Why Would She Say This???
Filed under: Salma Hayek
In the new issue of Glamour, Salma Hayek, mom of the adorable new tot Valentina confesses that she wanted a boy.
Salami explains that she was 'afraid'.
"I think women suffer more a bit more than boys, and there is always conflict between mother and daughters…But now that she's here, I'm so happy she's a girl," says Hayek.
She goes on to say that she 'can't imagine' having any conflicts with her baby girl because she's in a 'state of innocence' and loves everything her little one does.
Why would you put that energy out there???
Little V might read that when she's all grown up!
[Image via WENN.]
Posted: March 5, 2008 at 2:20 pm
perez one day when you have kids you will know what she means–
Whats wrong with what she said?If I have a kid.I'd personally want a boy.But if I had a girl I'd be happy and love it just as much!I mean its just a perefence.We know we may or may not.We have no choice in what we get.It's a comment.It's not like she's saying she hates her baby or women in general.I mean that'd be hypocritical don't you think?Considering she's a woman.With a vagina…Ya know.As a matter of fact she went on to say how much she loves her daughter and wouldn't have it any other way.Seriously my friend's mom found out she was pregnant with her and wasn't happy because she didn't want anymore kids.Now you'd think that wouldn't be something you'd tell a kid years after they were born."Oh yea Mommy wasn't happy when she found out about you."But its in the way inwhich you say it.My friend knows and guess what.She loves her mother and her mother loves her.Because she knew the circumstances and her mom knew she loved her and had nothing to hide.Get over it Perez.She didn't name call or call females or daughters bad.She's not like you.She doesn't make her money calling people nasty names every chance they get.Shit!….Seriously with all the REAL child abuse going on out there.I think you'd have more to worry about then Selma's comment.But of course not!
And the big deal is…..? It's not like she's saying she is so disappointed she had a girl. She's just saying she was nervous about having a girl for this and that reason but now that she's had her she can't imagine it any other way. A LOT of mothers feel this way. I was SHOCKED when I found out I was having a boy and I will admit disappointed. I just had to get used to the idea of having a boy. Of course now I would not trade him for all the girls in the world and love him more than ANYTHING.
maybe little V won't be as prissy of a bitch like you and get offended by everything under the sun. try to find something worthwhile to bitch about.
oh please queen… it's just her opinion… she just thinks women suffer more than boys, read the quote a few times before you go and report your dumb founded opinion of what you think she said.
She's just saying like it is, it may not be politically correct, but it's 100% true. But Perez being a gay and bigot at the same time might not see this. And don't vote for "Hussein" Obama, do you really want someone with the mind of a kindergartner running our country. Even if you are 20 years old, you must be smart enough to know naivete when it's slapping you right in the face.
She's honest about it at least, it's not so bad really - I'm sure plenty secretly wanted one sex and got the other, that's life.
HOWEVER, she should never have said it publicly like that.
Like you mentioned, the kid will grow up and have it thrown in her face at some point - and it's just awful to hear negative things about you from your mother like that.
You are the last person that should be talking about putting bad 'energy out there' Perez!
Do you know why she said this? Because she has nothing else to talk about. Let's see: Her career? Nowhere, thank you… Her "engagement"? Oh, please do you think that guy is ever going to marry her? She should be ashamed of herself. I lost the litlle respect I had for her today.
Perez, you suck. Your comment: "Why would you put that energy out there?" is just fucking priceless, you negative twat. Your pot is just soooo black.
Dear Perez,
I love you, but you are not a woman. Stay out of this one, you have no idea, and you never will. Thank you.
Her worries are perfectly natural. She's bringing a child into a very violent world. This very minute, a woman is being raped or beaten so why wouldn't a mother worry for her baby girl? Perhaps this is something only a parent can truly understand.
I never understood this question…"do you want a boy or a girl?" I mean, does it really matter? As long as the baby is healthy? Why should one care "what" it is?
i use to like you perez, but after reading this crap on your blog I just think you are a big dumb 30 year old idiot…
Why would you put that energy out there???
Little V might read that when she's all grown up!
SO WHY WOULD YOU REPEAT IT HERE?????????
YOU ARE SUCH A GODDAMN STUPID CUNT!!!!!!!
i don't really understand why this is a problem…. it looks like i'm not alone on this either. its true and obvious that mothers and daughters have conflict. i believe it to be natural and conflict usually goes away. of course she was nervous, who wouldn't be?
there is nothing wrong with what she said! it makes perfect sense. daughters always fight with their mother.
What if she had been a guy? Would you still say the same thing? Scott Baio whined all the time on his show about wanting a boy. Besides, just because she wanted a boy doesn't mean she didn't want a girl. It's common for people to have a preference, but love the child either way. MOUNTAIN OUT OF A MOLE HILL
Oh stop it. Hayek was immensely positive about her child.
You're bitching about nothing because there's no other news, now, and it's dull.
ask any woman who has children of her own, which sex is easier to raise and they will all tell you that boys are ten times easier from birth to adulthood…
"originally wanted a boy but love my girl" > "my baby is a blob"
It might be to harsh to say those things but they are reality. Women are drama so its obvious that a mom and daughter will have issues, I dont blame Salma I agree with her comment.
I think it is brave of her to express her true opinion. Why should you be pressured to be happy with whatever you get? There are many reasons you may prefer one gender over the other and it is obvious she loves her daughter all the same and is happy, this should not be negative. Why would a women love her child any less because she wanted a certain gender? And for good reason, too! Shame on you Perez, you are always so supportive of free speech and opinion.
Hell if i was a celebrity, id be afraid to have a girl too.
Look at Lindsey la-hoe, Paris Hilton -lazy cum eye, crazy britney. they are young (except Paris) and are flashing their crotches everywhere. I think she is just afraid of her girl following in those footsteps, thus she involves innocence in the conversation. Most women in Hollywood are bring laughed at for being dumb bitches…. the respect for women in the industry has lowered, thanks to the idiots I previously mentioned.
You do not have children and cannot possibly understand.
It's not a bad thing to say. I feel the same way. Girls are too much drama and you have to worry more about them.
She thinks she knows everything,, and she truely believes she is right in what she says,, she is trying to say…"LOOK AT ME
As a mother, I totally understand what Salma meant. When you know what little girls have to go through to grow up and be confident, happy women - it's terrifying! Women have so many body issues and self-esteem issues. Not to mention the horomones. The drama about boys, hair, clothes.
Little boys, quite frankly, are just easier to raise. More laid back. Don't care about their clothes. Don't get their feathers ruffled easily. The simple fact is that men are simpler creatures.
Am I the only one that noticed those great knockers?
PEREZ COMPARED TO ALL THE NASTY SHIT YOU SAY THIS IS NOT THAT BAD - MAYBE OUR LITTLE RESIDENT INTERNET QUEEN IS PROJECTING HIS OWN HATE OF HIMSELF ON TO OTHER PEOPLE…..
I THINK SHE MENT YOU HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT GIRLS A LITTLE MORE? WHATEVER,I STILL THINK SHE IS A GREAT PERSON EVEN SO IF HER CHILD READS THAT WHEN SHES GROWN UP SHE'LL PROBABLY THINK NOTHING OF IT.IT IS TRUE THE WORLD IS MORE TOUGHER FOR A GIRL THAN A BOY BUT NO MATTER WHAT THEY SHOULD'NT BE TREATED ANY DIFFRENT.
i'm not seeing the problem. alot of ppl wanted one sex and got the other. and mothers and daughters are known for fighting with each other. me an my mother sure did have our battles when i was a teen.
shut the fuck up perez. she wanted a boy. that's her opinion. jesus christ.
i agree with most comments here… Salma's right!
i think it came out the wrong way bc as girls we do deal with more strict rules in our homes and in communities (depends on culture but i did) and i personally think it is harder to take care of a girl for these reasons and more
sorry I just can't relate to her…
there's nothing wrong with what she said. you're reaching, and it's obvious.
I ain't see the problem? But then again in Hollywood if a celebrity says they don't like spaghetti everyone will start saying they hate Italians >.> Give me a muthafuckass break!
who cares. I agree with her.
GROWING UP IN MY FAMILY BOYS GOT AWAY WITH EVERYTHING THEY SAT IN THE LIVING ROOM AND ATE WHY US GIRLS HAD TO SIT AT THE TABLE.THEY BROUGHT THERE GIRLFRIENDS HOME AND TOOK THEM UPSTAIRS WE COULD'NT HAVE A BOY COME TO THE DOOR.WE COULD'NT STAY OUT LATE THE BOYS COULD IT IS'NT FAIR BUT THEN AGAIN LIFE IS'NT.I DEALT WITH IT AND I STILL TURNED OUT ALOT BETTER BECAUSE OF IT THERE IS A PLUS AND MINUS TO BEING A GIRL.
SOOOO glad I had two boys & no, not trying for #3 for exactly the same reason that Salma states! But I would never say that AFTER having a girl! Welcome to the world Vale! I wanted a BOY, but got YOU instead! Bienvenida! LMAO.
As a mother … I can't believe she would say that .. ITS REALLY SAD ;**(
But at least little Valentina has the Gizzillion Dollar Fortune of her DAD be spolied with
Every mom wants a boy. Having a daughter is like arguing with yourself. Boys love their mommy. Girls love daddy. I know it is a generalization, doesn't make it not true.
I agree with her….she is likely stating her opinion based on her own personal exp. with her mother something that I too have exp. I have 3 brothers and am the only daughter none of my brothers have faught with my mom as my mother and I have but again I agree with her I love Salma she is a GENIUS! =D
A lot of women state their wishes about the gender of their sex before they know for sure what it is. That doesn't mean they aren't happy with what they got (well, maybe some are). Also, what Salma says is true. I have one of each, a boy and a girl. I thought the boy would be the trouble-maker, but it turns out that the girl is much worse. I still love them both though, but it just didn't turn out the way I thought it would.
Perhaps it's a cultural thing that we cannot grasp
What happens when beautiful mother's have not so beautiful daughters. Even though the mom's love their daughter's there is usually the energy of "I wish my daughter was prettier" about. Depending on how vain the mother is, derogatory remarks about the ugly daughter.
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Would life be easy if the beautiful mom gave birth to a beautiful daughter. Sometime it works, they enjoy living vicariously through there beautiful daughter but you could get a jealous mom that becomes envious of her pretty girl when her beauty is fading.
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An ugly mom and a beautiful daughter can often result in weird pageants and spoiled girls who grow up with ugly personalities.
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There are so many complex mother daughter realtionships this list could go one forever
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Girls can also be manipulative using more emotional tactics to get what they want. They are taught from an early age to be a "nice" girl, not to be aggressive or hostile. This day and age where girls are taught to do whatever a boy can do, but still are told not to act out like boys, be a lady. When they do something bad they will become very passive aggressive and sneaky. They will stab a person in the back and act innocent. Very normal for girls to be passive aggressive/sneaky. Just the truth.
She's honest. God forbid.
People flipping out on moms and acting like they aren't allowed to voice even the most mildly negative thing about their children or motherhood in general is ridiculous. Imagine how stressful it must be to have to sit there with a blank expression on your face and vomit nonsense about how overjoyed you are and never EVER mention one difficulty you may have with motherhood.
Katy Holmes must be your hero. A zombie woman.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with what she said! I am preggers. I wanted a girl. Until I found out it is a boy. Now I am thrilled to be having a boy. This is totally natural and if you have ever been pregnant or have friends with children you would not find this shocking at all. Most people want one or the other, but in the end, they are happy to have a healthy baby, just like Selma. I can't believe anyone finds this shocking. I also totally understand what she is saying about the mother/daughter relationship. I always say the good thing about having a boy and not a girl is that every girl at one point during her teenage years screams "I HATE YOU MOM!" to their mother. It is just the way it is!
I think a lot of women (and men) want a boy to carry on the name, but initially–girls are usually daddy's girls, and boys are usually momma's boys at first. Then the old addage starts to kick in, " a son is your son ’til he takes a wife, but a daughter's your daughter for the rest of your life."
She's right…there usually is more conflict between mothers and daughters. Should she have said it in public? Maybe not. But when you really look carefully at what she said it speaks to the experience of many women.
She didn't want a boy because she dislikes girls
She feared a girl would have a more difficult life. That's also the reason why girls argue more with their mothers.
I had a hard enough time growing up trying to be what the world not only wants me to be but demands these days, all girls do, and I can't even begin to imagine how it would be if my mum was famous. Being the daughter of a famous woman is probably a lot harder than being her son, or the son of a famous man. Just look at how many times people compare Rumer Willis to her mother, and calls her hideous and potato head, or how websites wrote nasty things about Madonna's daughter for inheriting her mother's eighties eyebrows.
I think if her daughter reads this when she grows up she'll think that ”wow, mum understood what I'd go through”. I also think it's good to see that Salma recognises the difficulties that may lay ahead, which means she's more likely to try and help her daughter avoid them.
being a mother, i totally understand what she's saying, so shut up
Too bad Bitch! You're jealous because Linda Evangelista had a baby boy and you had a girl. Your husband, François-Henri Pinault and Linda created a wonderful baby boy!
Um, because it's true? Everything she said is true. Do you have a problem with the truth? If so, it's your own energy you should be worried about.
I'm pregnant now and wanted a boy at first b/c I was afraid of having a daughter like I was when I was a teenager. I was a total brat to my mom and I have no desire to put up with a mini- me. Still, I too found out it was a girl and learned to love the idea over time. It's not an excuse- its simply how some people feel. Trust me, I am already looking into "spas" for me to hide out at in 13 years or so until my daughter to be grows out of her teen angst stage and stops calling me a bitch. Salma's daughter might read that comment someday and take offense, but she didn't mean it as a dig against her child- she, like most of us, probably just knows that girls can be really cruel (especially towards their mothers) during puberty, and its a scary thing to have to contemplate when you're so in love with your unborn baby.
I think I understand what she means but maybe she didn't express herself in the best way. Women have come a long way to prove that they are equal to men but there are always challenges a woman will face. The majority of women will, at some point during their lives, feel torn between family and career. They will always judged more harshly for their parenting skills because the popular belief is that a woman should be naturally maternal. Women will always face the stress of feeling that they have to be physically attractive to get ahead. I also think that mother-daughter relationships can be complicated because mothers today have to find that balance between empowering their daughters to be independent but instilling "old-fashioned" values so that she understands that women will always be labeled easy or sluts if they exercise that independence excessively. I don't think that little Valentina will be traumatized if she reads that someday. I don't think she is saying she didn't want a girl. I think it's just thinking protectively about her childs future.
Talk about putting "that energy out there" LOOK WHAT YOU DO FOR A LIVING SHITASS!!!!!
I love ya Perez…but you are not and wil never be a mom, or a woman (although you'd make a sexy one) so you could have no way of knowing how to inteperet what she meant as a mom or as a woman. People need to stop taking what these people say out of context…she's a great woman and I'm sure will make a great mom so cut her some slack…she loves her baby and that is more than you can say for many parents out there…..
She didn't want to be mean while saying that…
And I must say I totally understand her fear to have a girl.
She's not the one who's fucked but our world IS, mainly coz' of men…
And a girl got less chances to suceed in life, less money for the SAME job, boos that attract PERVERTS… etc… etc…
1 girl out of 3 in USA, especially at university, will be raped before the end of school !!! And, in my country, it's 1 out of 5 (as we know, but it's more 1 out of 4) and more will be struck by their husband, friend, boyfriend…
A girl, especially little girls are the hunted of fucking twisted perverts!!!
… oh, and after 35, you're just "old and uninterested" to men AND, you got to shave your f*** legs and arms and all the stuff (u know what I mean?…) every two days and it sucks…. Haha!
Seriously, I understand that she would have prefered a boy.
It's not that she didn't want a girl (it's 50/50 anyway) but she was just so scared for HER, that's it!.
And as she says, she loves her child no matter the baby is a "SHE"!!!!
She just doesn't want the competition.
And I don't see the harm in saying that. My husband and I wanted a girl at first and now we are thanking our lucky stars we are having a boy. Girls are too whiny.
whatever perez…
Listen, parenting is a very hard thing to get adjusted to from conception till…
Us parents most the time have a lot of insecurities that at times come from our upbringings. Salma perhaps had a conflicting relatioship with HER mother and she was afraid of conceiving a daughter and re-living the same.
YOU DONT KNOW WHAT TO EXPECT OR HOW TO FEEL TILL YOU HAVE ONE!!!
I am sure her daughter will have a loving home, so to read the comment 15 yrs from now shouldn't affect good parenting.
Ok, she was talking about her experience as a woman and natural maternal fear as a mother. If you are a woman you can relate to the statement. She amends the statement to say that she is SO happy she had a girl.
What's wrong with that?.
She said it because it is very true!!! Unless you have children shut up.
I thought the same thing when they told me my child was going to be a girl… I had MANY issues with my mom… but they were wrong about the sex, I had a boy and I was relieved.
SHES NOT SPANISH SHES ARAB YOU BASTARDS!!!!!!!!!!!
WORD UP!!! Unless you have children SHUT UP!!!
I prayed to not have a girl and God listened to my prayers!
Being a parent i can translate for her. I am happy and grateful what ever the sex of my child is but i thought it was going to be a boy. From what i have heard and seen a daughter and mother relationship can be tough and i am just hopping i can do everything in my powers to make our relationship work for my daughters benifit. i love my daughter and could not have received a better gift from the angels above.
hey, she's just being honest! she obviously loves her daughter. and before we have children we have no idea what to expect, or how we are going to feel. so many mothers feel the need to say what they are supposed to say. good for her for saying how she felt.
what's wrong with what she said? I guess only a parent could understand. i wanted a girl so bad and cried and got depressed for about a month after the ultrasound when I found out I was having another boy. now that he's here though I love him too much and wouldn't change a thing. next time we conceive i'm hoping for another boy.
I agree with her…. I am prego right now with triplets and I hope there is only 1 girl in there!!!! Girls are trouble, and drama ridden….I should know I am one
who cares, its true I'm a girl and i can be a super emotional wreck at times but my mom is ALWAYS there for me no mater what. But she herself wanted a boy, had a name picked out an everything then it was lil old me and se was like WTF! life is not promised Perez, thats why your on PEOPLE in espanols 15 most inspiring people and you are super intelligent, love your blogs and personality but straight up you don't belong up there…. ya no.
That's actually a pretty common point of view for mom's to be. Girls tend to be more dramatic and moody. Boys are thought of as being less dramatic and easier to handle. I don't necessarily agree with that, but I have known many pregnant women who have said this. Not too uncommon…
Harsh much? Ouch. "Conflict between mothers and daughters?" Geesh, get a grip on reality, Selma. My three daughters and I are the closest of friends. Which, I might add, is the norm. And you're right Perez, let's hope her daughter doesn't read her comment when she's older. It's like Jolie's comment (who I love anyway) about Shiloh "is like a blob" - those type of flippant comments can be taken out of context and scar you for life. Silly, sad, but true. THINK BEFORE YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTHS, CELEBS!!! (Maybe her star meter is falling and she needed to perk it up with some controversy. Madonna's notorious for flippant comments that - purposely - leak to the press).
because it's true, stupid.
Re: KAT – Hmmm, let's hope w/ an attitude like yours, you have no girls… Just sayin'. Why would you go on fertility treatment? This world is so fucked up… YAY GAYS! GAY = POPULATION CONTROL.
It's not a big deal my mom said the same thing she is just sayin that she was scared to have a girl because she doesn't want her baby girl to suffer like how she has because girls have a harder time. My mom said that to me and I didn't freak.
i totally understand why she would say that….i said and thought the same thing BEFORE my first daughter was born. if felt that girls are faced with more challenges and obstacles, i thought that i would be a better mom to a brood of naught boys!
) turns out, the moment i found out i was having a girl i felt that i really needed to step up my game. i then realized that i was meant to have girls because i am a strong, independent, caring woman that would be an AWESOME mom to 2 little girls…..i think her comment came from her own insecurities about the pressures of raising a strong woman, not because she didn't WANT to have a daughter. i think you have to have had children to understand that comment.
I agree with what she said! I am the mom of a baby girl and I see nothing wrong with her comments. Quit LOOKING for ways to stir up drama. Between this and Madonna's hands, you are really reaching lately.
She obviously has problems with her own mother. Funny thing, she's probably just like her. Who would say that?
Empty soul.
Re: kelly –
Yeah boys are easier to raise because this is a man's world so parents let them do what they want while they are strict towards their daughters!!!
I think Salma but shouldn't tell too private informations in interview.Also Salma comes from a sexist country….
well…she is totally right. Imagine if britney spears had had two daughters instead of two sons. it would be even worse for them.
perez - i love you. really, i do. more than i've ever loved anyone i've never met - so please, c'mon and read what you wrote? silly boy!
totally agree perez. why would she put that energy out there? what a dope.
… your "Saint" Angelina's absurd comment about her daughter Shiloh. At least Selma didn't say she couldn't love her daughter as much as her other children. Therefore, because you're so fair and impartial, Perez, I'm sure you trashed Angie for that, right?
Freakin relax perez. Stupid thing for you to bitch about. My god, can't people say whats on their mind without being attacked. And only a jack off would worry about what the kid will think when she gets older.
when you are about to become a mother you have a lot of self doubt and are terrified that you won't be a good mother and I can see why she said this. I never would have understood before I was pregnant and about to give birth myself. So, you just have to trust someones opinion in a field you've never entered. We are all here to learn from each other… so lets do just that, instead of judging someones opinion about their own experience. Also, if the little girl reads this as she gets older, I'm sure she will have a trusting mother to talk to about it. Her mother will be just as honest as she was when she said what she said here. That is something to look up to, and her daughter will respect and love her for it.
When is there conflicts between mother and daughters???? I have two daughters and have wonderful relationships with them. What a stupid thing for her to say.
I think every woman who gave their mom emotional hell and then grew up to have her own children has had these feelings at some point or another. It's natural. I was terrified of having girls because of how terrible I was to my mother in my teens.
i really dont like salma
my dad is from the same state where she is from & she lived just 20 mins away & i actually
know alot of ppl who went to school with her & she has changed alot
since then & even when she started in mexico she used to be more hmmm
"humble" but now ufff she doesnt even go back where really she is from.
Salma has always been a champion for women's rights especially when women are the victims of cruelty and violence solely based on their sex. Keeping that commitment in mind, I think that it is reasonable for her to consider what her future child might have to work against in the future to be sucessful. For many people in many places all over the world, it is easier to be male. She was thinking about what would provide the best possible life for her unborn child in any given situation. I think that should her daughter read the comments in the future she should be proud to have such a mother: one who is passionate about a cause and applies the prinicples of that cause to her own life.
Um…no offense P.Baby but that is a very common thought of many women. You can't knock her down for saying something that really isn't all that bad. In fact, it will help new mothers to hear that what they are feeling isn't abnormal!
Unfortunately as a man you can't understand the rush of emotions that you feel not only when you are pregnant but after the baby is home with you. You are all of a sudden responsible for another life! I'll get off the soapbox now but trust me when I tell you, her daughter isn't going to be offended in any way!
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yeah and when her daughter reads it she'll start smoking crack
Stop with this "putting bad energy out there" bull. YOU put "bad energy" out there on an hourly basis.
U are stupid PEREZ, it is pretty much common knowledge to EVERYONE that girls are more difficult, she didn't say anything shocking u moron!! Wake the fuck up and come back to reality.
Parents say all the time that boys are easier to raise than girls. You are just a god damned idiot, and don't know shit.
I totally understand why she said that. Is it true that women (latin) women suffer more then men.
Actually it#s a lot healthier for both, the baby and the mother, that she knows how she feels and that she can actually handle her feelings like this. Most mothers would not even allow themselves to think along thses lines and there will always be more tension…and possibly horrible accidents might happen, which are caused by the suppressed anger/fear/tension of the mother. So she's being really brave and healthy to actually say that.
All she did was voice concerns about being the mother of a female child. I felt the same way about having a daughter and, just like her, my attitude changed the minute I saw her. It's perfectly natural for a parent to worry about their child, regardless of gender, and being a female, and knowing what they might go through is a scary thought. At least she's honest about how she feels!