Bachelorette Alum Ali Fedotowsky Reveals She Suffered A Painful Miscarriage: 'I Feel Sad For What Could Have Been'

Ali Fedotowsky-Manno is opening up about a heartbreaking loss after suffering a miscarriage.

The former Bachelorette star revealed the sad news via Instagram on Tuesday, saying she hopes that by sharing her story, it will help other women feel less alone in their own similar experiences. The 35-year-old and her husband Kevin Manno already share their 4-year-old daughter, Molly, and 2-year-old son, Riley, together and were hoping to add a third child to their beautiful family before tragedy struck.

In addition to posting a photo of flowers and an image sending love to those who have suffered fertility and pregnancy struggles, the reality TV alum wrote a lengthy, heartbreaking message which began:

“I am 1 in 4. I don’t really know what to say here. I’m sitting in my car, using talk to text & I’m just gonna speak from my heart. I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important. I’m so uplifted and encouraged by the way I’m seeing social media change. Change from being a place where everyone shares the highlights of their life and now being a place where people share the good & the bad – the smiles & the tears.❤️”

Fedotowsky did her best to express the “long story of how it all happened,” but noted she might not ever be “ready to fully talk about it.” However, she did go on to explicitly detail the “intense cramping” she experienced while passing the gestational sac one morning, which indicated that her baby was gone:

“I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours – not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating. Actually, being completely exhausted for weeks was one of the first signs that I was pregnant.”

Wow. That sounds absolutely devastating and we can’t imagine how painful that realization must have been for her. Ali concluded her post by sending a virtual hug to the mommas out there who’ve experienced a similar loss:

“? I’m writing this post to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you. We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined. So know that if you’re going or have gone through this, your feelings are valid – whatever they may be❤️ With love, Ali #miscarriage #”

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I am 1 in 4. I don’t really know what to say here. I’m sitting in my car, using talk to text & I’m just gonna speak from my heart. I had a miscarriage recently (I’m at the OBGYN right now for a follow up). I’m not sharing this bc I feel sorry for myself or I want others to tell me they feel sorry for me. I don’t feel sorry for myself. I feel sad for what could’ve been. Sad for the baby that was growing inside me. Sad because it’s sad. I want to share this because I think it’s important. I’m so uplifted and encouraged by the way I’m seeing social media change. Change from being a place where everyone shares the highlights of their life and now being a place where people share the good & the bad – the smiles & the tears. ❤️ It’s such a long story of how it all happened. I’m not ready to fully talk about it and I honestly don’t know if I ever will be. (CONTENT WARNING – this may be difficult to read. Especially for those who have experienced a pregnancy loss) It happened early one morning when I had intense cramping. I passed the gestational sac – which was the size of a plum – in my bedroom. I was in complete shock when it happened. I sat and stared at it for hours – not able to fully comprehend what happened. And the utter exhaustion that took over my body in the few days after that was almost debilitating. Actually, being completely exhausted for weeks was one of the first signs that I was pregnant. ???? I’m writing this post to let others know who have experienced pregnancy loss know that I see you & feel you. We all go through different emotions & process the loss differently. I know that my loss is not the same as someone who’s had a stillbirth or lost a baby at 20 weeks. Or someone who has been trying to conceive for years. But what I found so shocking about my experience is that it affected me so much harder than I could have imagined. So know that if you’re going or have gone through this, your feelings are valid – whatever they may be❤️ With love, Ali #miscarriage #

A post shared by Ali Manno (Fedotowsky) (@alifedotowsky) on Jul 21, 2020 at 4:34pm PDT

The full heartfelt post (above) definitely struck a chord with fans and followers, and Fedtowosky followed up with another IG story message filled with gratitude for the support right now:

Former 'Bachelorette' Ali Fedotowsky reveals she suffered a painful miscarriage. — It’s nice to hear that Ali is feeling loved and supported right now, all things considered. / (c) Ali Fedotowsky/Instagram Story

The doting momma’s picture-perfect social media feed is full of adorable shots of her children, so, we can imagine how much she struggled with sharing this. It just goes to show you never know what someone is really going through…

Our thoughts and prayers go out to her and her family as they’re processing this loss.

[Image via Ali Fedotowsky/Instagram]