There's no question this must be excruciatingly difficult on the entire family.
The source said:
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Sometimes a diss is just a misunderstanding.
Joan was famous banned from NBC's The Tonight Show by Jay's predecessor, Johnny Carson, after she launched a rival show on FOX. During Jay's 20+ year late night run, Joan was never invited (though Jimmy Fallon eventually ask her back).
Melissa says she was dissed by Jay at event just months after Joan's death:
"My mother passed in September, and I was asked to speak at The Hollywood Reporter Women in Entertainment breakfast at the beginning of December, so it was very fresh … I walk in, and I'm standing, having a coffee in the reception area, and Jay…looks right at me, and looks away."
Melissa thought he would approach her and offer his condolences:
"It would have been closure, and it would have been the right thing to do."
"If he made eye contact with her, he didn't recognize it was Melissa. Had he done so, he would've come over to extend his condolences. He apologizes if she was offended, but he did not realize it was Melissa."
Jay previous admitted Joan was banned out of respect to Johnny:
"I don't think he wanted to see her on the show."
Hopefully this buries one of Hollywood's longest standing feuds.
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