Parties can be a blast if you're in the mood to have a good time, but they can be plain awkward if you're not!
A FitPerez reader who gets too nervous to socialize at public events wrote to Dr. J for advice, asking:
I get really nervous when I go to parties or places when I don’t know that many people and it’s hard for me to have fun. How can I change that?
According to Dr. J:
We ALL get butterflies. The trick is to not allow crowds nor strangers to paralyze your purpose. Don't put your personal power on a lay-away plan because you are intimidated by the unknown. It's time to crank-up the volume and design your Party Plan. With a goal in mind you will be able to take your mind off your nerves and focus on the People, the Place, the Party! Your game plan will be exactly that…a GAME!
Rules of engagement: Be the person You desire to attract. It's easier to make friends when You're friendly. Then, see how many names you can recall during the duration of the day or evening. When You pass someone that you met earlier as you make your way through the crowd, make a point of acknowledging them and calmly call out their name. Public acknowledgment of others will not only keep your mind off your nerves, but will turn acquaintances into safe harbors in a room otherwise full of strangers.
And finally, do your homework. Watch the news, read the paper, check the internet before you head to your event. Have something interesting to talk about ready to go in your back pocket so the conversations flow and you don't have to worry that you'll end up tongue-tied! Do these things and you will make a lasting impression. Change is not easy, so remain steadfast in your efforts and gradually you will see your thoughts about social outings switch from nervous to excited. You are unforgettable and you simply need to plug back in to your Personal Power to let everyone see that. These butterflies have wings…so get out there and Soar!
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