Why Would She Say This???
Filed under: Salma Hayek
In the new issue of Glamour, Salma Hayek, mom of the adorable new tot Valentina confesses that she wanted a boy.
Salami explains that she was 'afraid'.
"I think women suffer more a bit more than boys, and there is always conflict between mother and daughters…But now that she's here, I'm so happy she's a girl," says Hayek.
She goes on to say that she 'can't imagine' having any conflicts with her baby girl because she's in a 'state of innocence' and loves everything her little one does.
Why would you put that energy out there???
Little V might read that when she's all grown up!
[Image via WENN.]
Posted: March 5, 2008 at 2:20 pm
You can really you dont have any kids Perez. This thinking is VERY NORMAL during pregnancy. A friend of mine had two sons and never wanted a girl. Afraid for her and the world, and thinking back to how she was scared the shit outta her. Well her third was a girl and she couldn't put the kid down! She is the most spoiled princess you will meet!
I think her honesty is refreshing and just makes her look more human.
Parenthood is not all rainbows and ice cream cones, sometimes it's sleeplessness, giving up what you want for yourself, and putting someone else first. Unless you've been there, you can't begin to understand the weight of that.
I have a boy and a girl - and I can see her point.
Her fears are reasonable - she's just learning.
Why is it the biggest/best experts on parenting are those who aren't parents?
There's nothing wrong with what she said. Moms get alonger better with sons, and dads get along better with daughters. That's just how it is.
She didn't say "UGH I'M SO PISSED I HAD A GIRL. I WANTED A BOY". She said she was afraid of any bad relationship she might have if she had a daughter, but now she's over it.
WHO CARES??
She said that because it's true. I have an 18 year old daughter so I know. Perez you have a puppy, you know shit. And don't talk about putting out "negative energy", you put out more dirty energy every day than Castro. Imagine what you have coming to you!
I don't see what's wrong with this.
Perez, you're not a woman. LOADS of mothers feel this way, but they love their daughters after they are born, and so much so that when they eventually-and most do-enter into conflict, they know it's worth it in the end.
She didn't say she hates her…she said she's HAPPY with her daughter and LOVES her. She didn't say she wants a son now that here daughter is here and it's a reality.
Really, Perez, why the drama? And you blame In Touch for being media whores!
Eh, SO not a big deal. When I was pregnant, I desperately wanted a boy. From the beginning I just knew she was a girl. I was right, and you know what? My desire for a boy was crazy! Nearly eight years later, I'm still stoked that she's a girl! I'm thrilled to be her mother, and that's exactly how Salma was saying she feels. Absolutely nothing wrong with that!
If you've never had a baby girl who's grown to a 13 year old teenager or been the 13 year old daughter of a 40ish mother, I don't think you will understand what she's saying I've been on both sides and understand what she saying complete. But I love my daughter and wouldn't change a thing.
And the problem is??? She just said what she wanted. She's happy with what she got. I don't see the issue.
So she wanted a boy and not a girl while pregnant. BIG DEAL !Alot (most) women lean towards one sex vs the other. Its about how you feel you will relate to the child,especially with your first one. Get a grip it doesn't mean she loves her daughter less , it just means while pregnant she thought a boy would be easier to relate to..
i've heard that too yeah it sounds bad but i dont think she meant harm shes just being honest!
you read wayyyy to much into things just to get a story
Holy crap it's not that big of a deal. New moms don't know what to expect and they worry about weird things.
She obviously wouldn't trade her in… effin' chill.
It's because the daughter will grow and just get hotter and hotter while mom ages. Salma doesn't like competition and knows that the best competitor for male attention she could have in her life is the one she's just made!!
I love my mom to death. But "mother and daughter issues" is a real thing and it's tough.
I agree…women are destined to suffer. It's better to have boys, at least they won't suffer as much…
Um, because it's true? I had mad throwdowns with my Mom, but rarely with my Dad, and the world is a lot scarier for women than it is for men.
Yeah when I read those comments I got really depressed. I suppose that women ARE more physically susceptible to danger, but why have this danger-avoidant fear mentality? There's so much a girl can be and do. Maybe Salma feels like her own possibilities are limited, that being a sex object is the only way she got ahead. My daughter's gonna be an astronaut, bitches!!! (or whatever else she goddamn pleases)
It is because it is true! Especially when Mama is used to getting tons of attention.
what's wrong with saying that?
Don't be a F-ing DICK Perez because Salmia wanted her baby to have a DICK. Shes being honest. "Latinos", "Asians" & even "Whites" want the 1st born a BOY, with a DICK you DICK. It is cultural. I just my kid to be healthy, boy or girl. However each sex has pros & cons. Boys carry the family name. Girls love their daddy, but tend to be more work. Girls & moms can "Cat fight". Girls know how to push Mom's button, because they're female.
geeze don't crucify the woman - I wanted a boy first too (big brother LOL), and had a girl, and I would die for her without question (for both my kids) I have a really good relationship with my son and daughter…but with your first kid, you have NO idea what to expect - and I had conflict with my mother when I was a teen (which I don't have with my daughter) but you base your fears on your life experiences…cut the woman some slack. She went on to say she's madly in love with her little girl - what more do you want?
PEREZ..you can be such a goddamn idiot..thats why u would never undertsand the statement salma made..it complety made sence to ME..because IM NOT AN IDIOT. FUCKING MORON, women DO suffer more than men, yes we also have it easy in some ways BUT..NVRMND ud never understand…
i don't think it's that odd really…when i was pregnant with my first son, i really wanted a girl and i actually cried when i found out i was having a boy…partly due to hormones, i'm sure, but i had really wanted a girl. and then he was born and from the very first second, i was totally in love with him and i can't imagine not having him and am truly grateful that i get to be his mother. and now i'm due with our second son the day after tomorrow and am completely excited for another baby boy. at this point, i love that i have boys and can't even imagine trying to raise daughters. i think it's really normal to feel disappointed if your baby isn't the gender you were hoping for, but once that baby is born, that's all over and you're completely in love with your new baby.
don't all girls hate their moms?! yeah! she's just being honest
SO FUCKING WHAT! Plenty of people wanted soemthign other than what they got!! If my mother wanted a boy I wouldn't give a damn!! Alot of nerve coming from someone who calls someone they don't know children mentally delayed and Tater Tot and Small Fry! I bet your mother wanted A BOY!! But got one who thinks he's a girl! I can't stand people who DON'T HAVE THEIR OWN CHILDREN but comment on other peoples children especially on things they think are right or wrong!
ISN'T IT TRUE THAT GIRLS SUFFER MORE THAN BOYS? I HAVE TO AGREE…BUT WHY DOES THAT BOTHER SALMA? I MEAN HER DAUGHTER IS GOING TO HAVE THE BEST OF THE BEST… IT'S NOT LIKE HER DAUGHTER IS GONNA SUFFER, I DON'T GET IT, WHY WOULD HER DAUGHTER SUFFER, FROM WHAT?? HAVING RICH ASS PARENTS TO BUY HER WHATEVER SHE WANTS?? I THINK FAMOUS PEOPLE HAVE NO IDEA WHAT REALITY IS… HONEY… TRUST ME, THERE'S WOMEN OUT THERE WHOSE GIRLS ARE REALLY SUFFERING… AND SHE NEEDS TO SHUT UP!!
She said it because it's TRUE. PARTICULARLY WITH LATINA MAMAS. (Speaking from experience.)
i have 3 girls and wanted my middle one to be a boy SOOO bad i could have tasted it. i even cried for a week (at least) when i found out i was having a girl. now i feel so blessed that i have all girls. my middle is my rough and tumble tomboy, but does it all in princess dresses and she amazes me even when she is pissing me off. as for the conflicts; yes, they happen….with all kids and parents, but i believe especially with moms and daughters. my oldest is almost 11 and every day she starts the day off with a little attitude with a big side of mouthy; but she is testing the waters and to see who will be alpha female. salma will continue to cherish each moment, no matter what it brings, because even with the bad comes the reality that they are only little once.
it's called projection, transference… take it to a psychotherapist and work it out, not in an interview in the media…
the she would be reading the truth Perez, she's not insulting her daughter at all, just telling what most woman would be afraid to say. You were supporting free speech 3 postings ago - what gives? slow day?
duh perez, cuz it's true! Just because all people don't have the twistedly happy relationships that gay men have with their mothers doesn't mean there is anything wrong with that! I know many girls that gave there mothers hell growing through their teen years! Duh read a psychology book!
if you read all her comments, this was taken very much out of context. Nice journalism work Perez.
Here is her real comment.
"I wanted a boy."
How come? "Probably because I was afraid," she tells the magazine. "I think women suffer a bit more than boys, and there is always conflict between mothers and daughters."
whats the problem with that??? she said something honest… not even really a preference, but a fear of bringing a child, especially a female into the messed up world we live in
HER MASSIVE HUGE TITTIES ARE FUCKING WITH HER MIND!!!!!!!
Well she is speaking the truth…raised a daughter…did everything I could for her as a single mom. She is ran off with her dad…the one that refused to do anything or even pay child support and he could afford it! The knife wound still has not healed in my heart and I wish I had had a boy. Daughter's can be so ungrateful!!!!
i don't think this is an uncommon fear when you have a girl.
I don't think that it was a "bad energy" statement. I understand where she is coming from being a daughter and a mother myself. It is common for mothers and daughters to fight alot more than a son and daughter because they have a closer bond to eachother. There comes a point in the lives of a mother and daughter where they simply cannot get along (teenage years) because of mis understandings and raging hormones. It is difficult at times. Also, the world is always going to be a dangerous place for everyone, but the risks of danger are alot higher for women because they are more vulnerable. Perez, you are not a mother nor a daughter so you have no right to pass judgement because you have not experienced these things. AND you are not one of those gays that qualifies for "Queen" status so shut the fuck up you fat piece of shit
Hold up…. don't talk shit about someone when they're being genuinue and honest. Would you rather she come up with the same old boring bullshit that most parents come up with? Something like, "Whatever God sends us is fine as long as they're healthy." That is so tired and it's a lie. Everyone has a preference and Salma just elaborated on her FEARS and how off her fears were. Of course daughters have conflicts with their daughters. They have it with her sons. Salma's feelings are genuine so back off people.
my god perez, your lack of knowledge in regards to anything human reaches new lows. it's as though you've never met another human, never had a friend, or been in a relationship. i know 5 yr olds who are more clued in to human dynamics & psychology than you are, lol. shit man, don't they teach you this stuff in high school in the states, didn't you graduate from high school? this is so human development 101, it can't get more basic, and you just draw a complete blank, it's sad.
Re: JACLYN –
Lol you sound like a guy pretending too be a girl.
I think its fine. She is saying what a lot of moms are thinking. Girls do suffer A LOT!! I think as women we think it would be easier to be a guy.. But I think either way.. PUBERTY SUCKS!!
You can't call her for expressing a perfectly legitimate pre-pregnancy opinion. I think she's right - in a lot of ways, this is a tough world to bring up girls. And she explained away her previous view by expressing a huge amount of love and acceptance for her little girl! It's not like she'd ever say to her "I wish you were a boy". Now she's here, she loves her for who she is. I think a lot of women would feel the same as her.
Oh PUH-LEEZ. I am sure your mother said some comments with such "energy" and look how you turned out! OHHHHH! WAIT!!! My bad..Look how you DID turn OUT! Gay dude, pink hair, purple hair, fat, and no man in your life….Gee..maybe you are right!
what a dumbo.
i love you Perez because you love women.
for pete's sake she's just expressing that she USED to have a gender preference BEFORE the baby was born. i'm not a mom and i know most of them go through that. maybe she's had issues with her own mmother in the past that influenced her thinking? if so, you can' blame her. like she said, she's totally happy with her baby being a girl. stop being so dramatic!
I understand, I felt the same when my daughter was born. Due to difficult relationship with my mom!
i dont see anything wrong with wat she said i actually agree i would Never want to have a girl they grow up to be whores anyways well most of them
right because that's so much worse than calling your daughter an outsider, a blob that you have to remind yourself to feed it at times because it hasn't "gone through anything" like your beloved adopted collection… of course that's different cause angelina is such a bloody saint. you just made me laugh my arse off
SOME PEOPLE PREFER A CERTAIN GENDER. I ALWAYS THOUGHT I SHOULD HAVE A BOY AND WAS BLESSED WITH 2 GIRLS. I DON'T MISS HAVING A BOY AT ALL. I CAN STILL HAVE KIDS IF I WANT TO BUT I FEEL 2 IS ENOUGH, THANK YOU VERY MUCH. LOL
What kind of conflicts is she expecting? Her daughter being much prettier than her? That one day men will find her daughter more attractive than her?!
Hollywood's buggered up and this poor girl is going to be brought up in that environment - I feel sorry for her!
I think all women who have a baby girl have similar thoughts about potential conflicts as they reach their teenage years. I was tough on my mom and thought about that great equalizer - karma. I have two boys, and glad for it.
What is wrong with what she said? It's true. Girls are much harder to raise, especially these days.
Her comment is common among pregnant women. All sorts of worries and depressing thoughts occur to some women that makes them sound like bad women. Look at Brooke Shields she suffered from post pardom (sp?) depression, but she still loves her children and has their best interest in mind. All parents have reasons for wanting a child of one sex or another that is only natural.
Let's be Honest Women still have it harder! I think that was her whole point.. Look how so many people are persuaded by Obama.. rather than Vote for a women.. Sorry but Woman racisim is here! People are less likely to vote for a women than an african american man.. cuase hes A MAN!!!!!!!!!!!! Men still get paid more than women……… take it how you will peeps!
Seems they can't win. She is just being honest and real. It is the truth for her. Little Valentina will read it and hang on to it along with anything else she chooses to use as an excuse for whatever she does. Too many secrets make one sick.
Re: Betty Ugly – — that's funny: I have this Venezuelan friend who, when she was pregnant, did not want a girl because she felt that a baby girl would be some kind of "threat" to her relationship with her husband, and that it would be easier to have a son because it would cause less conflict and jealousy. I thought that was a really weird way of thinking, but another friend told me that this is usual in Latin countries — women prefer having sons…. True ??
I wanted a boy too…but when my daughter came into the world I was so happy…and now I want another girl. Its not that big deal, it happens ALOT.
I'm SURE she didn't meant that in a bad way. For all of us who have both girls and boys, would COMPLETELY understand. I have one girl and two boys. I know EXACTLY what she means. Sorry to say ladies, but WE ARE DRAMA. We have so much BS to deal with our ENTIRE lives that men would NEVER understand.
PEREZ
SHOULD
LISTEN
TO
HIMSELF.
LOOK AT ALL THE SHIT
HE SAYS ABOUT
INNOCENT LITTLE KIDS
AND BABIES.
HEY DUMB DUMB…
YOU THINK MAYBE THEY
MIGHT READ YOUR INSULTS (BEFORE THEY LEARN TO TALK)
ABOUT THEM
AND THEIR PARENTS
SOME DAY?
WHAT IF THEY WRITE A BOOK ABOUT YOU,
OR MAKE A MOVIE
OUT OF YOUR
TRULY
INSPIRING
LIFE
AND EVERYTHING YOU EVER SAID WILL BE REMEMBERED?
YEAH, NEVERMIND.
I GUESS THAT WON'T HAPPEN…
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It takes a honest mother to admit these feelings. As long as she shows her daughter much love it doesn't matter. Now if she made those comments and neglected her daughter then you can worry.
I don't see antyhing wrong with that… I also was pregnet last year and i wanted a boy not a girl, but i had a girl … I love her anayways,,, The reason i want a boy not a girl is that girl suffer more then boys…
I was really disappointed when I heard she said this and I lost some respect for her for having such an unhealthy point of view. Shame because I was really a huge fan of hers, but now not so much. She was one of the last people I would ever think would hold such beliefs.
Male baby = male heir = to take over dad's business.
i think she was talking about the pregnancy…its usually tougher with a girl…women are strong creatures and its like two women fighting for the same bdy thats why there is conflict…she said now that shes here shes happy…so thats prob it…LOVE U PEREZ!
she is crazyyyyy she doesnt like is a girl girls are the best and if you know how to raise them they can be awesome!!!! things for the workd i bet she wont teach her anything about her mexican roots
SHUT THE FUCK UP SHES HOT !! SHES HOT AND YOU GUYS ARE NOT SO ……
I admire her candor and i agree with her, i would prefer sons to daughters for that very reason. Girls argue a lot with their mums and both know exactly how to get at each other, it's definitely easier to raise a boy from a woman's POV. They're more straight forward, And i wouldn't be offended if i heard my mum say that, it's true.