Everyone is jealous of someone at some point.
The hardest times when this happens are when you're jealous of one of your friends. It happens.
How should you deal with it, though?
Here's the FitPerezcious question:
My friend has everything going for her. She has a great job, dating a hot guy, just bought a new car, and lives in a cute apartment. I'm happy for her but at the same time I'm jealous of her life and sometimes it's hard to hang out with her because I don't want to hear about how great her life is. Sometimes I make excuses about being busy instead of hanging out with her. Am I being a bad friend?
Luckily, we have a life coach here to help!
Here's what Dr. J had to say!:
There is a reason why envy is one of the deadly sins. It can dim and deaden our will, our drive, paralyze our effort to try. It can suppress our spirit, and truly impoverish us from being our very best. Of course you're not being a bad friend. You are just not being as wise of a friend as you can be. We ALL are designed to reap and sow! Why should only your friend reap the benefits of the so called Good Life? My words are telling YOU that YOU are worthy and deserving of whatever YOU sincerely want. Don't get bogged down in focusing on what you don't have and end up overlooking the opportunity to take learn from your friend's success. Perhaps there are some attributes you can model and avenues you can travel under your friend's guidance. Look for suggestions, ideas, and traits of hers that will lead you to your own treasures. Ask and You shall receive. Pick her brain and refrain from the jealous-jolts that are likely to block your blessings. Exhaust ALL excuses and Expand your opportunties by truly envisioning your Best self and taking positive actions that will reap the results that you so admire and regard. Here's the however: YOU have to "ABC" it. Accept It, Believe It, and Claim it! Start out small by making just one thing in your day a Masterpiece. It can be a conversation, a daily chore, even a taxing task. Once you master the little things, you will have the confidence to tackle the bigger things. Be your best and focus on your goals. As You keep pieceing the days, weeks, and months together, You will gradually frame-up a year of something fabulous and unforgettable. Watch Out Mona Lisa!!! The life you paint for yourself will be priceless, and maybe it will be your turn to give someone advice on how to get such a great life!
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