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In Defense of the (Living) Golden Girls
Filed under: Old People
Betty "Rose" White is setting the record straight!
As y'all know, the living Golden Girls got a bit of flack for not attending the funeral of their recently deceased co-star Estelle Getty.
Betty spoke with Entertainment Tonight to explain her absence.
"We were with Estelle when it mattered," she says. "I didn't go to her funeral and Paul, her wonderful caretaker, knew I wasn't going to her funeral…Funerals are about [journalism] … who was there and who wasn't? That's not about Estelle. We adored her. To tell you the truth, her passing is tough on us, but it's a blessing for her. She's been so ill for so long, she's in a better place now, wherever she is."
And there you have it.
Is that a good enough excuse????
[Image via WENN.]
Posted: August 7, 2008 at 1:00 pm
This show, is STILL the shit. Always will be. Although, Rue McClanahan (Blanche) has recently stated they're not friends, don't keep in contact, and asked her interviewer why people always thought that of them. She's a cunt.
Comon girls what was the real story. Although i beleive old people are a bit frightened of funerals cause they're NeXT
whattt
don't fuck with Betty White.
sorry. don't f*ck with Betty Whiye
If a dead fish and a homeless person had a baby, and the baby puked, and the dog ate the puke, this smells like the rear end of that dog!
i think that's a good excuss.
Funerals are probably different for celebs. And estelle knew her friends loved her~ even if they weren't there for her funeral.
i still watch religously! And maybe some shit went down before she got really sick maybe Estelle told the girls to fuck off !ol RIP Estelle
Why do any of these women need to come up with a reason for not attending the funeral, and who are we to expect them to give an excuse. Funerals are boring and when you love/like someone they are always with you..not just when one is hanging out around a muddy pit of rotting flesh. I wish people would start to be concerned with their own selves rather than judging actions of others.
Ok, so they had a collegial attitude at work but wasn't friends. Big deal.
That's why I love/respect Betty White (and old hollywood for that matter), to the point with no fuss. I hate that we have to pry all the time and make something of nothing. If that's the reason why they were not at the funeral than we, as society, should resepct that. I can only imagine how hard it would be to watch someone suffer for that long that you were close with.
RIP Estelle
Funerals are a way to come to terms with death and say good-bye. I think that at a certain point in your life, probably in your twilight years, you've come to terms with mortality. One doesn't necessarily "need" a funeral to say your good byes. It would seem in this case, Estelle Getty had left this world and consciousness long ago and her friends had already said goodbye.
good for her!
Good enough reason for me. We do not know them personally, why judge for something like that?
Love The Golden Girls, N I'm guessing the girls had maked their peace long time ago.. but still its kind of shady not to appear…
I don't believe in going to, or having a funeral, they're dead, they don't care. People do ignore the sick and old, then make a show of traveling across the country to go to a funeral? Go make the effort to see the person while they're alive, when it matters. But oh, yeah, people want to "look good" to others. Fuck people's opinions, the thing that matters is, do the ones you love know you love them? Then don't worry about other people's opinions.
Betty White, IMO is 100% right on.
I LOVE LOVE LOVE BETTY♥WHITE! She's fucking awesome!
Riiiiiiiiiigggggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhtttttttttt! Lame ass excuse. The funeral is to show respect, and support the family left behind. Do they not want anyone to show for their funeral?
They don't need to explain themselves to anyone. They know in their hearts that they loved her.
xoxo, Isa
whatever Betty says is golden, to me. Do you guys really think Betty White can do wrong or even be rude to someone's memory?
Loves me some GG's. I always knew I'm a gay boy trapped in a Barbie body
A funeral or service should be family only and private. I myself do not plan on having either. I don't want a multitude of people showing up and pretending to love me when in truth, they didn't have a second of their lives for me. I also never attend any funerals and mourn in my own way.
Everyone knows funerals are for the living. Lots of people prefer to say their goodbyes while the deceased is still alive and then they do their mourning in private. Who is anyone to judge another for how they grieve or show their grief? None of the "Golden Girls" owes anyone else an explanation for their actions. Let's let the matter go already.
No
Why is it anyone's business if they attended or not. They have made it abundantly clear over the years that they ALL love each other and always did and always will love Estelle. The show was ended because Bea wanted to leave it while it was still running strong and didnt want to milk it. No fueds no hatred. Like i said they loved Estelle and she knew (knows) that.
THAT IS A STUPID EXCUSE.
I don't think it is your place to judge somebodies very personal decision. They were absolutely right to do what they did, if that was their decision.
I saw their Golden Girls reunion show and "Sofia" was absent. When they noted that she wasn't there, "Dorothy" Bea Arthur, looked sad…actually, they all looked sad. It doesn't matter that they didn't go to her funeral, they were with her when she knew they were there.
I think Dorothy was more of a Miranda.
Who cares why they didn't go. These girls are still the shit.
So in other words she couldn't be bothered.
I'm not sure whether I buy it as an 'excuse' but they certainly have a point. And these are a bunch of old ladies, let's face it. So we should leave them alone!!!
Hell yeah it is!! Rock on Betty… All 3 of them were there when it mattered, and have already said their goodbye's to Estelle. There's no need for them to go through the pain of her funeral at their age.
Dorothy is more of a Miranda, not Carrie.
I understand why they didn't go. It would have been a huge press storm and that's the last thing anyone needs at a funeral, when everyone is trying to grieve.
If they trult "adored" her they would of been at her funeral to show respect to her, and her family.
Lame excuse old people.
Love Betty White! Spay & neuter!!
Yes it is agreed, funerals are tough and who is anybody else to question why or why not. It's there private business and if they felt comfortable with not going then they should not have gone. Betty White is one of the greatest gifts the entertainment business has ever seen. Even now when she is on Super Password she is one of the funniest people out there. Those are my thoughts not yours Peace
Paul
:-P
No, it's very fucked up that they didnt' attend.
C'mon folks- they're actors! They PLAYED friends - that doesn't require them to BE friends. Look at it this way - imagine someone at work that you get along with, like well enough but don't consider yourself best buds with. Now 25 years go by, and that person dies - should you feel obligated to attend their funeral? Maybe those actresses were great friends, maybe they weren't - stop confusing the people with the characters!
Hey, it's what you do for the living that counts, not what you do after all is said and done.
I hate funerals. I went for my grandparents because they made me promise I would, but I did my loving when they were still around.
At this point it doesn't matter anymore so just give it a rest.
It is no one else's business but their own. Everyone else should just leave them alone. I'm sure Estelle Getty knew they loved her and that's the most important thing. Leave them and this subject alone. Have some class!
i'm with Betty!! they were with her when it mattered. And people with demensia are in a terrible terrible place…I'm sure she is truely 'in a better place"
Re: JoeyOh –
JoeyOh!!!! Terrible….hee hee.
She's old. Leave her alone…
Funerals suck. I don't even want one. You should remember someone how they were when they were living, not in a box filled with embalming fluid.
as long as Estelle remain in the 3 ladies' hearts…whats the problem? Thats what really matter no?
Three old uteruses
Bravo Betty!!
It disgusts Me seeing Long lost relatives at funerals, who never visited Them when They were sick!
I think it's BS….they should've been there for her. They worked together for so long….even if they had said their goodbyes, would it really be that much trouble to hop on a plane and spend a day out of respect to Estelle? It would be another matter if there was something TERRIBLE Estelle did to the remaining GG's, but it doesn't seem to be the case.
The Golden Girls rock my world. watch it every morning on Lifetime.
I don't see the problem with not going to funerals. They're creepy and pointless. I like to remember that person when they were alive, and not have my last memory of them in a casket.
Re: BNice – I agree to each his own, but to me, attending a funeral is a sign of respect to the family of the deceased (and the person who died) It is not a comfortable experience to attend a funeral, but you are not there for your own pleasure. I understand that they said their goodbyes earlier in Estelle's decline, but it is sad they didn't attend.
It is like having a birthday party and no one shows up, thinking others will come, or because they just didn't want to attend…it is disrespectful!
Yes this is god enough, sometimes people like to have the last memory of someone be a happy memory.
Those four women loved one another. They are a family. They did what was right for their family. Leave the Golden Girls alone.
These ladies loved eached other. Since 2001, Bea, Rue and Betty have been mourning Estelle since her illness took all memory of who they and herself were, away. Estelle suffered for many years before her recent death and so have the girls suffered with her. Whatever reasons they had for not attending Estelle's funeral is their buisness….not ours. They are not young…they know their time is near. They have all given us so many years of enjoyment and 'real' entertainment. Respect who they are and what they have achieved. Their screen time is ours….their personal time is theirs.
Funerals are for the living not for the dead. I can totally understand how it could be just too painful. Golden Girls
that's good enough for me..!
rip Estelle Getty
Really now… have we not all had co-workers that have passed on? How many funerals has anyone been to for co-workers from 15+ years ago? My first job was about 15 years ago, and I haven't talked to them in about 13 years. No animosity, just lost touch. I would be sad to hear of any of their passings, but no one would hate on me for not attending their funerals. Why do people think that once people have acted together, they are friends for life? They all had careers prior to "Golden Girls," and they all had careers after. You all can judge when you keep up with your own past.
Totally!!! I knew Estelle had dementa, and she would have been proud..It would have been hard to see them lower her in the ground…
Yeah - its a perfectly fine excuse. If you have ever had someone close to you suffer from dementia, you know that its no longer them inside that body. They said goodbye to her years before - this was only a matter of her physical presence leaving, not her soul. Her soul has *been* gone.
Oh man. So they didn't go to the funeral. So what? When you're 80 years old are you going to be attending every single funeral of your co-workers from 20 years prior? I'm sure they sent sympathy cards, etc.
They are aging and I'm sure it's hard for them to get around. it's really not necessary to go to a funeral. Maybe they wanted to remember her in another light.
they are tottally right though. Funerals are all about who goes and who doesn't. its a big dog and pony show. its rediculous I can understand military funerals, and small family funerals but I dont think I need everybody I've ever met attending my funeral if you were there for me in life thats all I need. Im not going to need your love and support once I'm gone.
I love Betty White. I don't like funerals either, Betty.
eh, I think they worked together long enough that they could come and show their respects. I wonder if they were just not very friendly. Maybe nobody comes to their funeral either. She was such a cute lady. RIP Estelle