Kristin Cavallari is opening up about her split from Jay Cutler.
You all know the story by now of Kristin and Jay’s messy divorce. After tying the knot in 2013, they split in 2020 and didn’t finalize their split until 2022. They continue to co-parent three kids — but they’ve had a VERY rocky dynamic ever since the breakup. And now, the Laguna Beach alum is getting more candid than ever before about all this in her latest podcast episode!
While chatting on Let’s Be Honest on Tuesday, Kristin revealed that her divorce was the way she learned to stop being “a control freak”:
“This is a big one that I did not do until I got a divorce — learn to love the hard times too. There is beauty in pain and we need the dark to appreciate the light. For so many years, as long as I could remember, I didn’t wanna feel anything. I wanted to push everything away. I was like, ‘I’m fine, I’m fine, I’m fine. I’m the tough girl.'”
She said she was never “vulnerable” and didn’t really know “how to ask for help” — but her breakup changed that:
“During my divorce, I was like, ‘You know what? This is the first time in my life I wanna feel it all. I wanna experience it all. The good, the bad, the ugly, I wanna feel the pain. I wanna sit in it. I don’t wanna rush or run from it.’ And thank God I did, because that was where the majority of my growth and life came from. The pain, and the hurt, and the suffering is there to teach us something.”
That’s real vulnerability right there! It takes major strength to do something like that.
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The Very Cavallari star said it’s a “disservice to yourself” if you try and run from pain because “the real beauty is sitting in that pain”:
“That’s how you get to the other side, where it’s even more beautiful. … When I was in survival mode, it really served a purpose. I needed it to get to where I was going and then it got to a point in life where it doesn’t serve anymore.”
The 39-year-old noted that her life as “a control freak” was more of a “trauma response,” though, and she’s giving herself grace and letting life “take the reins,” she expressed:
“It’s kinda fun to let life surprise you and let the universe be your guide sometimes.”
Aw! She’s come so far!
You can listen to Kristin’s story near the 30:53 mark (below):
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