Mayim Bialik has something to say about competitive mothers.
In a new vlog posted to Facebook on Thursday, the Big Bang Theory star opened up about her negative experience with a mothers support group when she first became a mom 13 years ago. As you may know, the actress shares 12-year-old son Miles and 9-year-old son Frederick with ex-husband Michael Stone.
The 42-year-old shared:
“When I was a new mom, 13 years ago, I went to a ├óΓé¼╦£mom’s group’ at a local retail store. I instantly felt out of place. I used cloth diapers. I didn’t use pacifiers or bottles. I didn’t have fancy clothes and neither did my baby. I didn’t have a manicure. I mean, I barely had time to shower. How was I gonna have time to get a manicure?”
Mayim went on to say that the mothers would compare their babies in nearly every category, and there was a moderator who asked questions like, “Why does my baby want to be held so much?” and “Which brand of baby shampoo smells best?”
The Blossom alum said in response:
“As for me, I assumed my baby wanted to be held so much because it was a human, mammal baby. Women at this moms’ group were encouraged to brag about how fast their labor was, how precocious their babies were with pooping, rolling over, sitting up, smiling.”
The competitive nature of the relationship between moms began to concern the celeb:
“Everything was a competition. These were not my people. I left in tears ├óΓé¼┬ª Moms are so competitive! Why is that? Is it because we’re just catty and combative by nature? Is it because we’re bored and we have nothing better to do?”
The outspoken star offered this reasoning:
“I think that competition comes about because we are the first generation of women who were raised after the revolutionary turmoil of the women’s movement and were the first generation who was constitutionally raised to believe that we can and should do it all.”
She concluded on a positive note:
“Let’s get back to a model of camaraderie that reduces competition, fosters friendship and empathy and increases the success of a society that is built on the foundation principles of woman-to-woman support, which has sustained our species for so long, so well. We can only do this together.”
Watch the full vlog (below)!
We’re all in this together, so why do we beat each other down?
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