Hearing stories like this break out hearts.
During an hour-long segment, Tyler Perry opened up to Oprah about being molested three times before he reached the age of ten, and being beaten by his dad — once so badly that he blacked out for days.
Much of the interview consisted of heart-wrenching stories of Perry being molested at an early age. When he was six he was building a birdhouse with his neighbor when he was first molested — the neighbor put his hands down Perry’s pants.
"I’m thinking, ‘What is this?’And I felt my body betraying me, because I felt an erection at that age,” said Perry.
When Tyler turned 10, he was molested again, this time by a male nurse from his chuch.
“[The man from church] used God and the Bible against me to justify a lot of the things that were going on. It was so horrible, and that was my first sexual experience, with this man performing oral sex on me as a boy.”
Later that year, Perry was at a friends house, when his friend’s mother put her son in the bath tub, and when Perry was about to leave she appeared in lingerie and locked the door.
"'You want to go home? Here’s the key? I come over to get it,' and she puts it inside of herself and she tells me to get it. So I—I get the key, but I feel my body betraying me again because I felt an erection. This is so disgusting, you know, what these people did to this little boy."
All of these horrifying experiences left Tyler sexually confused, and haunted him throughout his life. Fortunately, he has been able to come to terms with some of it.
“All of these people had given me something to carry. I think that everyone who’s been abused, there is a string to the puppet master, and they’re holding you hostage to your behaviors and what you do. At some point, you have to be responsible for them. What I started to do is untie the strings and chase them down to where they came from. And I was able to free myself and understand that even though these things happened to me, it was not me.”
We can hardly bear to hear these stories, but it’s important that they are told — to raise awareness of the horrible things that happen in our society and to give courage to others to come out and overcome their burdens.
[Image via Carrie Devorah/WENN.com.]
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