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RHONJ's Melissa Gorga Is Defending Her Hubby Against Marital Rape Claims Stemming From Her Book!

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Holy seriousness!

You know we love us some Real Housewives, but when shizz gets serious, shizz gets DAMN serious!

And now Melissa Gorga is finding herself in some seriously serious shizz as the release of her book, Love, Italian Style: The Secrets of My Hot and Happy Marriage, has stirred up the opinion that she's trapped in a marriage that involves marital rape!

Some of the passages have apparently made her book sound like her hubby, Joe Gorga, forces sex on her. One passage that hit people hard was Joe's section where he states, "If your wife says "no," turn her around, and rip her clothes off."

But being the Housewives starlet she is, Melissa isn't letting this supposed misunderstanding go unnoticed. She stepped up to defend her main man in her Bravo blog and explained:

"Fans of Fifty Shades of Grey can attest that there's a difference between racy and 'rapey.' When Joe and I talk about dominance and submission, it's racy. It's about a man being a man, a woman being a woman, a man taking charge and a woman letting it happen — consensually! There are times I play hard to get, and Joe knows those signals. But when I am not in the mood, Joe doesn't force me to do ANYTHING."

She also further explained her passage where she stated women sometimes need to have sex just to meet their husband's needs:

"I defy anyone in a long-term relationship, man or woman, to say that they've never done it for their partner's sake once in a while. It's called compromise and compassion for the person you love and trust most in the world."

While Melissa very well might have meant something different than what she wrote about in her book, we think the gurl might just want to stay away from the ol' pen and paper.

Or maybe next time she should just write about juicy Housewives' secrets!

No one will be complaining about that!

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6 comments to “RHONJ's Melissa Gorga Is Defending Her Hubby Against Marital Rape Claims Stemming From Her Book!”

  1. fid says – reply to this


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    So couldn't she have written in her book something along the lines of, get a safe word and role play and have a dominant and submissive role in the bedroom because a lot of women like it? Rather than saying hey fellas, if your woman says she doesn't want it, she really means she does so just dominate her. That sounds super rapey to me. Also her husbands comments afterwards.

  2. Caitlin says – reply to this


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    Not normally a fan of Melissa's, but I agree with her statements

  3. zip says – reply to this


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    The truth is, she and her husband are right!!! This is normal man/woman stuff! If a woman were to insist that she help herself sexually to her husband, nobody would call it rape…and I have certainly heard of many men waking-up to find their women on top of them riding their manhood, or giving them head or a hand job as they sleep, etc. This isn't rape, it is called "love and passion"…and sexual tension between a couple comes out in these types of aggressive ways. It's an extremely thin line between that and rape, and both people in a relationship are perfectly aware of this, even lesbian couples have these issues to deal with–all of them–near everyday–so this isn't limited to straight couples alone; it is just normal lust and romance–which may even sometimes cross the line within a relationship. Emotions…mixed with hormones, pheromones, sexuality, alcohol, etc., offer up some very powerful stuff to deal with and try to successfully navigate–thus misunderstandings will happen in the bedroom. Damn a "safety word", you should be adult enough to be able to read when your partner is not okay with something and stop if they wish; it is as simple as that! If you want to keep your partner happen, let them enjoy you, or lose them to someone who will.

  4. zip says – reply to this


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    PS: That's "happy"…not "happen". And BTW, the dominant thing vs. submissive…is more often than not, what a woman wants–and even demands of her man, although most women will not openly voice this to a male lover. Either her man understands her needs, and gives it to her that way, or she will find a man who will offer her that–with him being in control and dominant. It is a major mistake for a male to be too polite in the bedroom, as a women will assume him to be lacking and unfit. This is animal instinct stuff, but it is nonetheless true–something that the authorities and media don't want to talk about because t can be controversial in terms of blow-back, but it is quietly understood behind closed doors. This is the reason why the TV show "Scandal" and the book "50 Shades of Grey" are so very popular with women.



  5. 5

    Re: zip – I'm sorry but what a bunch of crap. Not every woman wants to be dominated in bed. Not saying some don't, and I'm not saying any woman wants a man that's polite while in bed but…there's a huge jump in between the two. And pretending there isn't is just stupid. In bed I like guys who share control, simple as that. And unless it was an actual game we played, I certainly wouldn't be okay with my husband ripping my clothes off me after I've said no. I also don't believe in a woman or man having sex just to keep the other one happy, especially when they're really not in the mood. I'm all for a man being a man but that doesn't mean complete control.

    Oh and I hate 50 Shades of Grey…it's horribly written and that kind of thing honesty doesn't turn me on.

  6. Kristin says – reply to this


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    I'm all for a hot marriage, but I don't think that's what these two have. I think they're both totally dysfunctional. He seems to have no respect for women and she's making a fool of him. If he lost his money, I guarantee, he'd lose her too. This isn't a marriage. It's an arangement.