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American Psycho Author Says The Bullied Should Just Get Over It

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Bret Easton Ellis, the man who wrote American Psycho, doesn't seem to have a lot of compassion for the kids contemplating suicide.

Amidst all of the coverage of school children being bullied — mostly for things they can't help — he has taken to Twitter to say:

When I was bullied: you manned-up. You learned something. You realized: I'm not getting the gold star. You realized: you lose. Deal with it.

Sigh. Some people just don't get it.

We're sorry to hear he dealt with bullies growing up too, and we're glad he was able to pull himself up for air, but we're not all built the same.

Children are children. And some are being raised by bullying parents which only delays –if not prolongs– their inability to properly cope with the violent words and actions of their peers.

And even if a bullied child has loving parents, he or she still might not be able to cope because, well, they're A CHILD!!!

Some are tough. Some are sensitive. Doesn't matter. Bullying others, especially for things they have no control over, is wrong, and we're glad the issue isn't being pushed under the rug any longer.

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33 comments to “American Psycho Author Says The Bullied Should Just Get Over It”



  1. 1

    First off, "they're a child"… really? Second. You have obviously never gotten over your childhood. The hair plugs, the constant need to show pictures of you with celebrities and the perpetual ass kissing says it all. You are a follower and thus you are bullied. If these kids want to stop the torture then they need to step up. When you fight back you earn respect win or lose.



  2. 2

    Its true, kids need to man up. Bullies feed on fear and intimidation. I've had people try to bully me but the moment they realise I'm not afraid or intimidated is they moment they stop. Hell most of the time they'll try kiss your arse and be all nice to you once they realise their usual m.o didn't work for them.
    Also, please stop calling people out on your blog for the comments they make Perez, they are entitled to say what they want, just like you. They aren't condoning bullying, they're just saying there's other ways to deal with it. People haven't forgotten that you built your platform through bullying. You call people out, you turn off the comments on half your stories now, in a way thats bullying. You only want your message delivered, and are trying stifle what others have to say. I know its your blog but limiting peoples voices will turn them off to your message.



  3. 3

    Oh come on. All kids get bullied to a certain extent when they're growing up. And you know what, they'll get bullied when they're adults as well if they allow it. They need to learn to either do something about it or get over it.



  4. 4

    Re: BonerMcBone – Couldn't agree with you more. You already know Perez is damn near illiterate anyway so it shouldn't come as any surprise that he can't get anything in his posts correct. Perez is nothing more than a boy-child himself and wants nothing more than to show the world he's important. I think he thinks that if he can meet all these "celebs" (God, I loathe that word), it's going to show them all how well he's done. Problem is, deep down, he hasn't changed at all. He's still that same bully he always was but with a more subtle way of doing so. He's in so many back pockets at this point that he's never going to have to worry about money again. These celebrities need to ignore him and stop kissing his ass for fear of what he's going to say about him. It's pathetic, really.



  5. 5

    Bullying has been and will ALWAYS be around. Kids get bullied. I was "bullied" and I also "bullied" other kids. This country is becoming way too soft and politically correct. Let's be happy that the worst thing that's happening to these kids is name calling…if they lived in some other parts of the world they'd be dodging bullets instead of words. Toughen up America!



  6. 6

    Totally agree with him.



  7. 7

    Most of us has been bullied at least once at one time, did we kill ourselves over it??? Did we overreact and make the news??
    NO! We all dealt with it
    It's just a part if growing up
    My message to kids today would be the same DEAL WITH IT!
    What's wrong with our country today?
    10 years ago we didnt have this problem!



  8. 8

    He is not saying bullying is "okay".. He is just saying that its shitty, and it happens and I agree w/ him. My husband and I were just talking about the next generation and this was something that we agreed on. You DO NOT always get the gold star, Life is not always happy and loving.. Life can be shitty.. To make kids feel like its all rainbows and love is really wrong..

    I went to a ridiculous amount of schools because my parents moved ALL THE TIME.. Kids are mean, really mean. But, as an adult, I can get along with and cope with just about any social situation I may find myself in. I HATED it when I was young. But, now I see that I deal better with others BECAUSE it was hard. Not that bullying is okay, but it does happen..

    These kids have other factors and its not just bullying that make them commit suicide. I am sure its is a catalyst, but not the ONLY reason. Who knows, if my Mom had medicated me, like alot of kids, I may have considered it…

    Why don't we rally to get kids off prescription meds instead of this?

    There are not gold starts, purple pens, etc.. The quicker they figure it out the better.



  9. 9

    Every child gets "bullied" at one point or another.
    Sure there are some kids who take the bullying too far, but if a child is so sad that they are thinking about ending their life being teased is not the only problem here. If the child is thinking about suicide over bullying, then most likely the child has some depression issues.
    Bullying has always been around and will always be around. There's no way around that. It's sad but true.



  10. 10

    Perez needs to realize that there are two types of bullying:
    1. 'Juvenile' bullying, usually done by young kids about unimportant things, and
    2. 'Hurtful' bullying, done by people who should know better with long-lasting results.
    Perez doesn't get that getting picked on in elementary school because you picked your nose is NOT the same kind of bullying as getting threatened with physical violence in high school due to sexual preference, ethnicity, etc. It sounds like this author is talking about the first kind, in which case he's absolutely correct. Kids need to learn that they can't just go running back to mommy when something happens that they don't like. It's life.



  11. 11

    Re: daisy14309 – When I was a kid I suffered from social anxiety and low-level depression. I was prescribed medication and, along with individual and group therapy, it helped me IMMENSELY. If a kid has a diagnosed disorder, it's plain wrong to deny them the treatment they need especially when they themselves want to get better.



  12. 12

    it's a proven fact. bullying does NOT make you stronger. He needs to get over HIMSELF!



  13. 13

    not all humans are made the same.. bullying may not mean much to a small percentage but to another percentage it means EVERYTHING and you have no right to take a child away from this planet because you're an ..sshole



  14. 14

    He's entitled to his opinion and I have more respect for him for not being a hypocrite than I have for a 50 year-old gay male friend of mine who watches Glee because it makes him feel so wonderful when I know he does nothing to help gay youth in real life and was actually fairly mean to a gay youth we both knew. There are many, many, many more like my friend. At least you know who you're dealing with in Bret Easton Ellis. It Gets Better is the new Just Say No. How's that working?



  15. 15

    He's 100% correct. The social media has turned kids into a bunch of wimps, they don't have it any tougher than kids did before the invention of the internet. It's just easier now to play the victim and post a video looking for sympathy and attention from celebrities, hoping they'll be invited to someone's self-indulgent birthday party in March. Hilton made his career using online media to bully his victims, with no remorse, just constant denial that he was ever a bully. Douchebag Hilton is the last person who should be criticizing others and their opinions about bullying, he is a fraud and total hypocrite.



  16. 16

    Did he really handle his bullying as a child? He wrote one of the most violent books ever. I think it is safe to say that his character Patrick Bateman is a master bully and psychopath. Maybe this guy needs to take time and reflect on how bullying helped him create this monster and how his experiences really affected him. Bullying is not a joke and when children consider suicide as the only way to handle their own bullying we as a society have a problem. There is no such thing as manning up. If people think that way they should look at their own lives and consider that they themselves are bullies!



  17. 17

    Re: rjennica – Psycho-babble. You automatically assume his writing is connected to his being bullied as a child. Probably most writers were bullied as children, why aren't they all writing dark, violent novels? You've been brainwashed by the politically correct social media crowd, manning up exists or it wouldn't be suggested.



  18. 18

    Mario THE BULLY, is lecturing on bullying.
    .
    Srsly?



  19. 19

    Re: perezfknsux – Interesting. Your username is bullying, yet you call out Perez for being a bully, and try to tell others how to deal with bullying. Perez is a bully, but you are clearly no better than he is when it comes to it.



  20. 20

    Another thing to consider here: Each time you publicize "another bullied teen victim", you edify that behavior, whether you mean to or not.
    The Golden Gate Bridge (for example) does not publicly keep a tally or make an issue of their suicides. Through experience, they discovered that always publicizing the bridge jumpers actually "glorified" the act, which resulted in an INCREASE in the suicides.
    Again, whether you mean to or not, this seems to have become the next big thing for bullied teens who feel they can't take it anymore/want attention. Maybe when you report on someone who has ended their life in this manner, you can call them a "real loser" or something like that. Remember, they are now dead, and no names can hurt them. However, those reading the words can now say "hey i'm being bullied, but I sure don't want to be called a loser by Perez…" Just a thought.



  21. 21

    Well, Mario, you have to stop bullying yourself! You post nasty comments on actors, actresses and politicians you don't like.



  22. 22

    Damn, I said much the same thing when the whiney punk story posted and the rest of the whiney punks here were all over my shit. Oh well I had fun baiting the trolls.



  23. 23

    I agree with him. Just toughen up and kick some ass. That is what I did as a kid and I survived. A bunch of wussies out there today. With their nose so far up their computer or iphone, they dont know how to deal with real world.



  24. 24

    you either fight back or "choose" to be a victim.your choice.the world is cruel and you have to deal with it.enough of the cant everybody just get along crap.it isnt ever gonna happen.even if you lose,fight back.



  25. 25

    Well All kids or most get bullied one time or another. When we were kids 15+ yrs ago we called it making fun of or teased.. never bullying. I dont condone that behavior at all. I was teased for my buck teeth and skinny body. a couple times. Not every day. I had friends who had paper thrown at them, tripped. I was thrown on the floor once. I mean that doesnt make you stronger at all. It made school suck. I hated going but i went. I somehow passed all my classes. I dont think its right and schools need to stop it. I also dont think its right to keep publicizing it on these websites. Making bullied kids celebrities. It may lead to lies.. now Im not saying this kid lied. But the way americas kids are growing up.. UGH its awful and I dont even want kids of my own because i dont want to bring them into this shitty world.



  26. 26

    Re: LovesGossip – everyone wants to be a professional VICTIM



  27. 27

    I think the guy sounds like an a-hole. Not all kids can "man-up." Some have anxiety disorders/depression. Some have abusive parents. Some have Aspergers. There are a gazillion reasons not every kid can do this. Instead of patting himself on the back, he should feel lucky that he didn't have those additional challenges.



  28. 28

    When a kid is thinking about suicide that means their life sucks in general! Their school life sucks and their home life sucks! I was teased as a kid but I released I only have to see these losers 5 out of 24 hours!!! lol I dont have to see them after I graduate or when I go home. I was perfectly ok with that and they should be too. or better yet just TRANSFER!!!! I dont know about other states but in louisiana switching is easy!



  29. 29

    He's partly right.

  30. fid says – reply to this


    30

    I don't like bullying but unfortunately it's not going to stop. I find this new phenomenon of kids/teens filming themselves discussing their issues with their own bullying then committing suicide to be a terrible thing. However, considering the amount of teens that are getting pregnant to get on TV, do you think some of these kids are doing it for notoriety? Because the media has gone into a craze over bullying, it's no longer about finding solutions for yourself, it's about a "poor me" attitude. I think instead of coddling these kids, we need to find a way to help them realize that high school ends.

    Life can be tough, if you can't make it through 4 years of school then I doubt you'd even make it through to your 30's.

    Are there statistics of how many teens committed suicide in the 80's vs. now? Bullying isn't a new thing so I really do think there is a correlation between posting your "i'm being bullied" video on youtube and then the subsequent result.



  31. 31

    Re: rjennica – Patrick Bateman was modelled after his father and all the violence in the book comes straight from FBI and CIA serial killer dossiers. So tired of people who just assume violent stories are written by disturbed and/or violent people… Besides, AM is a social satirical critique, not some wierd guy's fantasies.



  32. 32

    People are looking at this from the wrong perspective. Why is it the victim's fault and not the bully's?



  33. 33

    see, it's these kind of moronic comments that make me wanna barf. Besides the fact that not everyone has enough strenght to "deal with it", why should a kid, male or female alike, "deal with" physical abuse? why should a kid "deal with" being called f*g, the n word, or whatever it is that bullies call them? why? these people make it sound as if it was the only way you can ever grow up & become a man/woman.
    BTW, i've also been bullied. And it didn't matter if you "manned up" or didn't show you were scared.They bullied you anyway, cause your answer didn't matter. What mattered was the "respect" & "reputation" of other bullies. & to say that to commite suicide is to "overreact and make the news" is as moronic as saying that bullied kids need to deal with it. As comment 27 says, some kids have dramatic issues in their lives. They don't need extra drama.