But on Tuesday, Cosmo published a poignant essay written by the actress on the very subject! In fact, she even recalled what it was like to work with him after their public 2006 divorce… all without saying his name.
To refresh your memory, the former flames were married in 2005 before separating just five months later due to an alleged cheating scandal involving a One Tree Hill extra!
Well, the OTH alum wrote:
“In my 20s, when I was starting out my career as an actor, I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but one found me and became serious, even though I hadn’t planned to settle down until my 30s. But when the person you’re with asks you to marry him, you think: This must be happening because it’s supposed to.”
Of course, a statement like that could only be followed with a “but….”:
“But I refuse to let that one relationship define me, which is why I’ve done my best to avoid discussing it for 10 years. The reality is that, yes, it was a massive event in my life. And the trauma of it was amplified by how public it became, which was incredibly foreign and bizarre to a girl who’d been just another college kid 24 months before her life blew up.”
We can’t even imagine what the Chicago P.D. star went through during that, especially since she and Chad continued to work together for YEARS following their split!
But Sophia admits it wasn’t until after dating a friend that she realized her relationship with the Agent Carter actor served its purpose. She explained:
“I came to appreciate that relationships often serve a specific purpose at a certain point in time, for myriad reasons. Some are meant to heal you, some are meant to teach you how to build yourself up, and some are meant to show you how to trust your own intuition. You call in exactly whom and what you need over the course of your life, as you are learning life’s lessons. And learn them you will. Even if you try to avoid these teachings, they’re coming for you. This reality has taught me that the relationships that don’t lead to lifetime commitments are not failures. Not every love can last forever.”
Such wise words!
If only everyone could get through breakups with as much class as she did!!
Take her final words on finding “The One” though:
“A few months with the right person can be as great an experience as a decade-long union with someone else. When you take the pressure of The One off, you’ll open yourself up to endless possibilities. You’ll learn to have a truly deep, knowing relationship with yourself first. Then the rest will fall into place. Reasons, seasons, and lifetimes. They’re all valid.”
Can someone get Bush a self-help book deal??
[Image via PNP/WENN.]