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Melissa Etheridge Thinks Angelina Jolie's Decision Was "Fearful" Not "Brave"

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You shut your mouth when you say things like this, Melissa Etheridge!

We’re kidding! But wow did this catch us off-guard!

Angelina Jolie’s choice to undergo a preventative double mastectomy has been lauded as extremely courageous, but this singer doesn’t feel that way.

Etheridge, who beat breast cancer, said:

“I have to say I feel a little differently. I have that gene mutation too and it’s not something I would believe in for myself. I wouldn’t call it the brave choice. I actually think it’s the most fearful choice you can make when confronting anything with cancer. My belief is that cancer comes from inside you and so much of it has to do with the environment of your body. It’s the stress that will turn that gene on or not. Plenty of people have the gene mutation and everything but it never comes to cancer so I would say to anybody faced with that, that choice is way down the line on the spectrum of what you can do and to really consider the advancements we’ve made in things like nutrition and stress levels. I’ve been cancer free for nine years now and looking back, I completely understand why I got cancer. There was so much acidity in everything. I really encourage people to go a lot longer and further before coming to that conclusion.”

What Angelina did was an extremely personal decision, but it’s inneresting that Etheridge is basically saying she’d go through five rounds of chemo again, and take the chance of it not working, rather than prevent it.

What’s really courageous about what Angelina did was sharing this experience with the world and helping people who may be in this same position.

After all, she had an 87 percent chance of developing cancer!

These are pretty strong statements from Etheridge, but we’re curious how you feel

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  • They both have good points. (37%)
  • Melissa's got the right idea. Just take care of yourself and you'll be fine. (15%)
  • Angelina IS brave! Prevention saves lives! (48%)

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49 comments to “Melissa Etheridge Thinks Angelina Jolie's Decision Was "Fearful" Not "Brave"”



  1. 1

    Shut up, Melissa.

  2. sm87 says – reply to this


    2

    This woman is absolutely stupid, and really needs to educate herself a little better.

  3. Rose says – reply to this


    3

    Hooray for Melissa. I expect any day Angelina will sprout wings and fly around the U.N.



  4. 4

    What a completely idiotic and dangerous statement. Melissa was fortunate enough to survive her cancer but numerous people are not so lucky. The notion that people who developed cancer somehow caused it themselves or even deserve it by living stressful lives is shockingly ignorant. Cancer is a truly horrible fact of life that some people have the misfortune of encountering. We like to tell ourselves that we are in control, but it's not the case. If you survived cancer like Ms. Etheridge it doesn't mean you were stronger than the ones who didn't. Ms. Etheridge's words are misguided and harmful to the way our society views this awful disease.

    I know plenty of mothers, fathers, sons, daughters, brothers, and sisters who would have gladly taken any measures possible available to them to have had the opportunity to stay on this planet longer than they were able to, especially something cosmetic like a mastectomy or some other repairable measure.

    Maybe she should consider the fact that some people aren't willing to have the fate of their lives decided at the flip of a coin when they have their families depending on them.

  5. Jayme says – reply to this


    5

    I think they both are in some ways right. My mom had breast cancer (she has been cancer free for 7 years now). However, just like Angelina she did have a prophylactic mastectomy once she learned that she also tested positive for the BRACA genes.
    I think my mother said it best. Angelina was not being brave when she decided to have the surgery. She likely did it out of fear, a fear of not being there in the future for her children. I agree it does take some bravery to go public (not only with surgical procedures but also with having cancer, and that diagnosis) but it is also something every woman in the past who has had cancer has had to do.



  6. 6

    I knew a family that dealt with this issue. The father died of breast cancer. The mother died of breast cancer. The oldest daughter died of breast cancer. The two younger daughters were told by doctors to consider a preventative mastectomy even though they were cancer free. One daughter had it done, the other did not. Guess which one is still alive? And guess which one spent the last two years of her life in misery with chemo and surgeries?



  7. 7

    i dont think it is a couragous move either, if i was a rich woman with millions of dollars knowing i could get breast inplants after having a mastectomy, i would have done the same on a CLICK just like Angie did, now think about these womans that go through the same thing and will NEVER have breasts again…now THIS is courage same thing for ovaries, Angie has kids…ALOT of them, now think about the womans that have/had ovaries cancer and had to take em off NOT havig any kids yet…When it comes to Angelina Jolie or other starts doing sumthing like this poeple get on their knees and woreship them, now think.

  8. Vroom vroom says – reply to this


    8

    Melissa, pls fill some empty seats in a stadium

  9. karen says – reply to this


    9

    Typical of a woman to make an uncalled for comment on a serious issue so that the conversation moves from what we need to talk about to "you're not going to believe what she said about her".

  10. Emmy says – reply to this


    10

    I agree with Melissa that there are other ways to prevent getting cancer than just going to the extreme & taking your boobs off. I can see where she's coming from.

    But I also get where Angelina is coming from, too. She made the decision based on her risk factor & her family & a bunch of other issues. I'm sure it's not a decision she made lightly.

    In the end, it's really a personal decision. What's right for one person isn't right for another. Educate yourself, then make your own choice.

  11. Barbara. says – reply to this


    11

    Said the same thing when Angelina made the announcement about her Mastectomy and I still agree with it today. If you break down the percentages and odds Angelinas were not near bad enough for such a Drastic measure.She over reacted out of fear.



  12. 12

    Melissa is such a hater!

  13. jocelyn says – reply to this


    13

    i am with angie on this one if there is anychance of it coming back i would say take them both and i would deal with everything else later

  14. Colleen says – reply to this


    14

    As Director of Breast Cancer Research Program at a major medical school, I can say with confidence that Melissa has no idea what she is talking about. With the BRCA1, it is not a matter of IF, it's a matter of WHEN.



  15. 15

    Re: joethehobo

    Jolie didn't have cancer genius, she had a gene mutation that has been linked to breast cancer, but it was just that, so Melissa is (rightfully) saying that she jumped the gun on mutilating herself, when it may very well have been unneeded. Try again

  16. Guest says – reply to this


    16

    Melissa knows what she is talking about from her own perspective. Fearful people would need to go the route Angelina did, because their belief is so strong that there is no other way. Those who do not understand the power of the mind in all rights would be fearful….Yet there are many other preventative means, and yes she is correct cancer can not live in an alkaline body, too much acid is a cause of cancer. We are all responsible for our beliefs, they create our lives & yes can cause things like cancer…yet it is not something to be blamed for, it is about awareness. Before judging Melissa so harsly do some real reaserch , outside of what main stream media has fed you. There is truth to both sides, no one needs to be right or wrong….it is all perspective.

  17. Leslie says – reply to this


    17

    I agree with Melissa. Why are there so many BrangeLOONIES out there that think everything Angie does is right without any information or insight? And I don't get why so many people think Angie had breast cancer. She didn't have breast cancer and chances are she would never have gotten breast cancer.

  18. barbro says – reply to this


    18

    My mother, sister, cousin and uncles have the gene. Haven't been tested myself yet. But if I have it I will remove my breast instead of wondering everyday for the rest of my life, going around thinking "do I have cancer yet?"



  19. 19

    I think they both have points and they both did what might have been most right for them. Melissa isn't wrong in what she says…there's a lot of proof that how we live and eat can contribute to the likelyhood of getting cancer. Yes being healthy and at peace doesn't guarantee you won't get it, but there is scientific proof that it can help. However, I don't judge what Angie did…she did what was right for her. But I don't call it brave and its certainly not heroic. Thousands of women go through the same thing ever day…and not many of them have the financial freedom she has to not have to stress about finances, or time loss at work or who will watch the children. It was much easier on her than it was on them and I wish she would show some awareness.

  20. bbblah says – reply to this


    20

    It's scary when famous people are misguided and completely wrong. Melissa's comment is very reckless. I know many young people under the age of 25, who've had to make the decision to undergo a mastectomy and oopherectomy. It's a brave decision to lose important parts of your body, sexuality, and future over genetic mutations you were simply handed by life. No one with the BRCA gene mutations deserved what they've been dealt or deserve to have cancer. The majority of ppl with the mutations will get breast cancer, ovarian cancer, or both. While I agree that Angelina is lucky to be able to afford these things, BRCA testing are actually becoming the standard of care in genetic clinics and oncology clinics (though not nearly enough).

    I concur with judalon; this woman needs to shut up before she contributes to unnecessary deaths.

  21. @v@ says – reply to this


    21

    It's not brave nor fearful. It's a personal choice/decision, and it just is. If anything, I got that for AJ, with her family history, that it was pre-emptive.



  22. 22

    I would absolutely prevent rather than treat. Is Melissa crazy? Gee, let me think…chemo or no chemo. Melissa is a dumbass!



  23. 23

    Cancer is an ugly disease. cut off tits and get cancer in your lymph nodes. life is a crap shoot and angie tried to buy some time. good luck to all.



  24. 24

    Re: Dubguy – Her results stated she had an 87% chance of contracting the same disease that killed her mother and her mother's sister. You've proven you don't respond to rational reason, so should I resort to name calling in order to prove my point like you did?

    People are entitled to their own opinions, but I will not stand for the perpetuation of misinformation on a subject like preventing cancer. Angelina Jolie's doctors told her she had an 87% chance of contracting breast cancer. She made the decision to change that number to about 0%. In what world do you have the right to call her foolish?

  25. fancypants66 says – reply to this


    25

    Re: Leslie – you can agree with Melissa is you want to. But don't say people didn't have 'insight or information' before agreeing with what Angelina did. It is most certainly a personal decision, but unless you have had the test and it came up positive, like it did for Angelina, then you have no idea what it feels like. And to say that she probably, most likely, would not have ended up with cancer, you are a fool. What part of "87 percent most probable" do you not understand? I think you are being blockheaded and obstinate to not understand what Angelina did. Unless you have been there yourself, you actually cannot comment on this subject. I have been there. I had a double mastectomy after having insitu breat cancer (still in the cell), and have had reconstruction, and I would do it again in a heartbeat. And I don't have a lot of money. Only good insurance. So suck it.

  26. rachy says – reply to this


    26

    Are you kidding me?! Melissa (whoever she is) needs to be quiet!!! She only said that so she could put Angelina Jolie's name in her mouth & her name in the press. Stress will happen throughout your entire life, you can't control it & it certainly doesn't "turn on cancer". How ridiculous. Angelina was extremely brave, good for her for doing that & spreading awareness!

  27. Ana says – reply to this


    27

    Everyone has their own right to an opinion. Melissa actually went through cancer, and she never got no where near the amount of media calling her brave and courageous. No one knows how difficult it was for her. Someone asked her for her opinion on it, so she answered them. The way Perez and most commenters is acting just proves that no one can have their own opinion that is different without everyone criticizing them. She didn't say ANYTHING bad about Angelina. Angelina did what she thought was best for her. I do think it was brave, but there are millions of women who are actually fighting cancer right now who never have and never will get the same amount of raise and attention for being strong like Angelina has. She is a celebrity, obviously she will be popular for everything she does, but it's time that we all start to focus on everyone else who do inspirational and brave things too, not just those who are celebrities. I'm sure someone will go off on me for commenting but that just proves my point.



  28. 28

    Re: Ana – There's a difference between having an opinion and spreading misinformation. The precautions Angelina Jolie took to virtually eliminating her risk for the same disease that killed her mother and her mother's sister can and will save numerous lives. Having a mastectomy is not an easy decision, even after getting tested first, and the idea that Melissa Etheridge would try and put them down for their decision is so ignorant and insensitive. I said it before, but not everyone is lucky enough to survive cancer like Ms. Etheridge was. She is the mother of 4 kids… I'd like to think she would have done the same thing if she had known she had such a risk for breast cancer.

  29. Kasey Lichtenfels says – reply to this


    29

    I agree 100% with Melissa.

  30. Denni says – reply to this


    30

    Perez, what do you consider a "prevention"?
    Chopping off parts of one's body?
    Or taking care of yourself as a preventive measure?



  31. 31

    Oh, I see Melissa Etheridge knew all along the cause of cancer…it "comes from within" and is stress related?! I see someone has their PhD from the University of Bullshittery. You know what, people make different choices and go down different paths, but don't act like it isn't brave to go through with preventative surgery, but it is to gamble with cancer probabilities. And yeah, fear is a great motivator when your life is at stake. You don't get extra kudo points from life just because you go through with potentially getting cancer. I think preventative surgeries will be the norm in the near future, like prenatal testing for problems with fetuses.

  32. Erin says – reply to this


    32

    Actually, she only had an 87% chance of getting cancer if she lived to be 87 years old. Also, if Angelina's family has a stronger history of ovarian cancer than breast cancer, then the preventative procedure she should have undergone was an oophorectomy. That way, she reduces her risk of BOTH ovarian and breast cancer by ~70%. I feel that she is spreading misinformation.

  33. debtee says – reply to this


    33

    Finally someone else that agrees with me! The media may want to hail Angelina as a Hero but I believe she is living her life in FEAR! She doesn't HAVE Cancer, she just has a higher chance of getting it. On that trail of thought, we would all live our lives worrying about what MAY happen!

  34. S says – reply to this


    34

    There is a small chance we will get cancer in every single part of our body. Nevermind breasts… What about our colon, liver, kidneys or lungs? If we took of body parts every time there was a risk, we would not be here. Smokers are at risk for lung cancer. Shall they remove their lungs? Tell me.. where is the logic in that?



  35. 35

    Re: S – I honestly can't tell if you're trolling or not. I'm serious. I really can't tell.

  36. Jamieson_1 says – reply to this


    36

    "Bravery is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something is more important than fear."

  37. singdance says – reply to this


    37

    I agree with Melissa 100%! I also say to each their own. Angelina has her own path to walk and so does everyone else. Thankfully amongst all of the support Angelina has gotten, we also have a Melissa Etheridge to speak out about other very well-documented FACTS that people should also take into consideration when making these kinds of serious decisions.

  38. LOLA says – reply to this


    38

    Re: Barbara. – Drastic? my father is an oncologist and he tests for this mutation gene very often. 87% chance of breast cancer is not a joke. and removing your breasts to prevent such cancer is in no way DRASTIC! Why would anyone wait until they are diagnosed? removing them after being diagnosed does not guarantee survival or avoid torturous treatment. please don't make judgment on a situation you know nothing about

  39. LeeAnn says – reply to this


    39

    I fail to see how what Angelina Jolie does with her own body is any of Melissa etheridges business. Angelina chose what was best for her and her family, so Melissa you need to butt out.



  40. 40

    I think she is right…Angelina took her prevention to the extreme. But it's her choice and her boyd, not everyone is the same. But a preventative double masectomy? With NO traces of cancer, just a gene that could POSSIBLY mutate one day and metastasize as full blown cancer is almost like a preventative face lift at 28. Not realistic, but when your rich a famous, I'm sure you want to live as long as possible.



  41. 41

    ange seems to lead a unhealthy existance anyway melissa has a right to her opinion i think she has some valid points but its a personal decision …for each individual

  42. Mich C says – reply to this


    42

    You're a negative gay bitch. Shut the fuck up and focus on your ex wife and kids!!

  43. Pammie @ the R word says – reply to this


    43

    Re: Judy o – EXACTLY!

    Angelina watched her mother suffer and die from the disease. Sure, Melissa was lucky and survived and is cancer free, but that's not a guarantee.
    Angelina took the necessary steps to make sure her kids don't see her suffer.



  44. 44

    Well, Angie gave women everywhere a reason to get fake boobs other than "I am incredibly vain and shallow."
    that's something.

  45. Kx says – reply to this


    45

    If is that breasts are not vital organs so you can live without it.



  46. 46

    Because A.J. has done so many foolish things in the past, some of which obviously reflected a lack of credible research on her part, it makes it impossible to take her seriously about anything. By the way, does anyone know what Octomom is up to these days?

  47. ChiChiSmiles says – reply to this


    47

    If that was the road Angelina wanted to take, that's her decision, but I also think Melissa has a point. And Perez, She didn't say she wanted to go through all the chemo again rather than prevent it. She was making the point that there are other options than jumping to the most extreme preventative measures that Angelina Jolie took. Not to mention, Angelina is more blessed to be able to have the money to have a double mastectomy and then get implants. Most women can't afford to take those type of preventative measures. just saying.



  48. 48

    Re: rosebud99 – which one??

  49. kkkkmmmmm says – reply to this


    49

    Taking care of yourself is preventative treatment. The best prevention for cancer is a plant based diet. Chemo and mastectomy s are attacks on the human body. They are products that make the medical industry rich, not the patients healthy