We don't want any happy marriages to end, nor do we condone giving up without a fight. But the fact of the matter is: sometimes growing apart is unavoidable. So how do you know when to call it quits?
That's what this FitPerezcious reader wants to know too:
I am not happy being married any more – I still love my hisband, but we have no life together. Should I talk to him or just call it a day?
Luckily we have Dr. Karen here to field these questions!
Here's her response:
One of my favorite quotes regarding marriage is "no one is questioning if you love each other, but if the relationship still works for the both of you." I believe that there is a lot of truth in the idea that people grow apart and change throughout their relationships, especially when the couple does not work as a team. Before "calling it a day," I would recommend that you exhaust all options so you can really say you tried to make your marriage work. Things to consider: Couples therapy, having date nights, even if they are at home to spend time together; reconnect sexually, vacation if your budget permits. If you can honestly say that you are ready to move on, tell him before you make any moves; offer your husband the opportunity to change if you want him to.
We think that we can all agree that for that loving the other person is reason enough to try and make it work. Getting into a marriage isn't done under the thought that it'll be effortless — it takes a lot of work!
Unfortunately, sometimes things just can't be rekindled.
Good luck, and thanks Dr. Karen!
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