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Kids In The Hall's Scott Thompson Tells Bullying Victims To 'Grow A Pair'

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All right, Scott. We'll hear you out before we make any judgments.

During a recent interview, openly gay Kids in the Hall comedian Scott Thompson had the following controversial words to say to bullying victims:

"Grow a pair. Here's the thing: The world is not kind to us; it never really will be. The gay male is always going to be at the bottom. I believe the things that happened to me as a child scarred me terribly, and I wish somebody would have helped me with some of the things that happened. But you have to fight back."

"So much of these bullying campaigns are part of the trend that we were just talking about - the recasting of gay men as eternal victims and it's like, fight back! Fathers should start teaching the boys how to punch. He does that to you, here's what you do: You f**king punch him in the face."

While we agree that bullying victims should absolutely stand up for themselves, we do NOT think that promoting more violence is the answer.

It sounds like your heart is in the right place, Scott, but we're more of the mindset that bullying needs to become illegal.

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48 comments to “Kids In The Hall's Scott Thompson Tells Bullying Victims To 'Grow A Pair'”



  1. 1

    He is 100% correct! You have to stand up for yourself. Life is not easy, and if you don't stand up for yourself no one else will. You have to teach other people how to treat you. Hold your head up high and fake it till you make it.



  2. 2

    i do agree that bullying is a natural part of human and animal life. It will always happen and for many reasons…not just being gay! Fat, ginger, skinny, glasses…kids get picked on for numerous reasons. Id take Mario more seriously if he didint act like the world revolves arounds gays and they were the only victims worth championing!



  3. 3

    We as a society are seriously fucked if bullying becomes "illegal". We cannot and must not make laws based on such subjective or ambiguous terms! There would be less suicides if people did, indeed, ”grow a pair”. Everything isn't sunshine and roses–that's a fact. Suicides start happening when people can't accept that fact. Parents should make that clear to their kids! If something is wrong address it directly! Go to the schools, the other parents, etc..if that doesn't work, remove yourself from the situation. I realize that can be hard, or maybe seem impossible for some, but find a way! It's better than you or your kids killing themselves.



  4. 4

    Re: SpankaRe: Lasqueesha – Agree with you both completely.



  5. 5

    Why do I have a feeling Perez's response to this would be very different if Scott Thompson wasn't an openly gay man himself? It's so obvious that his response to this is basically "Well, yeah, okay, I don't really totally agree with you but because you're gay too I'm not gonna call you a deplorable homophobe."



  6. 6

    Bravo Scott

    Enough with this pacifist It Gets Better Bullshit. It gets better when you draw fucking blood from the face of a homophobe. We should be arming gay teens with guns and teaching them how to kill hetereosexuals who are trying to kill them.



  7. 7

    what a sad sad world we live in if people think bullying is normal and that people who get bullied need to "grow a pair". I was bullied for years in high school, and "growing a pair" doesn't solve anything, bullies will bully no matter what. Standing up for yourself only leads to bullies bullying worse because they get a reaction out of you. Bullying SHOULD be illegal, no mercy for bullies. People KILL THEM SELVES BECAUSE OF BEING BULLIED. That does not make them weak, as this guy thinks, it makes them human!



  8. 8

    I agree with Scott. I hate to say you can't make bullying illegal if so how many kids would be in jail seriously??? Our country is a country that celebrates the First Amendment which is for GOOD or BAD and needs to be respected. I say this as someone who was bullied most of my school years. I was a red head, short, wear glasses and had rumors that i was gay since I listened to Tori Amos .I was on everyones hit list. I even had a boy push me into a locker so hard that i broke my arm in three places. The school didn't even do anything it was a story of he said she said. But after that I refused to be a victim and stood up for myself. I had to become quicker than my bully I had to come with witty responses that would make them think. Mostly questioning the bully's IQ worked. Before I knew it worked people learned to leave me allow. I don't pretend that this can work with everyone but this worked with me. Crying about wasn't stopping the bullying. Going to school officials wasn't working
    actually sadly I had a teacher who acted more like a bully than a teacher at the time. Going to my parents help a bit but in the end didn't stop it. I had to stop it. As Scott put it I grew a pair… I don't suggest violence but you have to stick up for yourself if not who will???



  9. 9

    That's because you're a wimp bitch…..when Will I Am's manager knocked you in the face you should have beat his ass……..period. Violence is an extreme way to handle a situation but sometimes it really really works



  10. 10

    He's 100% right, actually. Bullies target people solely because they perceive them as being weak, easy targets. Bullies are true cowards at heart - that's why they always do it in a group. The funny thing about bullying is that it magically stops once one of the bullies gets punched in the face really hard.



  11. 11

    He is completely right. Stop playing the victim all the time….People need to stand up for themselves, not go cry in a corner.



  12. 12

    he's right!!! we were all bullied at one time too..it's not a talent you know….



  13. 13

    Finally, a gay who actually hasn't joined the wimps jumping on the anti-bullying bandwagon, a campaign that hasn't made any difference and has only provided celebs and famewhores an extra 15 minutes. And if Thompson was straight and said this, Hilton would be screaming for an apology. Gays need to grow some balls.



  14. 14

    in an attempt to understand this "blaming the victim", I'm remembering his own gay brother committed suicide



  15. 15

    In some cases, violence IS the answer. I like what this guy says.



  16. 16

    I was a very shy kid and did get bullied in the 8th grade. The summer between 8th and 9th grades, I began takeing judo classes and it really brought me out of my shell. I was scared at first but pushed myself. I didn't want to be picked on anymore and I wasn't. Sure, there was the usual high school bullshit but I just told people to fuck off. I know it's different for everyone….this is just my personal experience. I'm gay and luckily no one knew (except one girl who was a lipstick lesbian. We covered for each other). I definitely kept that a secret untl college.



  17. 17

    He is absolutely right! Learn to fight, take martial arts. Bullying will be around forever, it will not stop. It affects everyone, not just the gay community. It's how you deal with it that makes or breaks you.



  18. 18

    Yay Scott!



  19. 19

    Unfortunately, not all people have it in them to dig deep and find the strength to stand up for themselves. If it were that easy, bullying wouldn't be an issue. Some people are just more sensitive than others, and more easily hurt, and THESE are the people that bullies usually pick on. You can't just tell these people to "grow a pair". That is the most ridiculous thing I ever heard in my life.
    I am not saying these sensitive people should be coddled……not at all. But on the other hand, I do not think that bullying of any kind should be tolerated. We do all have the right to be assholes if we want to be. But when you are an asshole who repeatedly goes after somebody in a malicious way, be it verbally or physically, it then becomes almost like stalking and nobody should have to live through that.
    Bullying should be illegal. At the very least, schools should develop a zero tolerance policy and anybody found guilty of bullying should be expelled from the school.



  20. 20

    I find it interesting that someone who has made a career out of being a bully (specifically, a cyber bully) is a champion for this cause. To make all bullying a crime, in my opinion, is simply ridiculous. What one person perceives as bullying may not fall into someone else's definition of the term. You never know how your actions are going to be interpreted/digested by someone else. It is impossible to know what kind of long term impact something anyone says or does to someone else will have. If I always called my brother Peaches as a nickname and then one day, for whatever reason, he decided to take his own life and listed that as just one of the factors that contributed to his decision, should I be held criminally liable for his death? Even if he'd never mentioned anything about disliking it?

    There are certain instances where, no doubt, criminal charges are warranted, but Scott Thompson is absolutely right. Maybe he could have phrased things more eloquently, but his message is true. Bad things are always going to happen. Parents need to teach their children how to cope, not try to shelter them entirely from it. If they do not learn how to cope while they are young and have that support, they are going to be overwhelmed when they are adults and have to face the real world. Instead of a pandemic of teen suicides, we will just have a pandemic of even more adult suicides.



  21. 21

    I AGREE!!! everyone is trying to stop bullying, but its not going to happen. yes, it sucks to be bullied, i have been before. think about it though, name ONE single famous person that was not bulllied…take your time, il wait…the things that the bullies said is what drove them to become the person they are today. being bullied taught me i look like shit with blonde hair, im not scared by this, i just have brown hair now…



  22. 22

    Re: Lilygirl27 – "Bullying should be illegal". How exactly would you enforce that ridiculous concept? Do I get a ticket if I call someone an idiot? Freedom of Speech ensures bullying will never be illegal. And idiot Hilton, even after all his years of bullying celebs, has repeatedly stated he never saw himself as a bully, so anything he says is irrelevant to the subject. He has never taken responsibility for his actions or apologized to the hundreds of people he insulted. He's a phony, much like so many of the celebs in this campaign. Bullies don't see themselves as bullies, Hilton is no exception.

  23. Tahoe says – reply to this


    23

    I agree with Scott. A bully will stop (hopefully) if you stand up to him. I was picked on as a kid because I was shy. But then in grade 7 and 8, I developed a mouth and they left me alone.My brother was picked on too, and he learned karate. Again, once he had the confidence, they left him alone. I was half-jewish, no religion, but they were so mean to me - and the scars are still there, but it has made me who I am today. At the time I had no idea why these people hated me so much, but as I got older, i understood. So, sadly, it's not just gays - it's anyone who is different and/or vulnerable. In my children's school, they have a no tolerance for bullying and they stand by it. I wish all school would adopt this attitude.



  24. 24

    Love that someone finally said it! Bullying is horrible and school's should certainly do everything they can to discourage it and have zero tollerance for when it does happen…but to talk about making it illegal is insane. There's no way to enforce that and it would punish some kids who really don't deserve criminal records. Bullying is sadly part of life. It happens to everyone. I was bullied numerous times through high school AND college, and my parents raised me to realize that if they were being like that to me, it was more about them and nothing wrong with me. So I ignored the comments and made a few back of my own. I didn't let them get to me. And I realize some kids go through a lot more bullying than I did, but the gay community really needs to realize thy're not the first kids in the history of the world to go through this. Millions of children lived though it and came out the other side. High school is hell for anyone that's different, not just gays.

    I also think something that really needs to be talked about is depression issues in gay teens. Bullying is horrible and it will get anyone down, but when a kid commits suicide because of it, it suggests another issue entirely. Mentally healthy kids don't turn to suicide. It hardly excuses the bullying, but it does play into it in ways people don't seem to be saying.



  25. 25

    The "campaign" has become a fucking vehicle for other things, which is disgusting.



  26. 26

    While punching somebody might not be the answer… he's right fighting back and toughening up is KEY! TOO MUCH of the these bullying campaigns leave kids as a JUST a victim. You have to speak up! Talk back! Tell them to shut the f*ck up. Do what you can to maybe even the playing field. It's not easy. But that's part of growing and developing as a human. OF COURSE in more extreme cases… you MUST get adults involved. But AT LEAST do that. Don't keep to yourself.



  27. 27

    You definitely have to stand up for yourself. Come on Perez, as if making bullying illegal will just make it go away.



  28. 28

    I agree with him completely. First, the "It gets better" thing is complete BS. It never gets better. There will always be people who make fun of you or judge you because of who you are. "It gets better" is giving teens a false sense of hope, which does more damage than good. Life is what you make of it. The sooner you learn to stick up for yourself and deal with the bullying (reporting it should always be done), the better off you are. "It gets better" definitely makes people look like a victim. I went through some pretty horrible things in school, it was only when I started standing up for myself that it stopped.



  29. 29

    Perez is on Virgin Radio 96 on Sunday evening at 9:00 and Virgin Radio is a sponsor of the Farha Foundation. Way to go Perez !!!!!



  30. 30

    Re: GaGaGoAwayAway – Lol I'd like to see you try that…. It would be over before you even started anything. You would be down on the ground before you even knew what happened to you.



  31. 31

    He's right!! My bf was bullied when he was younger, and his stepdad told him next time, punch him in the face as hard as you can….he did, and guess what? The bullying STOPPED. I love you Scott, Kids rules!!!



  32. 32

    i say this all the time!i am against bullying,my 10 yr old just started dealing with 2 bullies at school,one being a supposed friend,and as much as i have been all over this,and how i wanna be there for him at all times,i cant.i would much rather my kid be able to defend himself in case im not there.i seriously think anyone who gets bullied does need to grow a pair!i get its hard sometimes,but if i was half as tough as i am now after i grew em,i wouldnt of been teased as much.stand up for urself people,take these bullies down and move on.we cant let them win,they feel like they can do it to u,go right back and do it to them!and no perez i dont like violence,i dont believe in it,not until i became a mother,i want my babies to be able to be safe and defend themselves,i think everyone should.



  33. 33

    The smartest comment someone has ever said on this site. Good job Scott. You can't make bullying illegal ass wipe because its so subjective. Americans need to "grow a pair". We're raising children up to be pushover pansies..We're teaching them to expect that their feelings will never be hurt,etc..Oh well least my kid will know better and not slit his wrist.



  34. 34

    Re: Lilygirl27 – It's called "flight or fight." It's a natural basic instinct everyone is born with. You can either cower in a corner and wait for it to all blow over or you can man up so to speak and handle the situation yourself. This is coming from someone that was viciously bullied all through jr. high until I took it upon myself to stand up for ME. After that, no one ever messed with me again.



  35. 35

    I agree with Scott. My husband was bullied terribly in grade 8. He was in a horrible car accident that killed his parents and shot him out the back window of the car. He had a closed head injury, and consequently he was the nutjob with the dead parents. His shrink told him to stand up to them, and he did. He chucked the biggest bully into a row of lockers and beat the shit out of him nin front of half the school. Guess what? No more bullying and he went on to be friends with the bully. Not best friends, but friends. And no he didn't turn into a bully, but a sweet compassionate man who works with special needs adults.

  36. @v@ says – reply to this


    36

    Bullies size up their targets. If they decide their target will make an easy victim, they'll bully them. If, however, the target seems confident and wily and could cause double the trouble back, they reconsider or back off. Bullies are notoriously crying chickenshiz at heart when the shiz hits the pan.



  37. 37

    I don't condone violence either Perez but I agree with him 110%. I just say be prepared. You know the world we live in, you know people (as of recently) have been beaten, and in the past even killed. I even think they should carry protection just incase. When we hear cases of people fighting back maybe things will finally change. All we're getting now is the negative energy. This one or that one got beaten or killed. This other peroson killed him/her self. The negative news were hearing now is not going to get better unless they stand up for themselves. All the haters are hearing is that, the gay community is weak and they're dropping like flies because of suicides. They need to see and hear that they're defending themselves and beating or I'm sorry, but causing permanent (only if one's own life is at stake) harm to their attackers. Then who's gonna f@#$ with them. Just saying. No one's saying to start something unprovoked. Just how women take classes and sometimes carry weapons, the gay communty should do the same.



  38. 38

    BTW, I was thinking of the older young men who've been attcked. If you're a young kid in school/college, please don't carry a weapon (maybe pepper spray college people). Still learn how to kick ass though.



  39. 39

    I am a long live fan of KITH and Scott has ALWAYS been intelligent, full of common sense, and was always a bit controversial. I don't condone violence however having bullying made illegal is also not plausible or feasible. Kids are always going to be both the bully and the victim. I regret not fighting back when I was a kid and the one time I did, I myself got in-school suspension for flipping the bird, even when the teacher who witnessed spoke up for me. Scott has been through a lot like the cancer he had two years ago, and think he's coming from a strong place.



  40. 40

    Sorry perez, but I agree with Scott. In highschool, a girl always used to say shit about me and I ignore it until I couldn't take it anymore and one day I just got in her face and told her to fuck off. and guess what, she didn't bug me anymore! she even wanted to be friends w/ me afterwards..ewww



  41. 41

    I was bullied, aha. It was actually because I wore glasses in elementary school and I had thin hair in high school because of trich. I heard snickers and taunts behind my back. Of course, that did impact me on some scale…You know how? I actually stopped pulling my hair and I stood up for myself. I realized that pulling my hair wasn't going to make things better for me, just lose hair and get more glares. Not cool… I was even bullied when I had P.E. in high schoolbecause I could not play volleyball quite well (I'm not good w/ sports except for dancing and boxing, lol). The guy who made fun of me was an arrogant jock. I actually told him off in front of the whole class. He shut the hell up afterwards and people were in awe that I actually told off the jerk. Well, okay, to sum it up, I agree. But let's not use fists when we stand up for ourselves. :D



  42. 42

    Re: daftpunk – Aw, good for you! :)



  43. 43

    Obviously it would be IDEAL if things like bullying were made illegal, but even if that happened it would still happen. Possession of drugs is illegal, as is beating your spouse, and murder, but it happens. If we all lived in a world where we didn't have to defend ourselves, we wouldn't need police, locks on our doors, or any of that. But I bet you locked your door last night when you got home. Because thats a way to defend yourself against those that DON'T follow the laws! And I don't think violence is the answer either, but sometimes it has to happen. What are you going to say? "mr bully, please stop beating me up and picking on me while I call the police and please sit there and wait patiently while they are in route, because you are breaking the law" HELL NO! Every person is responsible for their own safety.



  44. 44

    I was bullied in the 7th grade by a kid who would wait on me in the stairwell after gym class and threatened to beat me up if I didn't hand over my lunch money. One day I brought a yo-yo to school. Once he saw it, he demanded the yo-yo along with my lunch money. That was too much. The yo-yo string was already looped around my finger and in a moment of rage, I began whirling the yo-yo around like a lasso over my head. The yo-yo cracked the kid in the head wicked hard and he hit the floor. He looked up at me, tears in his eyes, holding his head. I spit on him and told he to leave me the fuck alone. The kid never bothered me again.



  45. 45

    heres the truth. you can sing cumbiya and wish for lollypops,rainbows and world peace your whole life and it isn't going to happen. there will always be evil in this world period.so you can be a weak victim or fight back.you choose.you can make bullying like murder illegal and like murder it will still happen.the death penalty doesn't even make them think twice about it.so stop being nieve "grow a pair"and stand up for your self.



  46. 46

    Re: Squirrel – good for you.violence only understands violence.



  47. 47

    THANK YOU!!!!!!!! i completely agree!!!!



  48. 48

    After reading about so many horrific incidents of bullying, I am currently creating a website called Bully Listings (www.bullylistings.com.) The purpose of the website is to help give victims a voice in order to help prevent and stop bullying without further violence. And while standing up for oneself is encouraged we can try, try to put in place effective methods other than violence. Therefore, by retelling incidents of bullying on the website we can lend our voices so that they will be heard. And through grace and determination - and without further violence - we can put an end to the epidemic of bullying.

    Therefore, I invite anyone who has been bullied, is currently being bullied, or who has acted as a bully to retell your story and have it posted on the website. If you would like to contribute please email your retelling to info@bullylistings.com. While you do not need to include individual names (i.e. the suspected bully), I would like you to include the School or Institution's Name at which the bullying occured. In addition, please include the school's or institution's general email address or phone number so that we can collectively make a call for action and demand accountability in these horrific situations.

    Please email to info@bullylistings.com any submissions, questions, comments or suggestions. Thank you and be safe!