Unfortunately, we've all been there. We've either lost someone ourselves, or we know someone who is going through having lost someone close. How do you help them cope? What can you say?
That's exactly what this FitPerezcious reader would like some advice about:
A good friend's mom recently passed away and I want to be there for her but I'm not sure what to do or say. How can I help her get through this?
Luckily, Dr. J is here to offer some help:
In crucial moments of life, caring is the greatest role a friend can have. Sometimes saying nothing and just being there speaks for itself. But you can also go the extra mile and take on tedious tasks that are still necessary during the healing process. Fulfill the three Cs, and you will not only be Consoling your friend in her time of need, but you'll be Cleaning and Cooking, too! Death can cause some people to operate in a fog, possibly forgetting to take care of themselves and forgetting to do the very basic things in life. So, be aware of how she is coping with things and pick a few tasks that will make your friend's life easier. It's times like these that actions speak louder than words, and by lessening her load, your attentive actions will be amplified! Consoling someone can be as elementary as helping them navigate through life when the waters seem pretty murky. Getting her through the grief can be a serious job, so be prepared for the unexpected and equip yourself for the unknown, and bottom line, knowing that she can depend on you will help make everything she's going through a little easier. It's a fact…life-long friendships that go the distance have crucial moments like Life and Death. The bonds of your friendship become stronger with each of these moments. Happy tears will fall again, but in the meantime, you'll be there to help her sweep up the sorrow.
Beautifully said, and we agree 100%.
Add all of this with the passing of time, and things will be all right again soon. We hope everything gets better for you and your friend, reader!
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