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"Girls Love Gay Male Porn"
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I just got back from a weekend at the University of California at Santa Barbara, where I attended "Console-ing Passions: An International Conference on Television, Audio, Video, New Media, and Feminism. It was three days of geeking out with academics about TV, the Internet, and various kinds of media studies—who knew that people are getting their Ph.D.'s in Battlestar Galactica and The Hills these days? Naturally, the first panel I went to was all about porn, with four scholars presenting papers on lesbian identity politics and pornography, the 1980s cult hit Café Flesh and its '90s sequel, the industry in Vietnam, and bad-boy director/current Justice Department target Max Hardcore, that last topic featuring the best title ever: "Scrunchies, Braces, and Throat Fucking: Performances of Girlhood in Gonzo Porn."
A bunch of women stuck around afterwards to continue the discussion that the panel had, um, stimulated, and we began talking about the kind of porn we all watched. Someone brought up the work of Shine Louise Houston's Pink and White Productions (pinkwhite.biz), a San Francisco–based company that describes its mission as creating "adult entertainment that exposes the complexities of queer sexual desire . . . dedicated to producing sexy and exciting images that reflect today's blurred gender lines and fluid sexualities." She thought it was amazing; I chimed in and said, "Yes, it's diverse, radical, and I totally applaud Houston's vision."
Another person chimed in: "Do you like fag porn? All my queer female friends do." Hers wasn't a surprising question. I know lesbians who dig it more than any other kind of hardcore fare. I briefly dated a genderqueer dyke who just loved gay male porn: She ran out and got the newest title from her favorite company the day it came out. In this case, she adored movies from Bel Ami (belamionline.com), which feature young, hairless European lads (think the boy-on-boy version of the straight barely-legal genre). The boys are very pretty and androgynous, and some of them could definitely be mistaken for dykes with their clothes on. But other girl-loving girls love über-butch men, leather daddies, and big hairy bears, so it's not always about androgyny. By now, I think it's commonplace to accept that queer women love queer male porn, but what is that all about?
First, let's acknowledge a practical reality: There isn't a whole lot of lesbian porn produced by and for lesbians, or that feels authentic to lesbian viewers. Some dykes can get their fix of queerness—both the lust and the cultural aesthetics—via gay porn, even though it features people of a different gender than those they fuck in real life. Queer is often attracted to queer first and foremost, like when the guy I lusted after in high school turned out to be gay—it makes sense in some way.
And speaking of gender, plenty of lesbians identify with various forms of masculinity: Their own gender expression may be at the masculine end of the spectrum, or they may like to fantasize and play with gender and sex. Gay porn gives them a range of masculine desires to relate to or lust after. For those dykes who themselves identify as fag—or who like butch/butch, boi/boi, or transman/transman sex—they can see a hyper-masculine version of their own sex lives and/or fantasies performed on the small screen.
The phenomenon of straight women who love gay male porn has been documented and was discussed plenty when flocks of females gushed over Brokeback Mountain. When women came out of their fag-loving closet, it illustrated the flip side of a common theory: Plenty of straight men love girl/girl porn because they want to see lots of who they lust after. The same is true for het women: They like to look at hot naked men fucking, and it doesn't really matter that they're fucking each other. I think it may also be true that while pornos full of romance and mood lighting are marketed to women, some prefer a sweaty, get-right-down-to-it romp in the locker room any day. Wired.com columnist Regina Lynn, author of Sexier Sex: Lessons from the Brave New Sexual Frontier, writes that it's not always about identifying with someone in a scene: "For me, gay porn has always been arousing because of its masculinity. The strength and power, plus the double dose of raw male drive and sexuality, add up to more than the sum of their parts."
On Nerve.com, journalist Kera Bolonik admits that she gets off with men onscreen, but not in real life: "Nothing makes me hotter than watching two men going at it. There is something really admirable about gay male porn, at least in principle: it's egalitarian. Everyone gets a turn at the top as well as at the bottom. Everyone comes, and often they do it together." I'm not sure this concept of equality is attractive to everyone (I personally like a hefty dose of power dynamics with my sex), but it supports the notion of seeing some kind of sameness, something non-heterosexual represented. And it also raises the issue that many women, regardless of their orientation, have with porn: their ambivalence or discomfort with seeing female performers when issues of consent, enjoyment, and pleasure are unclear. Somehow, our concerns and feminist politics don't overshadow the sex when women are absent (as if a man could not degrade or coerce another man, which is obviously flawed logic).
I like gay porn for the hot dudes, the overflow of testosterone, and the unapologetic sexual desire. I also like straight porn. But that's a subject for another column.
fuck u perez, that was such a disapointment i thought for a sec u had a porn tape with henry cavill! didnt think it was gonna take u a long time to discover him though.. he's FIT
I thought I was the only one. Now I dont feel so ashamed. And I'm a straight married woman.
wtf does that have to do with Henry C, gay-ape? G
as a straight female i love the boy on boy action, and i know there are a lot of other girls that feel the same way. please give me more bruce labruce!
if you ever watched queer as folk, you'd have probably noticed that all of the commercials in this time slot were for tampons and beauty products (targeted at women). it's clear that the marketers involved knew that the majority of the audience was female.
i miss that show.
I love it!
Gay porn is definitley more of a turn on for me than straight porn. I like seeing men get dominated rather than dominating a woman. And the raw sexuality of is down right hot. But I don't think I would be into it if I saw it in person.
How come this article is filled with "fag", dyke", "queer", etc. and is perfectly fine with Perez, but Isiah Washington is the devil?
oh! and look at hawksley workman: he sings about loving boys and if you go to his shows it's all lecherous girls pretty much fantasizing about him while he sings.
actually, i'm surprised hawksley and bruce labruce have never made it into this blog. great canadian artists; rep the cancon (canadian-content to americans).
Perez, please start quoting the sources of your articles! You have people thinking your wrote this and other news stories your often post (especially when the original author is writing in first person).
Duh. I've been loving and discussing gay porn for 30 years or so.
This is actually kind of right…. well uhmm It's really right!
DUH.
Not true. I think its disgusting. Then again I think all porn is disgusting.
Lmao holy shit, so fucking true
its kind of true… don't know how i feel about gay PORN because i've never seen any but two hot guys making out?
hot. i can't help it.
who the fuck wrote this?? i presented at this conference… on t.a.t.u…. and everyone kept asking me if they were "pornographic…" i don't see the point in this article though.
Since we men love to watch lipstick lesbian sex, why shouldn't women like to watch gay porn?
I love gay porn! I was just watching some last night!
Re: NO! – youre an idiot. even straight guys like it in the ass. try it some time, your man will love it
I'm a hetero female and gay male porn turns me on, as well as lesbian porn.
Perez, as much as i love you….why did you choose a picture of Henry Cavill for this kind of article?he has a girlfriend, he is not gay and he is so hot!!i understand the whole gay thing, but you could have chosen another guy
Given the huge amount of slash fiction that is and has been on the internet for over a decade the concept of women straight and gay liking gay male porn is not all that new. Well except to the vanillas
I love gay male porn, too! LOL!
dear perez,
you really ought to put the REAL AUTHOR's name instead of just a link to the article. some of these stupid people actually think you wrote that.
this is awesome. I seriously thought I was the only woman in the world who loved gay porn. anytime I mentioned it to my guy friends they thought there was something wrong with me. this offers validation.
I am a straight female, and gay male porn is the only kind of porn I dig.
hot hot hot
What does Henry Cavill have to do with this article? He is NOT gay and putting his picture with this article was a shitty move!
You got me! Straight gal who loves Dante's Cove!!! My favorite soap opera. Plus, the guy who plays Toby is too die for fine!! My straight girlfreinds and I love to have Dante's parties, where we watch the DVDs. Plus, got a serious "girl-crush" on the lesbian character, Vann.
I really dig gay porn. For the first time I recognized that guys can be pretty good looking and that in porn (mostly the focus is, of course, of a woman-parts). So it's quite nice to see two Hotties together… I could recommend the Films: Get Real, 2.37 (nice kiss) and Grande Ecole - no porn but nice films
. I really like the story of one boy who has made it out of the closet and loves a guy who everybody thinks he's straight and then they are having an affair….Uhmmm… Hawt!!!
ANYTHING that has to do with SEX turns me on. TALKING about it, READING about it…SAME SEX, DIFFERENT SEX, wait, but NO BEASTIALITY please!!!
I could watch straight porn if the focus wasn't on the ho. I don't want to look at her fake breasts and chewed-up girly bits. I don't want her cheesy eye contact, and I especially don't want my masturbation session interrupted by her fake-ass bimbo screeching and yelping. Nothing sounds better to me than genuine male sounds of ecstasy and to have it drowned out by some crack-whore chimpanzee screaming is frustrating. That's why straight women like gay male porn. If they made straight porn where the focus was on the male, more of us would watch straight porn.
Re: Krystle – I thought I was the only one!
I'm a straight woman and I love male jack off videos. I don't like to watch anything anal (hetero or gay)
The vast majority of m/m romantic fiction is bought and read by women. There are several excellent publishers of gay romance fiction. Check out ManLove Romance Press and Aspen Mountain Press.
perez, i've officially stopped reading your site. half your posts are about gay men or gay sex and the other half are pawning 2 bit charities to help make yourself feel better. your site was once great, but has become a self-centered sell-out-fest. you've officially jumped the shark
Re: booboo –
Yes—what booboo said. I agree 100%. Can't stand the fake orgasms and all the moaning and yelping that the silicone women in straight porn do. It's embarassing to watch—sort of the same way pro-wrestling is such a joke. I can't believe straight guys buy into all that—-don't they know it's all an act?
Straight women love gay porn because the focus is all on the hot guys who are genuinely aroused (can't fake that), where as in straight porn the primary focus is on the "blow up doll" that we really are not interested in.
Oh dear god, he's not gay,
he better not be..
he's smoldering,
and please, gay porn is absolutely the most boring thing I've ever watched..
Henry Cavill Henry Cavill Henry Cavill!!! PEREZ SHOULD WRITE ABOUT HIM…SOON!!!
Interesting read.
However, Im not sure why Henry Cavill, who, really, isnt Gay at all, is attached to this. Hes European, Perez, not Gay, I would think you, of all people, could have realized that.
Might want to change up the picture.
I could have told you that.
Muy, muy cierto. Gay porn is the hottest.
who cares. . .I want to know who the guy in the pic is, he's hot.
first?! Where are the pics?!
pretty sad when we are so desensitized it takes porn to help get you off. porn= marital aid.
You know, every fucking person on earth likes something different sexually, so you people who come here and say this or that is disgusting can just go fuck off in hell, cause it's totally inappropriate. You know what is disgusting - haters reproducing.
Re: NO! – And does that NOT make a man a man if he has sex with another man? And just where does AIDS come into it? If your not infected, you won't get infected. Just because sex is MTM does not make you HIV and not all gay men are positive. In fact, Globally, an estimated 33.2 million people lived with HIV in 2007, including 2.5 million children. An estimated 2.5 million (range 1.8–4.1 million) people were newly infected in 2007, including 420,000 children. My final point to you is you must have had your brains fucked out to make such stupid and false statements.
It's not even about the porn to me - I come from the slash corner of the internet, which I didn't discover until I was nineteen, although it turned out I'd been writing it since I was twelve.
I think there's something just really special about the supposed 'stronger sex' who are traditionally so unwilling to explore their sexual identities, overcoming that to be with someone they love. With women it's much easier - as a bisexual woman who has mostly dated previously-straight girls I can assure you that this is often the case - but for men there is such a huge stigma surrounding it that seeing them choose the harder parth is just more heartwarming and inspiring, I guess.
This is of course only the sappy side of the coin, but personally I'd rather read a good, angsty PG-13 rated fanfic than watch a porn film, any day.
I like gay male porn a lot (thanks internets), something about seeing guys that are actually turned on, imaginative, and enjoying themselves without inhibition.
Plus, the women are not believable or relatable in other porn (male-female or female-female).
Gay-male porn has done more to promote rimming than any other source. And let me say, when I hire trade, their saying yes to tossing my salad is a top hiring criteria.
i suppose henry is perez's wishful thinking?
This is a fact that slash fangirls have known for a very, very fucking long time.
As a straight female the only porn I watch is gay porn.
Of Course !
Everyone knows straight girls love gay porn… Why do you think fanfictions (95% of female writers) always center on two males? With graphic depictions? And I'm not even going to talk about yaoi stuff…
It's about time people start to get that in their heads… Of course girls jerk off - even when they don't want to admit it - and of course they love porn esepecially gay porn…
Re: ash – may be dudes are not attractive for u to look at because u are a FUCKING LESBO ??!!!
i agree! im a straight female and i love my man on man action, whether they're gay or straight! mmmmm(L)
Old news, dude. It's been like that for a loooong time. Since the Spock and Kirk days.
D'uh! Women created slash, like, more than 40 years ago? Women liking gay porn is nothing new, but straight women admitting they LOVE gay porn is new! I'm straight, I'm woman and I LOVE gay porn! Because, you know, gay porn means hot men making hot sex!
I LOVE WATCHING BAREBACK ANAL SEX ..GAY OR STRAIGHT !!!!!
Re: booboo –
"If they made straight porn where the focus was on the male, more of us would watch straight porn. "
BINGO!
i am a straight girl (although i have def fukt more than my fair share of hot straight girls as well) and i love gay porn. But more specifically, I only like the ones in which the guys look/act str8 and are abercrombie types physically. It's really hard to find though. There's tons of"gay for pay" out there but if both the guys aren't convincing as straight it dosen't turn me on. of course if i tell any straight guys this they are apalled but my gay friend totally gets it!! In fact he likes the same thing!! weird, huh?
I LOVE gay porn, its the only porn that turns me on.
Lesbian porn, so fucking fake
Straight porn, not that great and its mostly ass sex which I hate watching on straight couples, its like I see that on gay porn why straight?? also the women loud moaning is annoying, eww
WHAT????????
WHO IS HE, TO KNOW WHAT GIRLS LIKE?
THE MOST DISGUSTING THING IN THE WORLD IS GAY PORN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
GET A CLUE, WHO EVER THIS STUPID GUY IS. NEVER HEARD OF HIM BEFORE…
Are you outing Henry Cavill?
Henry Cavill was on with Graham Norton and chatting away….and Norton asked if he preferred men or women and Cavill laughed and said he wasn't going to say if men were better in the sack than women. Sounds like he has tried both….very well rounded man. Probably a Freudian slip? Hell any man or woman who gets to fuck Cavill is very lucky indeed. He is gorgeous and sexy as hell.
i get turned on when i see gayporn.. i thought i was perverted. thank god for that!
wow. my life in an article.
Mario-really intelligent discourse-I wasn't expecting to find it from you. Thanks.
I think 2 guys kissing, touching is hot. but having anus sex no thanks that's too gross……..
Re: a fan –
Girl you are preaching to the choir…
There was nothing hotter than that first kiss between Brian and Justin.
Two hot guys just being absolutely down and dirty sexual on screen. Mmmm
Wow, glad its not just me!
i am proud to say that i am one of these girls ;D!
Henry Cavill is very fond of the boys and I think most in the industry here know that he prefers that team. Nonetheless, he hopes to develop his career much more broadly in the good old USA and he will not, as you say, come out any time soon. The pressures are enormous to hide his homosexuality. Agents, studios and all will see to it that this hunk has a babe by his side when in public and his private life will be closely monitored…..same way as it has been forever in Hollywood for leading men who are gay; $$$$rules and the studios don't think the public will accept openly gay leading men. Only Henry can put a stop to it and the pressures are great to see that he doesn't if he wants to be a leading man in the movies. Same sad old story.
Re: OOOOOH! Henry –
Henry has never been on The Graham Norton Show.
Well, I'm a woman and I have to say sorry people but gay male porn is fucking gross. I can't stand to see men naked and even worse for men to "love" other men. Women are different. Women are sexy. Men are gross.
I love me some gay man porn!! I look at it all the time!! I tell my guy friends about it and they think I'm crazy!!
LOL! yup, i'm a straight girl and love gay porn!!!!
SO FUCKING TRUE!!!! I'm bisexual and find both men and women equally attractive and love fucking both.
I, for some reason, love gay male porn! I like the real masculine ones….two testosterone filled hunky guys going at it is SO HOT!! I often get off on it too! It's really the only porn I can watch…women in porn are so annoying with their fake ass moaning…irritating!…and most women in porn are fucking gross anyway. BUT they have some hot hot guys!!!
i'm a straight girl, but i'll take anything but straight porn
Well articulated discussion…. yeah! it's about time people are talking about these things….
bring on the dancing men!~
Awesome…glad to know I'm not the only straight gal who digs this! Thought I was kind of a weirdo.
Love it when you essay write, may not always agree but your thoughts are well expressed and allow the reader to make their own opion based on the information you gave as well as giving your opinion without it hindering the readers interpretation. BTW UCSB Hola! Come to SB more often!
Megusta Henry Cavill. He is the best looking man out there. I hope he is going to make it one day.
Re: Sarah – So true! All guys love the arse, even if you have to start with a tickle and tease first cos they are scared to be labelled 'gay' just because they can get turned on by it. I am a straight girl who loves to play with my man's (and my own) arse. My fantasy is to fuck him with a strap-on. I must have a power issue or something, but hey I am happy with this sort of therapy! Bring on gay porn
#173 - Dont' think Cavill is coming out
probably true. still he lost out to brandon routh for the lead in "superman" and to daniel craig for the last james bond flick. that leading man thing isn't working out too well. maybe he should just come out and be the cutest gay actor in hollywood. or it 10 or 12 years he would be perfect for bond. lol
Well, the picture of Henry Cavill certainly caught my eye…don't know WHAT he has to do with the story though, maybe perez' wishful thinking one more time.
This straight gal loves gay male porn! (Lesbian porn makes me want to snooze, but to everyone who enjoys it - go for it! By all means!) Gay male porn features men with hot bodies, men who are typically a lot more vocal about their pleasure than in straight porn, and…well, there's lots of cock, for the cock-loving crowd! Yay!
WE DO!
There's something to be said for all this. After seeing Brokeback, my partner (female) and I have found that we like m/m porn with two hot masculine dudes. We still love men and find them compeletely attractive–we look at men rather than women–b'c we fell in love with a person, not a gender. If we ever broke up, I can see us both going back to men. (We were both married as well.) I think this speaks volumes about where we are headed, sexually, as a society–more openmindedness, if you will. At least that's what I hope.
You owe me money
for the wasted time
I spent reading
this stupid entry, Perez.
Find better bleedin' filler!
OMG I never knew Henry Cavill was actually important enough to be on perezhilton.com I am HUGE fan of his. He should be getting more movies and recognition than other stars. He freakin' kicks ass! Except that whole comment he made was a little weird-and i never did hear about if he had or has a girlfriend……HERE'S UR CHANCE PEREZ! I'd grab him if i was a gay famous guy.
And whoever said women invented slach fiction, you're right! I've been writing m/m slash for about two years now, and I love it. I've gotten comments from some gay men saying I write better than most gay men they know. I take that as the ultimate compliment.
WOW…I have to say I don't like MALE GAY PORN! It's nasty! Men are supposed to be mocho and this is far from it. Lesbian porn is another thing. Still gross, but I can watch it every now and then. What about just good male/female porn????????
At the end of the day we all need and love cock. I can't think of a single gay man I know lusting over vagina.
Gay porn sexy? No thank you. I'm one woman who does not get off watching a man pound on another man's ass.
I enjoy the social issues you bring up. Fuck the haters, this is your blog, write what you want. Don't get me wrong, I love, love, love the gossip, but it's good to see other forms of news too. After skimming the comments, it's safe to say that girls do love gay porn, not everyone, but most…. at least the fabulous ones. HELL
straight woman do not like gay porn. sorry Perez. thats a scientific fact, anyone that says otherwise, has, lets say un-straight tendencies. period.
(just as i cant imagine you watching 2 girls get it on- same thing)
THIS girl does NOT! Yuk. I can't think of a bigger turn-OFF, in fact.
i'm a gay guy, and i love watching straight porn…mainly because the guys aren't as tan and well groomed…gay porn is a little too overidealized for my taste
I have to disagree. I am a straight woman and I don't like gay porn at all. What I like most about men is their manliness and they totally lose it when they're blowing another guy. Gay porn does nothing for me, I like straight porn and preferably like the author said: " …a sweaty, get-right-down-to-it romp in the locker room any day."