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This one's for the ladies!
Serena Wiliams has been hurt. The tennis pro has just written an impassioned entry on her official website about men, dating and relationships.
She says:
"You just start dating a guy. He likes you, you like him. You guys want to spend every second together. When you are not with him you are talking to him on the phone. You have deep feelings for him. The feelings keep developing. They keep growing. You begin to think this could be it. You begin to think I really think this is it for me….. You love being together. You can't stand being without each other. You start to feel like you have never felt before, and you do things for him you have never done before. He tells you he doesn’t want to be with you and only you. He tells you he adores you. He tells you u guys were meant for each other. You care for him. You are falling for him. You take things slow. You don't want to make any mistakes. You go slower with him than you have ever done before. You don't rush to introduce him to your friends, let alone anyone else. You want it to be right. You are feeling this and you feel this could mean something. He communicates with you. He thanks God you are in his life. You guys have fun together. You laugh together. He talks about being and becoming serious with you. He talks about his desire to love you one day. He talks about he can't imagine not being with you. You think he's falling in love with you. But you can't be 100% sure. You guys have not said that sacred 4 letter word that starts with an "L". But you feel it deep deep in you. Deeper than you have in a long time.
You ask him "are we moving too fast"? He replies "We are just following our hearts." You start to trust him. Something you have not done since your first heart break. How long ago was that? You wonder. Trust is something you vowed you would never do again. But slowly your heart comes out of its steel enclosure. You feel like you can trust him. You feel as if everything you went though was for a reason. And the reason was to meet him. Days turns into weeks. And he tells you about the connection you guys have in each others hearts.
Weeks turns into months and you slowly start to wean the other guys in your life out. And than it happens. No not the "L" word. But what you have been most afraid of. What deep in your heart you have been afraid to confront. What you always suspected would happen one day sooner or later. HE STOPS CALLING. You panic. But you try to stay calm. He did this before when you first started talking, but u tried to forget it. You knew u should have not forgotten. But u tried to ignore it. He disappears for a week with no phone call. No answer to yours no nothing. Finally you hear from him. You want to rage you want to scream you want to cry. But you can't help you heart from feeling a tad bit happy."
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"As you begin to ask him what happened he stops you. He says "I need space". You cringe at these words. This is the very reason you begin to think why your heart was in that steel enclosure. The reason you don't put your emotions your feelings, your heart into it. Because one day it always turns in to this day. But you are already too far out you are at the point of no return, you can't come back. You can't believe, although a piece of you does believe it. Space. How many time have you heard this before? Space? Wasn’t you giving him enough? Space. Hummm you laugh because its so ridiculous. You laugh because again u knew this day would come. Why did you not listen to that little voice inside your hear telling you to "watch out". "Be careful". You laugh only because tears won't come.
You know its not you, but u cant help but look at that man in the mirror. You can't help but pick yourself apart. Why? Why? Why? Why? Why? And again and again you can't come up with the answer. Slowly as you try to focus on other things and think of other people you put you heart back into that steel case.
Tears finally come and they make you feel a little better, but the pain is piercing through your soul. The pain never hurts as bad as the first time. . But all the same you can't help but feel hopeless, foolish. Your great chance to be with your soul mate has again somehow slipped and failed.
But eventually you know you will pick yourself up. Eventually you know you will try again. And eventually you know you will find the keys to you heart, but also in the back of your mind you think…. Will it happen again.""
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Re: Christine – bitch. racist bitch… you suck at life.
that was beautiful.
man- so accurate..
it is so much less complicated to be on your own anyway..
all you need is a dildo and a great dog and you're set!
Is she talking about Common or the other guy she supposedly cheated on with Common?
WOW. I just got over this EXACT same situation. The dude stopped calling me on Christmas just out of the blue. For 6 months, we talked every single night and then he just…stopped. We ended it on New Years Eve. Hmmph. It hurts. Real Bad. I feel you Serena! Damn, she's like my homegirl now. My kindred spirt. I should totally just go lezzy with her. FUCK guys!! HMMPH. (I sitll love him tho…and I foolishly thought he felt the same way, but i guess giving him all I had wasnt enough to gain his love) ASSHOLE. Love you Serena! *muah* LOL
wow that was intense.. she's a great writer
afuckingmen. i hear you.
KARma is A betch!! he WILL one day FEEL her PAIn!
Serena! Yes! you will love again and it will happen again! because YES! I believe in love. As stupid and naive as I sound to anyone reading this! And I'm writing this because Serena is like all of us, she touched my heart. She's admitting to the world she's been dumped. How many times have I said or heard oh! it just didn't workout instead of admitting either the MOFO dumped me or I never heard from him again. But love and heartache goes together. We live to Love! Again and Again! This is when we feel the most alive, its when we breathe deeper! I love that feeling I get when we first meet someone that we can't stop thinking about them and every meeting thereafter we get those little butterflies or okay you get hot just knowing your about to be with them or meet them someplace, whatever. Asi es la vida, vivir para amar, Amar para vivir, Love does not discriminate, rich or poor, thin or fat, we all suffer it, getting dumped, some more than others. But really, when you really know its real, when this is it. You don't even think about that steel cage around your heart. Because your heart will find its own way out. Serena don't give up on love!!! You will meet that man of your dreams soon because that man is out there waiting to fall in love with you. Don't give up girl! Stay True! Stay Beautiful!
Let's think a minute—- She did thing's for him she's never done before? Whether she did or didn't-you don't say it like that unless you expect something for it, and that don't fly. I hate that! Every marriage or relationship that starts off hot and totally satisfying ends up with someone wanting you to ALWAYS be there because they've done this or that for you and not for anyone else so they DESERVE your every MINUTE of attention! You think" I've done thing's for you too??" But you want it to work. You concede until they flip out because you we're working all week till after hours and was too f**king tired to go drive and hang out then drive all the way back and try to sleep and be ready for another dog day. But wait-what do you do,"Oh nothing till my season begins." So you have all the wealth, mucho time, lot's of friends, and all you think about is when is the next time I'm coming to see you? And I have to explain where I'm at who I'm with whenever I'm not with you? F**K yeah-damn right-Need some space-it's not you it's me-this isn't working for me right now-I'm not ready for this type of relationship-WHATEVER it takes to end this because you don't see it because your too insensitive-selfish or just plain stupid……sometimes you don't know what you have until you lost it and then it's public sympathy time! Please…..women! And you wonder why men turn gay????
girl, you're a gem. beautiful, talented and caring.
you will love again, and be loved again. next person is always bigger, better
gf you're killing me. dayum.
Yep, Serena we all have been there. Most guys suck. Don't let them get you down!!!
He tells you he doesn’t want to be with you and only you.
That should be your first warning sign, Serena! lol
"He tells you he doesn’t want to be with you and only you."
That should be your first warning sign, Serena! lol
so true i am living it right now love u serena
And you just don't know how to give, love, embrace and can't appreciate anything. Very sad.
As much as it sounds like the guy just wants to have fun with no strings attached, it usually stems from his insecurity and immaturity. Re: Sigh-man –
Re: Sigh-man –
And you just don't know how to give, love, embrace and can't appreciate anything. Very sad.
As much as it sounds like the guy just wants to have fun with no strings attached, it usually stems from his insecurity and immaturity.
Re: Sigh-man –
And you just don't know how to give, love, embrace and can't appreciate anything. Very sad.
As much as it sounds like the guy just wants to have fun with no strings attached, it usually stems from his insecurity and immaturity.
That was the best blog "from a celebrity " that I have ever read..it happens to all of us
Wow! I so can relate to that. I keep my heart in a steal cage now. I'm so afraid of getting hurt. It has taken me two years to start getting over my nervous breakdown over a relationship ending. I no longer believe in love. I think that it's going to take a really strong man to break my heart out of it's steal cage. It's funny how one person can make you feel worthless and it's even funnier that we allow that to happen. I have now learned to love myself more then any strange that enters my life.
When you look in the mirror what do you see?
it happens to all women but its ok these are the things that make us strong and if theres no pain theres no gain and you'll never know how strong you are unless you have to be keep yo head up serena juceefruitt!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
WHYYYY??
do YOU think she said "YOU" enough?
Serena,
You are fantastic! Sadly, most men don't grow up, enough to appreciate the value of a real relationship until they get close to 40 years old. Your relationships, up to that point are mostly "dress rehersals" Figure out what was wrong with this guy, & avoid men like him like the plague. Most women date the same man over & over! In you case, because of your strength & talent, you need to date only men that aren't going to be intimidated by your power. In other words, Don't Waste your Time with weak, insecure men. Find someone successful/powerful/secure enough to not be threatened by your success. I finally found mine, but I've been hurt too.
this is so powerful.. i just brpke up with my bf and i know how this feels..
Oh, she's young. You will learn young lady that romantic bullshit is just that bullshit. If and when you meet someone that you think is your soulmate, that will also turn to crap sooner or later. Yes, I'm bitter.
boys are dumb! throw rocks at them!
boys are dumb! throw rocks at them!
damn boys. recently saw her in omaha at an exhibition— she looks awesome!
Daing and you think the girl would be a playa in the game of love!! WTF all that tennis crap did not teach her to never let the man know what her next move will be!!! Bet you she will do it all over again and we will once again be reading some dumbs ass poem again!
Re: pantera lilly –
NO girl you aint bitter!! YOU IS SMART UMKAY!!
been here before. God that's rough. at least she's strong enough not to accept his bull though.
shes talking about common (the rapper) and thats his m.o as fine as he is no committment, but he'll rap about her im sure.
Karma's a bitch Serena. (remember how you treated the lower ranking tennis girls ?)
should have been nice to justine,aha
I've always thought she looks like Mike Tyson in a dress.
awww thats so nicee
poor serena i feel bad for her
awwww
Re: nikki – Ur ignorant and ur comment shows a sick spirit and unhealthy mind.
Spending every minute of every day obsessing on someone is a way to set yourself up to get miserable and dumped. Merging with another person to the point to where you become an emotional fool and lose your individuality and self respect as she has, is a disease this society needs to get over.
DID SHE SAY THE MAN IN THE MIRROR???? HOW FITTING!!!! THAT WAS UNINTERESTING, BORING AND A BUNCH OF CRAP!! SUCK IT UP AND GET OVER IT…I'M SURE ANOTHER WOMAN (I MEAN MAN) WILL LIKE YOU AGAIN AND BE YOUR SOUL MATE.
Poor baby. It'll get better and when he comes running back, KNOCK HIM ON HIS ASSSSSSS!!!!
Oh the joys of being a woman…they say they want you, that they aren't good enough for you…it's all bull. I hope she finds someone equal to her who will love her, same way I hope I will find someone too. Good luck girl and God bless you. x
Hold your head up high and stay focus. Your a strong black women who deserves nothing but true love and if his the one then so be it.