This is just so awful!
On Wednesday, a Reddit user took to the r/Relationship_Advice subreddit to ask for some help regarding her husband of nearly two decades cheating on her. The post was titled:
“My(36F) husband(37M) has been having an affair with a girl(20F) that “he has never met”. Is it cheating? Grounds for divorce?”
“Is it cheating?” Color us intrigued!
Already off to such a rocky start, but it only gets worse when she starts to explain herself…
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In the post itself, the OP dishes that she’s been living with the knowledge her husband has been having an affair with a girl online for 10 months:
“I found out 10 months ago that my husband is in a relationship with a girl “he has never met” (or so he says). I have been waiting for almost a year for him to pick me and break up with her. Every time he says he did I find out he’s lying.”
Oof. The lying alone would be bad enough tbh… Such a level of disrespect!
But the spurned wife went on to detail some pretty disturbing things — such as her husband sending photos of HER nearly nude to make the young woman “jealous”:
“I’ve read their messages, they say, “I love you”. I know they are intimate on FaceTime. I even found a picture of myself in lingerie that he texted to her to make her jealous.”
No. No no no. Infuriating! How little respect does he have for his wife? Sending private pics of her is a red line!
Not to mention she also revealed her husband’s 20-year-old affair partner is near the same age as their daughter:
“We have been together 19 years and have 2 teenagers together (the math says his gf is 3 years older than our daughter).”
That’s just creepy… And to make matters worse, she thinks he’s paying for the young woman’s plane ticket so they can finally meet up:
“Today I noticed an etransfer from her to him for $2000 which can only mean they are planning flights to finally meet? Time to sell the house and hire a lawyer or can we come back from this?”
Obviously, this poor woman doesn’t deserve this kind of treatment! As expected that’s just what the comments are saying. But she seems to be struggling with the idea of leaving him. One person suggested she book it and run, but she responded:
“Because we built a whole life together and he’s all I’ve ever known. Undo 19 years?”
So sad. Another commenter asked why she’s been putting up with this for so long — and as it turns out, she’s afraid to leave him largely because of financial issues:
“He comes from money his family has ‘generational wealth’ (his words). I’m worried he will out lawyer me and I will have to start over without a penny to my name.”
She also claimed her husband is a self-proclaimed “sociopath” who “calls” to brag about his cheating when he’s drunk. The woman said she’s left with a fear that she would “never find someone to love me” if she were to leave him:
“When I make new discoveries I pull away and he always pulls me back in. I’m not sure how to describe it. He has so much power over my emotions.”
Gut-wrenching. Clearly, this poor lady needs to get out! Of course it’s going to be hard. But she needs to understand, this is happening whether she wants it to or not. This guy has not chosen her, he’s chosen this younger girl. And if she’s posting on Reddit, she knows it deep down — and is just looking for a bigger push. Don’t you think?
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