61

    i think this lesbian should be slapped so hard for believing in such fiction as the bible, like hello time to pick up another hobby bitch!

  62. 62

    Re: ShelahRe: ShelahRe: La Garse – Waht are YOUR facts. Would you care to share them with us instead of going on some non sequential tirade?

  63. 63

    Re: Shelah – Hope you don't have any tattoos or wear clothing of different clothes, sheila, because if you do, you will WRITHE IN THE DEPTHS OF HELL!

  64. 64

    Re: UstinkA – I get a real kick out of you assholes. You talk a lot of shit, but when the walking needs to get done, you cower. The shitbag teabaggers are a perfect example. They talked all of this shit about unions, but do not show up for the rallys in Madison. You are pathetic. You want to talk the talk? Walk the walk! No tattoos + the same fabric from head to foot. Can't do that? If you cannot follow the bible you love so much, then eat shit and enjoy the hell that you created through your sky god.

  65. 65

    Re: zobiana – OMFG!

  66. 66

    How about this y'all…….FUCK New LIfe Church, christianity and that book titled the Bible…..enough said!

  67. 67

    Re: Blueskybreeze – All of those laws are still in the Bible, so if you call yourself a Bible believer, you have to not just follow the New Testament, but the Old as well, but that's just dumb. Since Jesus eradicated those Old Testament rules, then why would anyone want to have slaves and shun women on their periods? A sane person would NOT follow those rules, so you CAN take pieces of it and disregard the rest.

  68. 68

    Re: MarioMonjack – Homosexuality doesn't belong in the same category as rape and murder, dumbass. While rape and murder are indisputably wrong, homosexuality is open to debate and doesn't threaten anyone's life. Think before you post next time.

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    Re: flubbzi

    Nope, nobody has to AGREE with gay marriage, but, you don't have the right to stop people from having their own rights as well.

    There are a lot of things in this world that people don't agree with, but that doesn't give them the right to stop another person's lifestyle when it doesn't affect others.

    Agreeing isn't the issue, stepping on other people's rights because you don't agree is.

  71. 71

    How can those people call themselves christian? If they cannot even allow a person who saved many lives
    possibly to just come to church and worship. That is what is driving many people such as myself away from the church. I used to go and was a regular. Now I do not go nor will I ever again. I could not look myself in the mirror and see how those people treat decent and wonderful people. Particularly since it is over sheer prejudices.

  72. 72

    Re: Shelah

    Eat shit you stupid cun*t.