Who says this to a bride on her wedding day?!?!
In a since-deleted post on Reddit on Saturday, a 24-year-old woman was left “flabbergasted” by what her aunt, who is in her 50s, said about her wedding. The ceremony was 10 months ago, but even to this day the newlywed can’t get over it! We don’t blame her for still being bothered either! This is one of the most savage comments we have ever heard!
The OP first noted she “completely looks up to” her aunt and was “so glad she was there” on her wedding day. Well, that was until the family member decided to share a shady ass opinion about everything from the shindig to the wedding dress! While the bride was mingling with her guests during the reception, the aunt came up to her to say:
“Your dress and this wedding are very plain, but it’s very you.”
Say what now?! Out of all the words, the aunt just had to call the wedding “plain!” And imply she was, too!
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Her niece naturally did not take the remark well. She continued in the post:
“My dress that I spent hours deciding on, the wedding that I put so much time, effort and money into, and myself — all plain. Not once in my life have I ever considered myself plain or been told that I am.”
The bride knew what you were thinking, too, because she noted her aunt “wasn’t intoxicated” at the time. This was stone cold sober shade.
As we said, the comment remained on the bride’s mind ever since. When she “complained” about it, her pals agreed what her aunt said was rude. Her family, on the other hand? Shockingly, they are on Team Auntie! What?! And what’s worse, her relatives agreed with the comment! The bride said:
“My family says she was right and did nothing wrong. They say I can’t let things go and I’m too emotional. Maybe I’m crazy, but I’d never say anything like that to a bride on her wedding day. What do you think? Am I overreacting?”
If you ask us, no! As the bride said, you should “never” say something like that to a bride! As long as the bride and groom are happy about their special day, that’s what matters the most. If girl wants to wear a plaid and polka dot dress, you just smile and pretend to like it!
In the comments, several people agreed the aunt’s comment was “unnecessary and rude.” However, others felt there was a chance her family member “misspoke” and meant it as a compliment. Hmm. See the reactions (below):
“It was rude. Just because someone has an opinion doesn’t mean they should share it. Age is not an excuse for bad manners.”
“That was unnecessary and just rude. She could’ve kept that comment to herself. Know you now how she feels. Move accordingly.”
“I think she definitely meant ‘clean’ and meant it in a good way. Like she was admiring that in a wedding era that’s full of big lace and patterns and color and florals, you stood out by picking a simple, clean dress that let you shine and suited you perfectly. I think you’ve well and truly overthought this one and got in your feelings — and hey, we’ve all been there — but I’d bet a lot of money that she absolutely did not dream of calling you plain-looking.”
“Is it possible she meant elegant vs. busy? Clean lines vs. poofy and overly detailed? ‘Plain’ is a poor word to approvingly describe style at someone’s wedding but I’ve heard it used as a compliment before. Just throwing it out there because it sounds like you don’t have history with her that would elicit such a comment.”
“Are you kidding me? You’re still upset about something your aunt said to you 10 months ago? For your peace of mind Let It Go! Live in the present.”
“If you love this lady and she’s not usually like this, I would assume she meant, ‘Your wedding is very understated and elegant. Just like you.’ And move on. We don’t always have the best words at our disposal all the time. This was probably a momentary word drought on her part.”
“Your aunt loves you she wasn’t trying to insinuate anything negative at all, you just interpret ‘plain’ one way and she another. But I think you should sit down with her in person, maybe over tea or some little snack, and tell her how you feel.”
“I’d be much more hurt that my MOTHER doubled down on this. Maybe the aunt misspoke, maybe she was trying to be funny…you should have asked her what she meant. You can still ask her about it. But your mom understood exactly how you took it and STILL said that she agreed with the sentiment. Wtf”
We hope the bride and aunt cleared up the situation. Otherwise, looking back on the family photos from the wedding day will be really awkward moving forward. What do YOU think, Perezcious readers? Do you believe the aunt meant the comment as a dig? Or do you feel she just misspoke? Sound OFF in the comments below!
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