Many Americans and others across the world are facing financial hardships.
Several workers are out of work, several struggle to make ends meet with low paying jobs.
For one FitPerez reader, it is a matter of lending a helping hand to those in needs, especially when those in needs are people that are considered close.
The reader's question:
A few of my friends were laid off from their jobs recently and a couple of other friends are having money issues. I'm doing pretty good financially and want to buy gifts for my friends but don't want them to feel obligated to buy me something in return. I'm also worried that some of them may think I'm showing off. Should I just send cards and call it a day so I can avoid
Luckily, Dr. J has some great advice for our generous reader. His response:
One's Prosperity Ebbs and Flows, but your Thoughtfulness and Generosity, I would assert, are not Fickle. Don't ever compromise your character just because people are broke. We ALL go through fiscal challenges, and as a friend it’s your job to be Consistent with your Compassion, Empathy, and Kindness. Those are the Gifts money can’t buy! Plus, you never know how your Gifts may uplift and inspire someone. Sometimes sharing your fortune can soothe the symptoms of stress and can shed a light on a friend to give them the strength they might need to get back into being their very best.
By withholding your natural generosity, you might come off as a fair-weathered friend instead of a bosom buddy, so be unchanging in your friendship and give because you care. As for the obligation issue, try not to sweat it too much. Just be upfront with your friends and let them know that their gift to you this year is to use the money they would have spent on something pressing in their life…bills, clothes for their kids, car repairs. If they still choose to give you something, that is their Choice! Receive it with
open arms and an open heart! They are Blessed to have a Friend like YOU! I would assert if any of your friends feels like you are showing off, theydon’t really know you that well. Let them sort out those feelings and don’tlet it interfere with your generosity.
Remember, the more You give…the more You live!
Kind and true words from the doctor.
It is great when someone's kindness truly comes from a sincere place. We hope that this helps!
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