In case you don’t remember, the Younger starlet and NHL pro Mike Comrie married in 2010 and finalized their divorce this past February. The former flames share a son, Luca.
Speaking with her costar Nico Tortorella on his podcast The Love Bomb, the actress/songstress opened up about her first marriage:
“When we were deciding to get married, I was totally down and I felt totally ready. I had already been working as an adult since I was 12 years old. So 22 doesn’t seem that crazy to get married. But I never like pictured my wedding dress and all that.”
Which brought up the topic of tradition:
“I don’t have the judgment of tradition. If someone chooses to not live a traditional lifestyle, obviously I don’t care whatsoever. But some of my choices are more like, ‘I got married. I had a baby.’ That was very traditional. I do think there’s a sweetness to all of that. It’s not necessarily realistic all the time.”
Even though she and Mike decided to get divorced, she has no hard feelings about it. Hilary explained:
“My parents are divorced, and my dad is recently remarried├óΓé¼ΓÇ¥at 71. Get it, dad! Very happily, by the way, which is awesome for him. I’m so excited for both of them. But [marriage] is not a sacred thing. I wasn’t shamed because I got a divorce. It was a big step to take, and it was a lot of considering a little human, but I don’t know. Lots of people in my family are still married. Actually, I don’t know if anyone’s divorced but me.”
The 29-year-old clarified her thoughts on marriage though and how Comrie has going to be her “good friend”:
“It is a sacred thing, obviously. It’s something to be taken very seriously, and I was so happy to be married. I think that I was in a very successful marriage for a long time. I never want to have any negative… I mean, that’s hard to say: ‘no negative feelings.’ But we got together based on love and we separated in a very loving way. I can’t imagine going through that process with anyone but him, and he continues to be my very good friend. That’s honestly speaking from my heart. So, I think we handled it very consciously and with a lot of love. But marriage is sacred and marriage is not for everyone. Marriage is work. Marriage is really hard. Everyone’s like, ‘Are you going to get married again?’ I’m like, ‘I don’t know!’ All your relationships can be a success if you make it that way, even if they don’t last forever.”
As she seemingly hinted, the Sparks songstress isn’t in any rush to walk down the aisle again:
“I don’t feel the need to get married again. As much as I was ready and excited, you’re like, ‘Oh, next step: We get married.’ That’s kind of the traditional person I’m talking about that’s inside of me, or however I was raised. But I don’t feel the need. I got to have the experience and it was awesome. So, I guess if it mattered to someone else that much, I would consider it.”
You hear that, Jason??
We kid, we kid!
The former child star even added how the thought of forever with the same person is “too scary too think about”:
“I have dreams and aspirations, but I’ve never really been one of those people who has set dates: ‘I’m this age, so this, this and this needs to happen.’ That’s just not really realistic. I have a kid. My life is very fully, so I feel blessed and lucky. There are still things I want to do and experiences I want to have, and maybe more kids, but it’s not like it needs to happen at this time and I need to be married. All those pressures need to go away.”
We’re glad she’s living her life the way she wants to!
Read on for even more HIGHlights from her interview, including her “encompassing” relationship with Good Charlotte‘s Joel Madden, her sexuality, and WAY more!
On her serious relationship with Joel at just 16-year-old: “It was so all encompassing. It was so intense. It was my life. It was like every minute of my day. It was pretty major.” On dating in the spotlight: “All of my relationships have been in the public eye. Whether people care or not, that’s a different story,” she explained. “But enough people seem to have cared that it’s talked about.”
On whether she could be with a man who had been previously involved with another man: “I wouldn’t be OK with him being with guys when I was with him. I have zero percent judgment on sexuality. I love that we’re getting to this place in this world where people are fighting to be heard and accepted. It seems like it’s happening at a snail’s pace, but it does seem like there’s so much light shined on it now, which is exciting. I don’t want this to be taken the wrong way, but I don’t know if…I don’t know. I think it depends on the person and my feelings towards the person, to accept that kind of a thing. I’m not gay; I’m straight. I’m fully straight. I don’t have any feelings towards women except they’re beautiful. But I don’t know! Put me in the position and then I might├óΓé¼┬ª I think it would depend on the person and how it made me feel when he told me.”
Well, there you have it!
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