A new study has found the obvious… if you're unhappy with your body, it can really impact your sex life!
Body appearance cognitive distraction is what can cause a person's self image to affect their sex life.
We're sure after Thanksgiving, many people are feeling the hurt from all those extra portions of leftovers.
Get to know your pedals and brakes.
According to the dual control model of sexual response, we all have gas pedals (things that excite us) and brakes (things that inhibit us). Your personal pedals could be a particular fantasy, the scent of your partner's cologne or a flash of long legs, for example. And your brakes could be the fear of not pleasing your partner or, yes, the idea of disgusting him or her with your round belly or thinning hair.
The good news: "By being mindful and learning to enjoy the way your body responds to touch, you can train your 'brakes' to ignore body image and other thoughts that can impede sexual arousal and orgasm," sex educator Emily Nagoski writes.
Tune in to tune out.
Music may help take you out of your body and increase arousal, recent research suggests. One study conducted by a music psychologist commissioned by the music site Spotify found that 40% of people say that music was more important to their sexual arousal than their partner's physique and even his or her touch. So queue up some Marvin Gaye, Barry White or Kings of Leon — top picks for a sexy playlist, according to Spotify.
Boost self-esteem slowly.
Although the visuals of sex add to many people's arousal, they can slam on the brakes for those who feel less than attractive. Ease your way into things by slowing moving from pitch-black surroundings to dim lighting. Consider wearing a sexy chemise or other lingerie to cover body parts that concern you, Levine says, and then slowly removing it as you feel more comfortable.
Do the math.
Studies show that many men are dissatisfied with the size of their penis, while many women worry about the size of their breasts. But the truth is, "most men actually report being happy with their partners' breasts, and most women are happy with the size of their partners' genitals," Lehmiller said. "This tells us that a lot of people are worrying about their appearance for no good reason."
And remember, the brain is our biggest sex organ. It pays to worry less about the size of your belly, butt or breasts — and redirect that attention to sexy talk, fantasies and other "brainy" activities instead!
You hear that??
So stop worrying so much about your body! People are too busy worrying about their own body to even notice yours!
Thank you, science, for letting us enjoy sex and nudity once again!
[Image via Roger Eldemire/WENN.]