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Folk Singer Jenny Owen Youngs Is A Proud Lesbian! Read Her Coming Out Letter HERE!

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Woo Hoo!

Another brave famous face reppin' the gay community!!!

One of our fave folksters, Jenny Owen Youngs, has come out of the closet and in a BIG way.

The songstress wrote, in an open letter on EveryoneIsGay.com, that she is in fact a lesbian. Not only that, but Jenny dives into her past struggles with sexuality, her coming out story, AND her plans to marry the advocacy site's co-crreator Kristin Russo.

Jenny wrote:

"I’m writing to tell you, among other things, that I am super gay…I think it is damaging and isolating for young people to look out into the world and not see a representation of their experience. To encounter others who are like you is to know that you are not alone. Even if you never meet them in real life, these representatives help to contextualize you – they are proof that you are part of something. You are not an anomaly. You are not a mistake.I am thankful that in recent years, it has become a bit more common for people from all walks of life to step forward and identify themselves as human beings who also happen to be gay. I am proud to offer my voice to that expanding chorus."

And we're SO proud to have you singing for equality with us!!

If only we could get to a point where we didn't have to remind people that who they are is not a mistake.

Thankfully, our community is lucky to have such a strong, eloquent advocate to help us makes leaps in accepting EVERYONE, no matter what their sexuality is!

Read the FULL epic letter …AFTER THE JUMP!!

Dear friend,

I’m writing to tell you, among other things, that I am super gay. This may or may not come as a surprise to you. If it does: Surprise! If it does not: You were right all along! Either way: Hooray!

I didn’t want to come out. I don’t want coming out to be a thing that anyone has to do.

A short list of things I’d rather be doing than “thinking about being gay” includes (but is not limited to) writing a song, reading a book, climbing a tree, dancing a jig, and watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer for the zillionth time. Don’t get me wrong - I think it is in the best interest of everyone to strive for a greater understanding of the self. I just wish that being gay (or transgender, or asexual, or fill-in-the-blank here) was as unremarkable to the masses as being left-handed or blonde.

In a perfect world, nobody would have to experience any of the negative side-effects of figuring out that you’re gay, which can include feeling confused, shameful, afraid, lost, or alone. In a perfect world, everyone could just like who they like, and get on with it.

Spoiler alert: We do not live in a perfect world.

I began to realize that I was interested in girls in junior high. At first, it made me uncomfortable. I grew up in a fairly rural, conservative town. I knew exactly one kid who was out at school, and he was harassed on a daily basis. I had always sort of liked feeling different from most of the kids at school – you know, poetry over football and whatnot. But I didn’t want to be THAT different.

My feelings were further complicated by my religious upbringing. My family attended a born-again style church which taught (as many churches do) that homosexuality is a sin. The price of that sin, should you find yourself unable to turn away from it, was to burn in a pit of fiery torment for all eternity. I was an impressionable kid, and hell was advertised to me as very real - and very likely, if I didn’t watch my step. I internalized these ideas as a child and as I grew, they grew with me.

But other growth was happening simultaneously. Over time I got more comfortable with myself, lost a few friends, and made some new ones.When I began my journey as a musician, I decided that I didn’t want to publicly address my sexuality. I didn’t think it was a big deal, or relevant to my job in any way. I also worried that the first word people would associate with me was going to be “gay” instead of “musician.” I didn’t want a non-musical part of myself overshadowing the musical part. Plus I figured it wasn’t anybody’s business.

I still maintain that it is not anybody’s business. I don’t think anyone should have to feel an obligation to come out. I don’t think that outing people is cool. I think every person has the right to privacy, and should be able to share themselves with their friends, their family, and the world at their own pace, in their own time. However, I’ve come to realize in recent months that a big part of my desire to hide this aspect of myself was rooted in those dusty old feelings: that there is something wrong, something bad, something less-than about being gay.

It brings me no pleasure to admit to you that I have felt these feelings. I want to appear strong, because I feel strong now. But at the same time I know it is important - perhaps even the whole point of writing this thing - to make myself vulnerable. Because I know that there are human beings out in the world who understand these feelings but cannot give them a name. I want to tell you that it’s okay to feel messed up. Feeling messed up is a part of life, but it is not the only part. And the only way out of that feeling is through.

This summer I am going to marry my fiancé. Her name is Kristin Russo and she is one half of the team behind EveryoneIsGay.com. Having a firsthand view of the work that she and Dannielle do has been inspiring, and has also made me think more critically about my decision. What kind of a message does it send to a teenager when I avoid a question about my sexuality? Whatever the answer, I’m confident that it is no longer a message I am comfortable sending.

I think it is damaging and isolating for young people to look out into the world and not see a representation of their experience. To encounter others who are like you is to know that you are not alone. Even if you never meet them in real life, these representatives help to contextualize you – they are proof that you are part of something.

You are not an anomaly. You are not a mistake.

I am thankful that in recent years, it has become a bit more common for people from all walks of life to step forward and identify themselves as human beings who also happen to be gay. I am proud to offer my voice to that expanding chorus.

Love,

Jenny

[Image via Everyone Is Gay.]

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14 comments to “Folk Singer Jenny Owen Youngs Is A Proud Lesbian! Read Her Coming Out Letter HERE!”

  1. gossam says – reply to this


    1

    Why can't she just say 'hey I'm gay' and leave it at that? Why do gay people with a bit of fame always have to make some big speech about it when they come out, as though their personal act is some significant and important milestone in the movement? Why do they all act as though they are an inspiration? This is a big part of why the straights don't see the gay movement as a big deal, you guys are busy putting yourselves on a pedestal by yourselves.

    P.S Fuck you rosebud, you're still here acting like a moral saint all the time, still hating on Beyonce for no reason at all?

  2. karen says – reply to this


    2

    I know that there are still issues w/ young gay people committing suicide so I get why you post these things but Perez, I'd like to be surprised by someone who comes out just once. Ricky Martin & NPH coming out wasn't surprising. Colin Farrell waking up one day & saying I guess it is genetic, that's a surprise. I know it's a cause for gays, but for us straights, enterain us a little please.



  3. 3

    Super Gay as opposed to?……



  4. 4

    Jenny "SNATCH is what I like"

  5. Andreas says – reply to this


    5

    Re: angie_hater – We're Super Gay on days we wear our capes. Duh!



  6. 6

    Hey P, I remember when you used to post about this artist and I started liking her thru you! "Voice on Tape" was the first song I heard. I loved it! I loved the beginning "But you know, it's a funny world where machines could replace people."



  7. 7

    Re: gossam – because she can. She has a story to tell and if it can help others, so be it. Why couldn't of you just read the letter and NOT POSTED a comment about? Just read it and rolled along? Probably for the same reason she wrote it. Cause she can. Also, when u look out into the world, do you see "being gay" NOT BEING A ISSUE? no, we have a long way to go and until the world is treating LGBT like being heterosexual, then I imagine many more letters and stories and speeches are to come, and I welcome it. Your comment was weak.



  8. 8

    Shez Super Gay … Weeheeeeeeee

  9. Smilinjack says – reply to this


    9

    Who cares?? Just another attempt by a next to nothing talent to jump on the current "being gay" craze to get publicity.

  10. harold Bowlby says – reply to this


    10

    For the umpteenth time! WHO (besides Perez Hilton) CARES! The article states, "I'ts no one's business". Then why make it everyone's business by going public? Stupid people!

  11. bsheetiezy says – reply to this


    11

    I would love to watch her dive deep in a face full of hair pie,…….. I'm just saying

  12. Tina says – reply to this


    12

    She's incredibly talented and a great asset to the LGBT community! Love her music. Glad to see she's marrying someone like Kristin Russo who's doing so much good for gay & trans kids!

  13. Annie says – reply to this


    13

    The negative comments on here are ridiculous. She's very talented and she's been asked repeatedly about her sexuality for years and hasn't answered. This is her letter to those of us who care. It is a significant milestone. There's not that many popular gay singers. Not compared to straight. Like, you're on a site run by a gay guy with a lot of LGBT content and you're commenting that nobody cares when someone comes out. Why don't all the 'ugh nobody cares' people go over to a food or parenting blog or something and tell them that nobody cares about their avocado cake and/or baby. People are so stupid.

  14. kufdan says – reply to this


    14

    Oh so now she has the Official Approval of Perez Whoton?

    Yeah, I'm sure she will be so happy to have her personal life assimilated into this nightmare gossip blog, like she did it all for you Perez.

    I am convinced that this dumb blog actually keeps people in the closet for fear of being associated with such a schmuck as the blog-host here.

    Sorry to hate, but the only thing I like about Perez Hilton is the bit that Polo Molina made bleed. You are a cancer to the internet Mr "Hilton" - and puleez, even Paris Hilton is so 2000 these days, how about capitalizing on what is left of the husk of soul you might still have and start a blog under your real name. Otherwise please retire and do something more nice with your life. This kind of stuff is too late and too lame.

    I wish Jenny Owen Youngs the best with her personal life in future.

    If Perez Hilton had any balls he'd be learning to speak Russian right now.

    Yours sincerely, Most Of The Internet.