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Is Gossip Girl Glamorizing An Abusive Relationship?

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Wow, we have to say, this is pretty disgusting - AND IRRESPONSIBLE - even for the world created in this show!

If you've been following Gossip Girl for the past four seasons, then you're aware of the tumultuous, extremely unhealthy relationship that has developed between the characters of Chuck Bass and Blair Waldorf - you know, the constant scheming and manipulation in the name of 'undying love,' the fact that he pimped her out to his uncle - but on Monday night's episode, things went way too far.

Check out a clip of Chuck forcing himself on her, claiming her as his, and then punching his hand through window, which causes the shattered glass to cut her face (above)!

Now, we've all seen his character do pretty HOriffic, deplorable shiz before - assaulting Little J in the first episode, anyone? - and, to be fair, Blair is NOT innocent (although you can clearly see that she's genuine about making steps to mature), but what's most disturbing about all of this is that for some reason, the show's WRITERS seem to not only be rationalizing his behavior as "passion," but they support the two staying together!

In a post-episode follow-up interview, executive producer Josh Safran said:

"They have a volatile relationship, they always have, but I do not believe—or I should say we do not believe—that it is abuse when it's the two of them. Chuck does not try to hurt Blair. He punches the glass because he has rage, but he has never, and will never, hurt Blair. He knows it and she knows it, and I feel it's very important to know that she is not scared—if anything, she is scared for Chuck—and what he might do to himself, but she is never afraid of what he might do to her. Leighton and I were very clear about that."

Volatile relationship?

Is that right? Because we're pretty sure in that episode we saw Chuck not only assault and objectify her, but also use physical intimidation to frighten her, and prior to that scene, humiliate and publicly degrade her in front of a woman she was trying to impress by discussing their sexual history!

In our book, and according to most definitions, that's an abuser!

Let's take a look, shall we?

According to signs of an abusive relationship:

"Does your partner see you as property or a sex object, rather than as a person?"

Last season, he not only traded HER BODY to his uncle for a hotel, but then blamed her by saying it was her choice to go. Check.

"Does your partner act excessively jealous and possessive?"

"You'll never marry anyone else. You're mine! You're mine, Blair!" Enough said. Check.

"Your abuser may use a variety of intimidation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property…"

The video above. Check.

And this is a character we're supposed to want to get the girl at the end?! Is this what the writers and crew want to showcase to their audience?

That it's okay to treat the supposed love of your life like this because you're going through 'issues?'

We understand that this is a fictional drama in an extremely heightened and unrealistic reality, and we're not against Chuck being a flawed character, but to promote his behavior as acceptable, or worse, put him back together with Blair is just WRONG. And as we said, it's irresponsible.

Even from a writing standpoint! If Blair is truly maturing and aware of how unhealthy her relationship with Chuck is, then her character would know better than to get back with him! Which we sincerely hope is the case.

We've seen enough of this controlling, all-consuming, unhealthy and borderline abusive bull shiz in Twilight and between Sammi and Ronnie on Jersey Shore, and we expected more from you, Gossip Girl!

Girls need to know that there is NOTHING romantic or reasonable about being treated like this by a man. It's wrong, plain and simple, and should not be tolerated.

What do U think?? Did Gossip Girl go too far??

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105 comments to “Is Gossip Girl Glamorizing An Abusive Relationship?”

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  1. 1

    SHUT UP PEREZ! you constantly ABUSE fellow human beings. celebrities are people too, and this is REAL LIFE! at least gossip girl is on tv, and we know that theyre doing it for the ratings. SHUT UP



  2. 2

    You host a show called Bad Girls. Are you glamorizing bullying? You do actually think before you speak?



  3. 3

    Right, it's a TV show, go put some effort in real life situations. Like, for instance that asian boy dressed up as a 10 c hooker & performing all over YT. I think that is disgusting but you'd rather question a television series..>.>

    Strange much?



  4. 4

    i think you really need to relax. its just a show and youre taking it WAY too seriously.



  5. 5

    for him to say this relationship is not abusive is ill-informed and dangerous. it sends a message to young viewers that such a relationship is ok, when in reality, it most certainly is not. and last time i checked, volatile was synonymous with abusive or unhealthy. this guys idea of what constitutes a healthy relationship is seriously warped.



  6. 6

    You know, you need to actually sit down and read the Twilight series. Bella is a much stronger character than you give her credit for.



  7. 7

    do you make a big deal out of serial killers murdering ppl on other shows? no. do you give shit to gaga for killing who knows how many ppl in her videos? no. do you suggest it encourages audiences to go out there and kill human beings? no. so shut the fuck up.



  8. 8

    yea this is ridiculous im a huge fan of the show never miss an episode and i was feeling bad for Chuck!! I mean come on he's the one whose been left alone and he's missing Blair and he was in a wasted stupor the ENTIRE episode on Monday. If you have seen every episode you know Chuck would NEVER lay a hand on Blair I mean come on he wants to fight for her not beat her !

    haha yea i kind of agree w/ ih8youperez (great sn) you do post a lot of private stuff about celebs that probably shouldn't be leaked so stfu

    hahaha and also w/ Hairplugs for Hilton you're the host of the reunion show thats ALL About woman abusing each other so once again stfu



  9. 9

    Ok, seriously Perez? Would you rather want them to have a show where everything is perfect with a cherry on top? Come on, there actually are real relationships where people smash something when they are angry, because hey, they'd rather smash a window or a plate or anything INSTEAD of the one they love. Yeah, this is a low point for Chuck, he is seriously hurt, because, if you saw the episode, he was gonna propose to her himself, but she said yes to the prince, even though both she and Chuck knows she really loves Chuck. So he's hurt, and he's angry, and he's drunk. As I said, this is a new low for Chuck, but it gives him reason to grow. Wait for next episode before you judge, because for all you know, he might just go get himself institutionalised for what he did to her, because Chuck has never wanted to hurt Blair… And yeah, the show isn't real, but it does portray things that can happen to anybody



  10. 10

    Jesus, this post is pretty pointless. I watched this episode and I certainly didn't perceive it as abusive or violent.
    And I totally agree with josh safran. You're making a big deal out of nothing. He does not actually want to hurt Blair. He doesn't view her as a sex object either. You obviously don't understand their relationship.
    I think I take domestic violence pretty serious but this is ridiculous!



  11. 11

    Not gonna lie perez, when you start attacking my favorite couple, you go too far. And maybe actually watch the SHOW and not just a clip before you start passing your hypocritical judgment. Officially done with this site.



  12. 12

    Are you on your fucking period?! My god you are being so oversensitive about a FICTION TV SHOW. People who watch know for a fact it is not reality. Its not being "glamourized" people know physical violence when the see it, people are passionate so obviously they are dramatic when they are pissed off. So don't even try Perez, you are the most verbally abusive human being i know of.



  13. 13

    Gossip Girl is overthetop, stupid & completely unrealistic. If you're just now taking a stand against it, you're pretty dumb and should question all the other dumb things they've 'glomourized' like teen drinking, teen sex, backstabbing, other violence etc..Chuck being a possesive douchebag is no different or surprising & anybody with half a brain knows it's a riduculous, makebelief storyline. Children might be the only ones 'influenced' but they shouldn't be watching it anyway for all the other reasons.
    ..Then again, you're the guy that bullied celebs & their'ugly' children and were on that show Bad Girls, which 'glamourizes' violence and deviancy so…hypocrite much?



  14. 14

    Re: mitcheltodd88Re: thoughts2am

    You both took the words out of my mouth !!

  15. rory! says – reply to this


    15

    NO it isn't. Shut up Perez -.-'



  16. 16

    I stopped watching Gossip Girl long long time ago cause I was tired of all the characters sleeping with each other, and when I finally got to sort of like Chuck and Blair, I hated the way he was always hiding things from her and she doing jealousy scenes, it was just annoying.



  17. 17

    THANKYOU!!! This is awesome and i know you'll get a lot of slack for it and i think that is more sad than the show itself. I've had personal problems with abuse and to see how people are reacting to it makes me sick. Your site has made feel so much better. so much so that i created an account just to tell you. thanks



  18. 18

    perez….. stfu…… it's a tv show…. and sadly… abusive relationships occur in real life.. so why not on tv it's a realistic show. they are in no way GLAMORIZING an abusive relationship perez.

  19. Teeno says – reply to this


    19

    Hear hear perez!!!!
    I think shows aimed at teenagers need to realise just how much they influence - you're completely right.



  20. 20

    its abuse! for him to say this relationship is not abusive is wrong that sends the message that this relationship is normal



  21. 21

    Re: thoughts2am – grabbing her hands and trying to force his ring on her aint proposing. just because he hit rock bottom dont mean it aint abuse!!



  22. 22

    Shows like that are trash and I don't watch them because they're mind rot. The genre is wearing out and people are getting sick of them anyway. They'll soon be off the air.



  23. 23

    omg you are so annoying perez
    first off
    he agreed to sell her body for his hotel BUT he never sent her to him and even stated "It is nothing i'll ever consider"
    secondly he was drunk out of his mind, you need to put in some contex
    he just found out that his father most likely murdered a woman so he drank his problems
    then the love of his life was about to engage with a prince
    so he got depressed and said all those things because he's sad and drunk
    omg you're website sucks now
    i swear you are not the queen of all media
    you're just a person who's good at what he does but not professional at all
    sigh i give up on this website



  24. 24

    Giving women rights is the worst thing man could of done. Back in the 20's-60's women KNEW THEIR PLACE.



  25. 25

    Surely him punching the glass is much better than hurting the only person he truly loves. He looked at her and pulled away and punched in fury at what he was doing its just a shame Blair got caught in the cross fire. I really think these two will end up together :) not like any of this matters as its only a tv show!!!



  26. 26

    Well in that case we better burn all the copies of Wuthering Heights! You do know these people aren't real right?!



  27. 27

    to the girls who say this isnt abuse- i worry about the way you allow men to treat you.



  28. 28

    Re: Amz1988 – please research abuse. you are so ill-informed.



  29. 29

    Still better than glamourising pedophilia like you do.



  30. 30

    I agree with this article 100% I was horrified with what I saw this week on Gossip Girl. It has been building for a while, but this week was the worst. I know someone in an abusive relationship and it is very similar to the one that is being portrayed on this show. I try to be supportive while doing my best to help her to see that she deserves better. Possessiveness and verbal aggression are clear signs of an unhealthy relationship. I know it is fiction but it is not helpful to young people. People may not want to hear it but I hope that they never reunite this couple. We need more positive portrayals of relationships on TV.



  31. 31

    I prefer Blair to end up with Chuck, honestly. I think they're similar and only they would understand what draws them constantly to each other. Besides, it's for a mature audience so it's expected that we know that's its fiction and what not to copy in our personal life. I thought you are against censorship. The characters of Blair and Chuck are what makes them as they are and its interesting. And they tell a story. If they end up 'saved' or remain as they are, it doesn't matter in the large scheme of things. People arent' perfect and their characters will serve as an example of different faces of being human.



  32. 32

    I registered just to comment on this article, which I agree with 100%. I was all for Chair till the last few episodes. I hope to god the show does not put them back together, this would be a completely bad image to present to the younger viewers, especially in a world like today where the media is the number 1 influence!
    Girls look up to Blair, they want to be like her, look like her. What kind of impact would it create, allowing her to be in a relationship like this? Sure Chair have intense chemistry and obviously love each other, but relationships need more than that.



  33. 33

    your such an idiot, why are you such an idiot?? Were you born this way or did you just become an idiot. Your mother should be punished for giving birth to such a terrible son. You are living proof that abortions should be allowed.



  34. 34

    Hi Perez, I just want to support you from all of unsupportive comments. I love what you wrote above. Agree 1001%. I don't care what most of chuckistan militants were saying or commenting. I know this is only a show, but to see there are some people that are actually supprting Chuck's abusive acts is DISTURBING! By this means that the show has given a really bad message. I don't care hey you supporters of abusive acts, if one day you happen to experience this (God, hope not), don't be stupid and tolerate it. You might be on spell or smth in the name of love to tolerate this. Even there's a limit for everything. and I agree this time, it's just too much..

    Dear Perez.. You must know there are more people out there (not just me) that feel and think the same way like you do.. We are not some rats that give a lot of stupid comments (INVALID ARGUMENTS).

    I love you Perez.. Keep up the good work.. ;)



  35. 35

    Trust me, there are more people out there that think the same way like you, Perez.

    Thou it's just a show, still it's sending a bad message. Just to see some people that tolerate the abusive acts it's already wrong!!!

    This vocal chuckistan militants are really blind. If this thing happens to you (God, hope not), you'll know that there's a limit! This.. is not LOVE. There are many abusive victims out there that shut their mouth up and not telling anyone about bad things that happen to them. Could be scared or coz of stupid and irresponsible love (abusive relationship).

    I love what you write and keep up the good work, Perez..

  36. jham says – reply to this


    36

    Good for you Perez! Way to take a stand on this issue and I agree 100%. Young girls do watch these shows (even if it's not intended for them) and even young women in their late teens and early 20s are influenced by them. These writers need to step it up a little.



  37. 37

    You're an abuser Perez. Also you're in NO position to comment on TV programs content being appropriate. You've appeared multiple times on the Bad Girls Club. You can't get any trashier than that.. Also you support and promote shows like the UK Skins (which is fantastic) but it glamorizes everything from sex to drugs to abuse etc. These things are all over the television now anyways, and Gossip Girl is very tame in comparison. It seems like Blake Lively pissed you off or something because you've always seemed out to get her.



  38. 38

    This is a completely ridiculous blog…Why is everyone trying to turn everything into a life lesson? Its Gossip Girl and its the most ridiculous FICTION show! I have watched GG since the beginning and I never felt that Chuck would hurt Blair??!! Its all for the drama and the audience connects with the Blair and Chuck relationship. People watch TV shows to escape, and I think its soooo stupid to try and turn everything into peace and butterflies. I think this whole set a good example through all celebrities and shows is getting a little out of hand. Whats the next thing???? CSI or 24 and shows like that show violence…should we not watch those because it displays murder? What about comedies that make borderline offensive jokes?? Should we not watch those??? I mean COME ON its Gossip Girl! Give me a break…if you are too young to understand that its FAKE and you can't understand drama versus real life….then your parents shouldnt let you watch it..but dont let it ruin it for every one else..ABSURD blog



  39. 39

    Thank you Perez. This is absolutely right. what is most saddening is not that a tv show has irresponsibly depicted this type of relationship, but that most of the respondents here are so jaded or lacking in self confidence that they can't identify that this is very much a scene of abuse and a very dangerous portrayal of "love" all in the name of entertainment.
    I put forth that if this were to actually happen to most of you here, would you find it ok? really? If this happened to your sister/daughter/mother would you still think "he's not actually hurting her", that she should still love him?
    Twilight is just the same if not worse. And yes I have read all the books, mostly in disbelief.
    Abuse is not to be taken lightly at all or conveniently ignored because you are a fan of the show. Abuse is not cut and dry, just because you are not hit doesn't mean that someone isn't still physically dominating or emotionally abusive. This makes me sad I loved gossip girl but I cannot possibly enjoy the show any longer knowing that they can endorse such a twisted and unhealthy relationship.



  40. 40

    And for all those personally picking on perez instead of looking at the issue, citing hypocrisy? Please. As if you know a single person that isn't a hypocrite, at some stage or other. I'm sure you feel very brave berating someone from behind a computer screen, he's providing you a service? If you don't like it just leave. Some of us still appreciate what you do Perez!!
    Getting off the high horse now but jeez, the responses on the site have gotten so terrible that I could actually be bothered trying/hoping to contradict you people.



  41. 41

    I understand where your coming from that abuse is bad but it does happen and I don't see why putting into shows is a bad thing.. I think it should be included in shows so people learn from it.
    P.S. I dont think Chuck is being abusive, just passionate! And its show at the end of the day and the way chuck and blairs relationship is what keeps the viewers coming back.. I know thats why I watch it!



  42. 42

    Re: deskynowsky – Invalid arguments? Why don't you take a grammar lesson before you make another pathetic attempt at chastizing everyone.

  43. Shine says – reply to this


    43

    Good job Perez! I actually think this is a good journalism piece. I haven't really seen you write like this where you do a little investigating. I do agree with you about the show but like some of the other people said…..you verbally abuse celebrities all the time and make fun of them. That is not any better. Try writing more peices like this instead of hurting individuals feelings about there personal lives.



  44. 44

    Well if you would watch the show, you would know Chuck is on a downward spiral. How he acted Monday is just due to the fact that he needs help emotionally. I don't believe he is an abuser, i just believe he is mentally unstable because everyone keeps leaving him [blair, nate, raina, dad, uncle, etc..]. Everyone keeps screwing him over and it's made him kinda depressed/alchoholic. His anger wasn't necessarily towards blair - it was the fact that she is leaving him just like everyone else. I still want them together too, i just hope Chuck cleans up his act soon!



  45. 45

    Your best post ever, Perez. Bravo!



  46. 46

    I agree; it is classic abusive behavior. Sure, it's a stupid TV show but since they're normalizing an abusive relationship instead of showing that it's wrong and without the abuser(s) experiencing any repercussions, something needs to be said. Abusing women under the context of "entertainment" is 100% f'ed up.



  47. 47

    You are so right Perez, all these people who are disagreeing are just dumb, it's blatent abuse, some people are just too emotionally invested in the show and the couple to realise the truth, so glad you posted this! Josh Safran was wrong.



  48. 48

    You're taking it a little too seriously there Perez. He wasn't trying to hurt her. He was mad and hit a piece of glass.



  49. 49

    Are you an idiot? I watch this show and Chuck does not abuse Blair. People complaining about this need to go worry about REAL instances of abuse and not what's going on a TELEVISION show.



  50. 50

    I pretty much never come here but so many of these comments are so disgusting I wanted to say something. Fictional or not, this relationship is abusive and to say Blair wasn't scared for herself in that scene is clearly a lie since she didn't stick around to make sure Chuck didn't do anything to himself. Which she would have done if she'd been scared FOR him like these irresponsible writers are claiming. Heightened reality or not, you have to call a spade a spade and Chuck has demonstrated abusive behavior for a while now. Blair's no saint but she deserves better than a guy that thinks it's ok to claim her as though she's not a person who has the ability make her own choices. I don't care if he was drunk and upset. I used to ship these two but I sure as hell don't anymore. Also, any comparisons to Wuthering Heights are completely invalid. Don't flatter the writers. They have nothing on a Bronte and Heathcliff and Cathy's dynamic was completely different as you never saw Cathy making a speech about how her relationship with Heathcliff was like a black pool of despair. I'm so disgusted with Gossip Girl I doubt I'll ever watch again.



  51. 51

    First off… Glamorizing? I found it anything but glamorizing. And if people turn to TV to tell them how to handle relationship problems and what are good and bad relationships.. the world is in a whole lot of trouble. I feel like it shed light on the type of things that actually do happen in real life relationships and I think it just shows a man on his path to change- IDK I think people are making a big deal out of nothing. I love gossip girl and I think most of its avid watchers know that its just a show.



  52. 52

    Re: idontevengohere – Cathy made speeches about how Heatcliff is responsible for her death, warns another girl not to marry him because she owns him and he is a cruel, selfish man.

    Go burn your book, abuse supporter.



  53. 53

    Re: Smileyface11 – LMAo.. if you know any girl who wants to be like a fictional tv character.. I suggest you intervene and provide them with counseling.. !



  54. 54

    Seriously.. after reading these comments.. some people should just live in a bubble.. jeesh so worried about whats on this show.. worry about real life and stop pitching a fit over this.. if you don't like it, don't watch it.



  55. 55

    For people saying Perez is taking this too seriously, well i say you need to get off his site and stop taking his opinions so seriously then.
    Perez, your argument is very valid! I've witness a friend be in an emotional abusive relationship like this that leads these sort of confrontations and it finally ended on a happy note when she left his ass!
    and chuck's character is not even flawed in my opinion, he is beyond annoying and manipulative



  56. 56

    Re: NookiesWA – You always try to out like some tough guy but you only manage to show your insecurities. I bet your mommy was spanking you when you were naughty and your daddy didn't give a fuck. Seek help .
    Re: mitcheltodd88 – Judging by answers like yours i understand why some people are so worried about this show. If you feel bad for the abuser and you think that this sort of behavior is acceptable then you're gonna have a very rude awakening in life. God know what your childhood was like.



  57. 57

    1. Chuck GRABBED and PUSHED her before he hit the window. Abuse is when you treat somebody in a harmful, injurious way, so it IS abuse. Just because he was drunk doesn't make it justified for him to hurt a girl, especially the one he 'admittedly' loves.
    2. The director did try to make the scene romantic by adding romantic instrumental music.
    3. The director should have had a moral responsibility to at least not glamorize the scene by not making the scene sound romantic, knowing that people (even teens) watch the show and idolize Chuck and Blair. Like it or not, there will be plenty of viewers dreaming of a "very loving" boyfriend that says "you should only marry me", who also reaches the bottom and becomes so depressed that he can't help but hit something behind you (he can't help it though-he LOVES you and is FRUSTRATED and that shows how much he can't live without you).
    4). Fans who still support Chuck and Blair after he agreed to selling her for sex are insane and are the ones who fit the girls who would dream of an "obsessive, loving guy."

    Conclusion: People who commented above saying that 'it's not abuse' and 'duh,it's only a TV show' are practically idiots. Sorry. And sorry for being too critical, I just happen to care about social issues, unlike you guys. =D

  58. anopp says – reply to this


    58

    So many butthurt chair fans. No matter what Perez has done, that doesn't change the truth about this article and how there are girls — young, impressionable girls out there who look at this relationship and this character and think that this is okay, that this accurately represents a good relationship and how to be treated in one. Chuck is an abuser, just because he is a fictional character doesn't make the fact of the matter go away — Gossip Girl is watched by thousands of people each week who believe this is okay and how they want a Chuck of their own. Just because it's a 'televison series' doesn't mean it doesn't impact people and their opinions.



  59. 59

    Funny how it's fictionalized t.v. and your real!



  60. 60

    Yes because portraying something is the same as 'glamourising' it…



  61. 61

    It's just for ratings…so many shows do things like that these days. I dont think they are glamourizing anything- just trying to enterain and keep the ratings up.



  62. 62

    Re: radar00 – I believe I said he MEANT to propose, i didn't call him trying to force the ring on her a proposal. I also didn't say that it wasn't abuse, but I believe in second chances, he has never been violent to her before. Wether a woman gives a man she loves and who loves her back a second chance should be up to her to judge not everybody else



  63. 63

    I am the biggest Chair fan out there, but this was way out of line. Chuck has been way out of line for a while now and the fact that the writers are taking this so lighty just shows how dumb they are. I mean they just don't know what to do anymore so they keep making this character worse and worse because they're so desperate. It's pathetic. Josh Safran and his team of writers are morons.



  64. 64

    WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY ARE YOU SO STUPID PEREZ?! you enjoy creating drama out of NOTHING



  65. 65

    Re: NookiesWA – Men didn't give women anything you fucker, they have always been entitled to their rights. I bet your some nasty 300 lb fatboy with a chode and still living in your mom's house.



  66. 66

    Jesus, it is a damn TV show. You don't get angry or anything when a teenager gets pregnant on Glee or anything like that. I think that it is good that they put this in their episode because this stuff DOES happen in real life. Why woulnd't they not have that on their show? It's more intense and adds the drama GG has been lacking this season. Their not supporting it or even telling anyone to do that. If you say their glamourizing it then you should bash Glee and One Trell Hill or any or other show. Those shows have drugs a lot of sex and teen pregancys but their not telling 16 year olds to get pregnant. Did you just get bored and decided to bash Gossip Girl? You take things way out of porportion.



  67. 67

    I have to admit when I watched the episode last night I didn't think like it one bit, but I don't think they're meaning for it to sound like an abusive relationship. I tend to agree with those saying he's hit rock bottom. She said no anyway - she didn't accept it and she ran out of there so does that not suggest that if he is being abusive then she's sending a message saying 'don't do it'? I think it's a hard one, because it's fiction and if we look at 'gossip girl' it glamourises practically everything. Blair's a strong character though and she gets out when she has to. I think he's hit rock bottom.
    Re: LilSar – and seriously? Bella Swan is one of the most weak minded 'heroines' I've ever read about. Have you actually read the series?



  68. 68

    Re: YouSuckHard – Yep I was just about to say she made speeches like that all the time, but so did he. I think they were pretty made for each other, but she was a bitch and he was just horrible so it worked - that's what I think about blair and Chuck. If you think about it every aspect of fiction or media is glamourising something that's offensive - it's just about realising the difference between reality and fiction. However, people are quite vulnerable. This is a hard one, because I love Chair, but women's studies is kinda my major…



  69. 69

    Re: ParalyZzzZzer

    you dumbass i had a completely normal childhood
    get off your high horse and realize that this isn't an abusive relationship



  70. 70

    I agree 100%. There seems to be a huge problem in today's society where we glamorize abusive relationships. Although this may have been what the writers of GG meant to do when they wrote this episode, all of Chuck's actions point toward abuse. If Chuck an Blair do get together in the end, without the writers sending Chuck to get some sort of help, they are sending the wrong message to young girls; that this sort of relationship is normal and ok when it is not. That is one of my biggest problems with Twilight. Although I enjoy the story, nothing about that relationship is healthy, it is purely abusive and makes me wonder what type of marriage the writer has at home.



  71. 71

    What the fuck? CALM THE FUCK DOWN.



  72. 72

    Your right about this one. People take this subject too lightly…



  73. 73

    a lot of people in here completely missed the point. and to say "it's just a tv show" is fucking stupid. there are a lot of impressionable people out there, and they do emulate their favorite characters. they're going to think it's ok to stay in an abusive relationship because of what they see in this show. i applaud you, perez. ngl, i thought you were an asshole before lol but i can see you coming around bettering yourself. thank you for putting this out there.



  74. 74

    this show is a fictional drama. Whoever takes this shit seriously and thinks it's cool deserves to get their ass beat



  75. 75

    oh my god, don't you realize he is just promoting the show?



  76. 76

    I thought Gossip Girl went too far when Chuck traded Blair for the hotel and then him sleeping with Jenny Humphrey. But yes, Gossip Girl went too far.



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    Re: jennamalyka – I find it hilarious that you bash Perez for being "oversensitive about a FICTION TV SHOW" yet say nothing about the people who are practically having a temper tantrum over him attacking a FICTIONAL TV couple. Here's a little tip, before you snidely ask someone if they are on their period because of an article they wrote, do some damn research. He's not the only blogger, accusing about Gossip Girl glamorizing an abusive relationship. There has been a lot of outrage over Josh Safran's comments, it his even been picked up by a non celebrity gossip site.

    Some of the posts on this board now makes understand why the hardcore Chuck/Blair fans are mocked and considered scary on various sites.



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    i dont get it…so when people KILL other ppl in tv shows THATS not promoting murder????? but chuck getting MAD while drunk because the love of his life LEFT him for another man is encouraging ABUSE? u must be bat shit crazy to be this hypocritical. i would LOVE to see you be in a relationship of some sort and have that person break your heart i TRULY believe ud be the type to THROW shit at them. if you dont like it STOP watching it. the fact that people are so quick to judge a show like that but shut their mouths when a tv show shows someone murdering another is stupid. get over it. its supposed to show chuck bass retreating to a dark place in his life again. not anything more.



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    Re: Kathagr – Using her body in a business deal is viewing her as a sexual object, talking about eating "her cake" to a stranger and all his other crude remarks at the party is viewing her as a sexual object. No one has to understand the Chuck/Blair relationship to be fully aware that type of behaviour is viewing someone as a sexual object especially the trading Blair's body in exchange for a hotel part. That is common sense.

    Breaking a window near someone's head, sending glass shattering over them injuring them, is violent and abusive. Even if the abuser didn't want to hurt them, it is still violent and abusive behaviour. You obviously don't understand domestic violence or even viewing someone as sexual object is.



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    I'm a huge gossip girl fan, but i think the show went too far this time because i really love Chuck and Blair together but the show really influence teenagers love life and maybe they will think this is normal.



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    Re: deskynowsky – wow call ppl that have enough common sense to realized that this is a fictional show filled with contraversial topics chuckistans while supporting perez's post about abuse (HYPOCRITE)Re: ashXoXo – I agree 100% Re: Peekaboo1 – The 1st episode of Gossip Girl started out showing characters Nate and Chuck cutting school to smoke weed!! I never saw a post from perez about them glorifying drug use or teenage sex!! GG AND MANY OTHER MOVIES TV SHOWS, etc.. are forms of entertainment Why question the taste of a show based on one contraversy and not the others!! jus a reason to Bitch about something that has no direct influence over the misery that one may be experiencing at the moment!! I've witnessed abuse 1st hand and this freaken fictional show did not offend me in the least bit nor do i think it glamorized abuse!!! If anything is glamorized on GG it's teenage sex partying and drinking more than anything!! Note to those agreeing with perez 100% get a life and batteries for your remote!!



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    Yeah, this kind of annoys me for a few reasons.

    One, you kinda abuse the hell out of other people and pass it off as a business/entertainment, even if you mean it as only that.. It is, at it's base a kind of bullying. You're just lucky that people like this stuff and the people you're talking about are 'used' to it.

    Two, I don't think it's glorifying it. I watched the episode.. You knew what was coming. You knew he was gonna flip. But you also knew he was drunk, in turmoil and generally a little messed up. The way the director has put a slant on it about friends worrying it true, people get to this stage when something is wrong. Not always because they are in their core abusive people. To show for example proof that at least someone is condemning him, Nate decides to choose leaving his best friend over what he sees. But it's quite moot as it's all fiction.

    Abusive relationships are pants. Smelly month old pants you don't wash at that. But this shit is tame compared to things like.. Wuthering Heights. I'm a lit student, and that book does GLORIFY abusiveness. To a whole lot wider scale and longer scale than something like Gossip Girl. It's a product of our time. It glorifies many things, I just think you're being a bit.. In a word.. pathetic to think that people are so weak minded that they don't already realise that the character is being way out of line.



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    You should realign your own moral compass before launching into an absurd diatribe about objectification. You do run a separate site that exploits leaked nude celebrity photos after all, so don't try to take a moral high ground by criticizing the fictional writing/performing on one of the many television shows that depict a variety of relationships.



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    Re: EdgarAllanPoe – Actually we did rofl. Women weren't allowed to vote back in the day..Pick up a history book retard.



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    THANK YOU Perez! STOP THE ABUSE! ugh the couple of Chair has really lost it's spark since the hotel incident. How anyone can still ship them is beyond me. DAIR FTW.

    Funny how Chuck all of a sudden confesses his LOVE for Blair right after Raina leaves him… (another girl he LOVED… ugh he should've been killed off last season when he was shot)



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    Re: ih8youperez – and all you people who have usernames like "ih8youperez" and constantly abuse perez

    you are such hypocrites. YOU choose to come on this website and read what he writes. If you don't like it, get off!! He should be picking on you because you are silly enough to waste your internet and time on reading his posts which you post silly, immature, and irrelevant things on. As you can see, he now only posts positive things about people and his point of view of certain situations. Why don't YOU 'shut up'?



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    I am fucking sick of seeing all the little winey bitch comments people leave telling perez to 'shut up' and telling him he's 'annoying'. Seriously, you'll notice to the right of the screen (left if your on a mac) there is a red cross. Do everyone a favour and click on it to spare us your outdated insults. I mean you hate perez? Ground breaking.
    And as for Gossip Girl, that is absolutely an abusive relationship and the show is definitely glamourising it because everyone knows those two are going to end up together and that's as good as telling little girls that if someone is hurting you, you should just shut up and go along with it coz they love you. Those of you saying that it isn't wouldn't know if you were in an abusive relationship yourselves. It doesn't matter that it's 'just a tv show', the connotation is there and it is entirely unacceptable.
    And those of you still calling perez a bully need to move on with your life. This website has changed so much in the past months in the way they deal with their subject matter.



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    Re: mitcheltodd88 – Seek help miss battered girl.



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    this is the dumbest shit ive ever read. its a goddamn tv show. get over it.



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    I'm a fan of this blog, but this one was totally a non-sense update. I think gossip girl didn't go too far. Xx



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    I'm curious as to what the book says about this episode if it even follows the book…idk I didn't think it glamorized it. I didn't watch that and think hmm yeah I want a relationship like that… as hot as chuck is that was definitely a turn off and the prince is hot & niceee sooooo idk i think over all it was just a good episode!



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    Follow the story line and you'll see that its not glamorizing their relationship at all.



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    the issue is NOT perez hilton. the nature of his site does not mean that he does not raise valid points. the issue is NOT that chuck behaved like an as*. his behavior has been such since the pilot. the issue is NOT whether or not this is a tv show. we ALL know GG is and it's fiction.
    the issue IS that safran (who is NOT a fictional character but is a real person, a GG producer) denied that what chuck did (and how chuck's been treating blair) is abusive. it IS abusive. because the punch didn't land on blair's face, it's just rage, it's not abuse? the issue IS that safran trivialized/made light of chuck's behavior towards blair simply stating "it's not abuse if it's chuck and blair". the issue IS that safran says chuck never has and never will hurt blair when previous episodeS contradict this. the issue IS that safran is irresponsible. yes, other shows do show murder, bullying, violence, etc. but do producers of those shows tell their audience that what they aired was not murder, bullying, violence, etc? do they sugarcoat, excuse and justify what their characters did? they own up to what they air! they call it what it is! the issue IS that the interviewer (who is also real, not fictional) romanticizes the obviously unhealthy CB relationship by claiming chuck is a "romantic hero" and even goes on to say blair got a perfect, beautiful, dainty injury. the issue IS this interview and the message safran and the interviewer are bringing, esp to young fans.



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    the issue is NOT perez hilton. the nature of his site does not mean that he does not raise valid points. the issue is NOT that chuck behaved like an as*. his behavior has been such since the pilot. the issue is NOT whether or not this is a tv show. we ALL know GG is and it's fiction. the issues ARE: 1) that safran (who is NOT a fictional character but is a real person, a GG producer) denied that what chuck did (and how chuck has been treating blair) is abusive. it IS abusive. just because the punch didn't land on blair's face, it's just rage, not abuse? 2) safran trivialized/made light of chuck's behavior towards blair simply stating "it's not abuse if it's chuck and blair". 3) safran says chuck never has, never will hurt blair when previous episodeS (seasons 1-4) contradict this. 3) safran is irresponsible. yes, other shows do show murder, bullying, violence, etc. but do producers of those shows tell their audience that what they aired was not murder, bullying, violence, etc? do they sugarcoat, excuse and justify what their characters did? no, they own up to what they air! they call it what it is! 4) the interviewer (who, like safran, is also a real person, not fictional) romanticizes the obviously unhealthy CB relationship by claiming chuck is a "romantic hero" and even goes on to say blair got a perfect, beautiful, dainty injury. 5) this whole interview and the message safran and the interviewer are bringing, esp to young fans.



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    i love perez hilton! and i agree with this article. I love the show but this episode is very disturbing. I mean, before I love chuck and blair's relationship that no matter what happens they still end up together but this episode is just way too much! i don't like them to be together anymore. I want dan with her.



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    This is so dumb, it's a TV show. Fictional, like other shows i.e Desperate Housewives or whatever where murders happen all the time. Is that 'glamourizing' murders? No, calm the fuck down.



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    I freaking love this show. And I really hope that Chuck and Blair get back together. They are the power couple. And even though Chuck has rage, he would never hurt Blair. He loves her.



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    Perez you are a fucking schizophrenic homo, you need psychiatric help dude, big time, like now!! you need to calm down, stop working 16 hour days on your copy n pasting…you're a loser!!



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    THAT IS THE STUPIDEST ARGUMENT I HAVE EVER HEARD. you think jealousy can't be allowed in a relationship. you could tell, even though it's not an excuse, that chuck was drunk. he wouldn't have done something so drastic. blair and chuck are meant to be.



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    awwwwww, makin meh sad… cuz i LOVE Chuck, and him and Blair have to end up togethor in da end!! and i totally think Blair should forgive and forget bout the Jack thing, i mean shes done way more bad stuf 2 him, and he got her into Columbia and a buttload more stff……… but still, thats not rite Chuck!!

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