There's no question this must be excruciatingly difficult on the entire family.
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You may not be lucky enough to know up-and-coming comic Beth Stelling from her feature film This Isn't Funny on Netflix or from her appearances on Conan, Chelsea Lately, or @midnight.
But you will after today.
The standup decided to open up about something way more serious in a heartcrushingly honest Instagram post on Monday.
After being "verbally, physically abused and raped" by her boyfriend, Stelling finally worked up the courage to end the relationship.
Instead of keeping it to herself, explaining away her breakup, or making excuses for her ex, she showed immense strength by going completely public with her experience.
All too often abusers get away with it because of silence and shame.We're just so appreciative and in awe of Beth right now.
Same girl in all of these photos (me). I've had an amazing year and you've seen the highlights here, so these photos are an uncommon thing to share but not an uncommon issue. You may be weirded out but do read on. I have a point. There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional. When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn’t have, but there are no "best practices" with this. When friends or comics ask why we broke up it's not easy or comfortable to reply; it doesn't seem like the appropriate thing to say at a stand-up show, a party or a wedding. It's embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It's not simple. After I broke up with him he said, "You're very open and honest in your stand-up, and I just ask that you consider me when you talk about your ex because everyone knows who you're talking about." And I abided. I wrote vague jokes because we both live in L.A. and I didn't want to hurt him, start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family. I wanted to move on and forget because I didn’t understand. I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life. It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny. So now I'm allowing this to be part of my story. It's not my only story, so please don't let it be. If you live in L.A., you've already started to hear my jokes about this and I ask you to have the courage to listen and accept it because I’m trying. Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity. An ex-girlfriend of this ex-boyfriend came to me and shared that she experienced the same fate. Then there was another and another (men and women) who shared other injustices at his hand that..A photo posted by Beth Stelling (@bethstelling) on Dec 28, 2015 at 9:30am PST
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