While that one tip will always be important (the one in your pants), there happens to be a slew of other tips women would like you to know, gentlemen!
Sex is about the partnership, not the selfishness — so take notes!
Here are 16 tips all the ladies want you to know!
The right kind of sex text
While most dirty texts have all the sensuality of a dry-hump, a study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that there is a way you can make them work. Text her about the last time she initiated sex. Remind her what she did, what she was wearing, how she smelled – and how much you loved it all. The study found that approving of her advances in this way increases the chances of a repeat performance the next time you see her.
Catch her post-shower
“While no woman wants to be seduced while she’s loading the dishwasher, don’t underestimate the impact of the element of surprise. If sex has become a bit routine lately, grab her when she’s coming out of the shower. Pin her to the wall and kiss her like you can’t contain yourself. A surprise quickie always leaves a girl wanting more.”
Try some handy work
“Seventy-five percent of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm. Although sex with her on top is good because it lets her control how she rubs against you, it’s actually more effective to use any position plus your hands.”
Ask your partner to lie face-down, then enter her from behind. Now slip your hand underneath her for extra stimulation. Satisfaction, we assure you, is guaranteed.
Make her see herself differently
Kiss her neck while she’s standing in front of a mirror and undress her slowly. Research from McGill University found that women respond to sexual imagery in the exact way men do. Watching herself will turn her on even more – this is, naturally, better than anything on YouPorn.
Seduce her with music
Play tracks with explicit lyrics, such as S&M by Rihanna. Research published by the American Psychological Association found that such music makes her more attuned to your sex appeal. (Note: this technique may lack subtlety on a first date.)
Leave her a reminder
If the sex has become predictable, spray your bedsheets with the aftershave you wore when you first started dating to subconsciously remind her of your early hedonism. Research in the journal Cognition and Emotion found that smells trigger more vivid and evocative memories – ones she’ll want to recreate.
Rethink the g-‘spot’
“It’s hardly a spot. Instead, stimulate the whole area.” Curl your hand into a ‘C’ shape, with your thumb at the bottom, and use that to enter, says sex coach Uta Demontis. Once inside, apply pressure for 1-2sec, then release, and repeat in a rocking motion. Unlike the clitoris, which prefers rubbing, the G-spot likes direct pressure.
Ask once if she’s enjoying it
Once. “Any more and you sound insecure.”
Use the side of your tongue
“Or the underside, during oral sex: this is more stimulating.”
Follow the rule of 10
Thankfully, we’re not talking inches here ├óΓé¼ΓÇ£ it’s about maximising your impact. The first 1-2cm of her vagina are the most sensitive. Give them your full attention with nine shallow thrusts, followed by one deep thrust.
It takes two
Sex researchers found that over half of women have told their partners to stop manual or oral stimulation because it was taking too long. To speed up proceedings, use your middle and index fingers inside her, while alternating between your thumb and tongue on her clitoris.
Sleep face-down
And encourage her to as well. A study in the journal Dreaming found that people who sleep stomach-down with their arms above their heads are more likely to have sexual dreams – increasing your chance of being woken up for a 3am encore.
Think beyond the thrust
On average, men thrust for about 3-7min before it’s game over. However, research shows this isn’t enough time to arouse most women. Stretch out your performance with clever positioning: “Thrust towards her G-spot. Press your body down, not towards her. The motion squeezes your urethra, which helps to delay ejaculation.”
Cover all angles
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Focus your attention
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Mix it up
Research conducted by Indiana University found that mixing four or five different sex acts into one session dramatically increases her chance of reaching orgasm. Start with dirty talk, before stimulating her orally and manually. Use at least one position that involves full eye contact and one with clitoral stimulation, say Demontis. Make the missionary position more interesting by asking her to bring her legs together after you’ve entered to increase friction. No chafing, we promise.
Wow.
Is it hot in here or… well, at least you have a whole new playbook of things to try! LOLz!
Remember, sex isn’t a race. It takes a lot of thoughtfulness to become a respected and desired lover!
We believe in you though!
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